can only be watched in Germany, Switzerland and Austria, like others don't speak the language could take my laptop since I'm about 5km from the border but that's rediculousCanSol, thank you, the case was quite new to me. To me it supports the reincarnation idea. How else would you explain that one monozygotic female twin feels male ? Most likely same nature, same nurture.
here´s the link to the documentary (in german, on 3Sat):
http://www.3sat.de/mediathek/?mode=play&obj=78256
Deep down, I'm not sure medical transition is right for me. I'm not sure I can live a life where I'm always wondering how folks perceive me. I can't ever be a biological man. I can't ever be that guy. I am a biological woman, who has birthed three kids for Pete's sake. Being 5 ft 3, and a petite little bodied thing I'm never gonna be a strapping 6 ft Green Beret... and actually, maybe that's the point.
The video I posted are two folks who identify as non-binary. I thought the movie was interesting because they are moving towards accepting themselves. I've seen that in another video they described how, after transitioning, they realised that in living fully as their gender identities they had actually taken on all the associated gender expectations of the reverse. They both said they no longer wish to be seen as male, or female. But did they have to transition to see that? Could that acceptance be attained prior to medical intervention? I can't talk for anyone else. Everyone has to find their own pathway...
You would think at twenty-eight it would be a whole lot clearer for someone like me!
I just wanted to commiserate with you for a moment; I have the same exact and opposite issue: I am a strapping 5'10" guy who lugged a rifle through the desert. I am never going to be the cute, dance mom I want to be or know I am in my heart. When I was younger, I had that body, but it didn't last long and I've often thought the same thing as you.. maybe that's the point.
Both my last two lives (male then female) were petite. Maybe because now hormones and surgery are a viable option, I conspired against myself to take the option off the table because there's something I need to do or learn in this life.
I know it's centered around my wife though. My body now is almost exactly the same as it was when I was my great grandfather and I was married to her then too. I think she's trying between two lives to overcome her issues and I'm playing my part. I wouldn't be able to do that if I were female or transitioned.
Did you ever read Michael Newton's journey of souls? There's a case study in it that reminds me a lot of you. There was a woman who kept having issues in her life and she ended up learning that her past life was a man named Jeff who lived in the 1800's. He sounds like how you describe Terry; except he had a long mustache he enjoyed twirling the ends of. Her current life was that of a delicate business woman and she couldn't get the hang of being vulnerable and female. to bring balance to her natural male energy.
It's worth a read if you haven't read it. It's a good book.
No worries - even at thirty-nine to some (me) it´s not that clear :-D
You know I hope you find a suitable solution for yourself!
It is difficult for sure. I wrote somewhere that transition wouldn´t make me happier but in reality, I don´t know, I doubt that. I´m someone who avoids looking into the mirror and who doesn´t use the bath tub. I wanted to force myself to accept my body and denied it all for a very long time. And it´s not about me thinking I wouldn´t look good enough. I do. ;-) It´s obvious that transition would make me personally happier if it wasn´t for the circumstances - kids & family.
BTW my height would be OK too 5ft8. ;-)
But of course none of us can continue a previous lifetime as long as you´re not the highlander :-D
Wow, that's an interesting experience. You're saying he saw his future-life self comforting him? Was this do you think as a result of your own activities in this life, that is did you actively participate in being there in that vision, or was it only something you understood as a bystander, a spectator in that scene?I’ve often wondered if Terry felt me deep down in his heart. In fact, it might sound a bit strange, but I had a few odd memories come to me once out of the blue. In one of them Terry was suffering terribly as a POW to the point he had regular hallucinations. In one of those hallucinations he saw me (when I had long blonde hair) and it seemed like me (future me then, but present me now) was consoling him in his suffering. He didn’t know what to think of it. I think maybe he thought I was an angel or something because that worked within his belief framework of being bought up Catholic.
Wow, that's an interesting experience. You're saying he saw his future-life self comforting him? Was this do you think as a result of your own activities in this life, that is did you actively participate in being there in that vision, or was it only something you understood as a bystander, a spectator in that scene?
I understand the practical reasons for short hair. But long hair for men has been a norm during many historical times, and today it is still the norm for some men to wear their hair long. However this does not relate directly to gender, only to preference. In some it may be a rebellious act, in others one of conformity, in others it is simply how they are. Still, I do understand that expectations in general are that females are well-presented while men may be unkempt. In this respect, a man with longer hair may continue to be unkempt - perhaps, though not necessarily.
It would be very interesting to gather a body of different peoples (trans people and non trans?) experiences of gender dysphoria w/ past life memories and see how they compare and the impact on the current life.
Objectives: This study examines childhood gender nonconformity (GNC) in conjunction with the phenomenon in which young children describe memories of a purported previous life. Methods: In a case-control study of 469 children reporting past-life memories, we used logistic regression to examine predictors of GNC, measured by documented gender nonconforming behaviors. Results: Children who remembered a life involving a different natal sex were much more likely to exhibit GNC than children who remembered a same-sex life. Conclusions: After exploring potential explanations, we conclude that past-life memories represent a novel factor that may be associated with the development of GNC.
I don't know if this has been posted already somewhere in the forum, but Dr. Jim Tucker has recently published a scientific study about past life memories and children with gender dysphoria: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/19317611.2018.1523266
And regarding trans activism, I am an involuntary witness of some feminist posts in my Facebook, and I often see how they lack an important piece of judgment to determine the origin of gender dysphoria and how it really can affect some people. Unfortunately, it seems many keep seeing it as a mere whim rather than a real identification with the other sex, and they often talk of gender identity and sexual orientation as if they were the same. I've often wished to show them Tucker's study, but they would probably dismiss it and label me as insane...
Jaako had an unusual personality in that he enjoyed hobbies typically enjoyed by women. Though he liked male activities such as playing ice hockey, hunting and driving cars, he also enjoyed playing with dolls. Jaako liked to crochet, sew tablecloths and he was attracted to women’s clothing, which he would purchase for Iris.
Though Jaako was tall and thin, Iris noted that he tended to move in a feminine way. Despite these mannerisms and though he believed in reincarnation, Jaako never expressed a desire to be a woman.
Ian Stevenson noted that in 90 percent of his validated children's reincarnation cases, gender stays the same from one lifetime to another, which infers that a particular soul has a preferred gender. As we see, Jaako will reincarnate as a woman and it may be that his feminine traits reflect his soul's preference for female incarnations. It may also be that Jaako is soul who prefers to incarnate as male and female in an alternating fashion, thus experiencing the qualities of both sexes...
...As a child, Taru demonstrated a preference for play that is typical for boys. She played with toy soldiers and while doing so, she would wear a helmet and carry a toy gun. She asked her parents to buy her a real gun and a hockey stick, and she would pretend to drive a car. Recall that Jaako enjoyed hunting, playing hockey and driving cars.
Taru had a strong preference for boy’s clothing, in contrast to her stepsisters, who only liked feminine clothes. In playing with other children, she would never take the role of a girl, rather, she would insist, “I am a boy.” (8)
As an adult, Taru continued to demonstrate masculine dress by always wearing pants and never wearing make up.
Reincarnation & Gender Identity Problems in Two Lifetimes
Taru's identification with the male gender appears to reflect her prior incarnation as Jaako, who conversely demonstrated feminine traits. This case shows how reincarnation can explain gender identity problems.