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Not having anyone on the other side to serve as a guide is frightening

My father committed suicide by self-immolation in 1996 after a disturbed life, so I am quite certain that he is probably trapped on Earth still, or has just moved on. He will not likely be there to ease the transition.

My paternal great-grandfather died in 2007, so he might still be in the spiritual world, but we never had the ability to be close. My great-grandmother passed on two years ago, but I squandered her inheritance and I am afraid she will not help me.

I have... no guides. And I botched this existence and am not in a position to realize what I was belatedly meant to do.
 
My father committed suicide by self-immolation in 1996 after a disturbed life, so I am quite certain that he is probably trapped on Earth still, or has just moved on. He will not likely be there to ease the transition.

My paternal great-grandfather died in 2007, so he might still be in the spiritual world, but we never had the ability to be close. My great-grandmother passed on two years ago, but I squandered her inheritance and I am afraid she will not help me.

I have... no guides. And I botched this existence and am not in a position to realize what I was belatedly meant to do.
WantToTryAgan,

Sorry to hear about your Father. Please take heart that he is ok on the other side. Suicide is a hard topic for most to talk about. However during our many lifetimes on earth we all have to experience this way of existing the planet at some point. The best way I can describe it is from soul's point of view it is the hard collage exam we don't want to take so we save it for last. We all have exit points that are built into your life plan and sometimes suicide is one of them. However it is only used as a exit point should the soul takes on way too much karma for it to handle. So this is rarely used. However should it be use the soul will exit the physical plane in this way. However what ever the reason for the suicide the soul will have to deal with the issue on the other side of the veil. Usually the first thing the soul experiences is regret and there is a lot of emotional pain involved in the process although not always. Some are relieved to escape the physical at least for awhile. Shortly after the soul is some what earth bound on the lower astral. Angeles and astral helpers come to aid the soul in crossing over into the light so they can transcend into the middle astral and begin their inner healing and life review to see what went wrong. In time the soul will be given another chance to come back here and pick up where they left off. So I'm sure your dad is no longer earth bound anymore and is somewhere on the middle astral by now. When he decides to come back will be up to him. However he will need to spend time on the other side before returning once again.

This holds true for your grandfather/grandmother has they need to live out their heaven life on various levels of the astral and mental worlds before deciding to come back again should they need further spiritual growth and maturity. I seriously don't think you botched anything. You have guides if you choose to ask for help. Which is why you need to pay attention to your dreams as this is the usual way those that exist in the higher dimensions contact us as while we sleep we are usually out of body and are on their turf in a manner of speaking.

Hope this helps some.

Peace and love you always.

P.
 
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I know that I have lost the ability to accomplish what I came here to do. Or, rather, I set out to do it with very limited resources - help a drug addict recover - and it became very destructive and highly toxic very quickly. I no longer have the resources to fix myself to even a minimal level. And I am only belatedly learning these lessons, due to years of social isolation and repeated failures to integrate.

I'm probably going to CTB as soon as I can. But it genuinely does not feel as if I have a soul group. If I start that process of life review now, conscious of my need to CTB, can I bypass some of the period in the lower/middle astral? I am anxious to return, even if in a comparable situation, because I think I have learned the lessons necessary to getting it right only in retrospect.
 
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I have... no guides. And I botched this existence and am not in a position to realize what I was belatedly meant to do.

Most of us haven't met them yet but that doesn't mean that they don't exist. The ones that are with you, were there from the beginning of your life (and even before). Spirits like helping people (who ask for help) so don't worry about not having one or more spirit guides. They are there and there are so many, there is no shortage of them.

And about not knowing what you're meant to do is also very relatable to so many of us. In fact, I also am not sure about that. Sometimes I am able to help people, sometimes I mess up, sometimes I just enjoy being alive. Most of the time, I am just satisfied by just living my life, feeling that is reasons enough for me. I am not the type that will rescue the World or something like that. So I try to live life as it is supposed to be lived: peaceful, creative and in harmony with people and Nature.
 
Honestly I've never seen, heard or sensed the presence of my guides so I can even say I don't think I have any. But when I started to delve into spiritualism, I read it somewhere that guides can communicate with you in odd ways, especially through syncronicity. When I finally turned my interest to spiritualism and past life research, I got flooded by strange coincidences every day, for weeks. They led me to past life memory scenes, or on other days, the scenes led me to new informations, and in the meantime I got hints in my everyday life. People around me acted like NPCs who just wanted to say a key word or sentence to help me unfold a certain past life. These can look so organized/planned that I don't think it is possible without some "helping hands" from an other plane. Those who believe in god/gods may say that it's God who does all these, but it's not my personal belief.

Before I got the feeling that I want to find out who I was in a previous life, my life went nowhere. I felt I stucked and I didn't get the reason behind my existence. I wasn't constantly depressed, but I wouldn't have minded accidentally being hit by a falling piano on the street.
Many people think that being reborn again and again is a punishment, but I never had this thought in my head, even if it's not guaranteed that I'll have some super fun lives after this one. My completely flat life went through many good changes since I became more spiritual, It's like looking at life events from "above". Now I have the ability to avoid clinging on bad events cluelessly, so I can try to understand their meaning and purpose in my life.
My father whose father died when he was a teen, was unable to overcome the loss in his entire life. In fact, it's getting worse for him, even though his father died in the 1960s. My father is absolutely not spiritual and religious, so he's walking on a slippery ground, not finding an answer to any of his negative life events. It's sad, because I think he's just working with some bad Karma (if Karma exists, if not, then his soul just chose this heavy lifepath to grow). Once I told him that his life wouldn't have turned out to be the same without the losses and bad life events he had. They all shaped him, but he just doesn't get what I try to say.
 
Yes you do have guides! It’s possible you just haven’t met them yet or know them.. :)

I wrote a post about spirit guides here: http://reincarnationforum.com/posts/123386/

I only consciously know of about three maybe four of my guides. I’ve seen others, but haven’t spoken to them or they have only appeared once. No one is here alone, it is not happening thing.

Have you tried asking for some to come forward? A lot of people think that you should talk differently to your guides and I don’t. They are just people without a physical body. They’re still your friends and family. I talk to mine just like I would when or if they were in the physical. I still use ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ too..

Eva x
 
I know that I have lost the ability to accomplish what I came here to do. Or, rather, I set out to do it with very limited resources - help a drug addict recover - and it became very destructive and highly toxic very quickly. I no longer have the resources to fix myself to even a minimal level. And I am only belatedly learning these lessons, due to years of social isolation and repeated failures to integrate.

I'm probably going to CTB as soon as I can. But it genuinely does not feel as if I have a soul group. If I start that process of life review now, conscious of my need to CTB, can I bypass some of the period in the lower/middle astral? I am anxious to return, even if in a comparable situation, because I think I have learned the lessons necessary to getting it right only in retrospect.
Hi, gotta jump in here when I read you feeling like a failure just because you could not safe a drug addict. Many drug addicts are lost. I think you have taken on a responsibility that is not yours. I had someone close for years that I became the tough military too, fixing in and out of rehab, the only one who did, everyone else had split long ago, bleeding for this person emotionally etc, no real sense of where my responsibility began and ended and that person's began. It is not on you that this drug addict failed, it is on them. You are not the failure. It could be you met up and this was predestined and it was predestined to fail, but it is still not on you. You can not save someone that does not for various reasons do the work themselves, you can not take over their strength at all times, and one can not blame them for failing either as it is in many cases too strong. There can be the most beautiful soul in there, underneath the costume of the drug addict and we can all end up there. Sometimes the most destructive thing is when you give your all and more and yet there is failure. To loose despite of this. To just be powerless and had to watch it happen. One of the hardest experience, feelings to have to go through. So please don't beat yourself up about it.
 
I believe we have soulmates that are not with us on this earth, soulmates we don't even know we have that is in heaven.

Best Wishes
Li La
 
I believe we have soulmates that are not with us on this earth, soulmates we don't even know we have that is in heaven.

Best Wishes
Li La

BINGO!! What I have been trying to teach for years, but it seems the ones who are most likely to have this are twin souls/flames. One comes to Earth, while I other remains behind in Spirit and acts as their main Spirit Guide in their lifetime. I have this arrangement for this lifetime with my twin soul. He's in Spirit while I am here.

Eva x
 
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