Why do some of us come back, and others do not?

Good morning everyone,

I've been trying to understand (and failing at that) why certain people do not return with us when we reincarnate. Is it a choice? Are they finished? Do they wish to be with God still? Is it too painful to be here again? I don't really get it.

I mainly ask this question because, lately I've been missing my PL parents terribly, especially my PL mother. I was very, very close to her (this has nothing to do with one of my past lives (Louis-Charles, son of Marie-Antoinette) as I've reunited with my PL mother from that life and we are very close and write to one another often. I speak of another PL which I will not disclose here as I'm reluctant to even speak about it.

I loved my PL father very much, but it was my mother I was very, very close with. We had a very special bond, that I always say "not even death could break" and yet we died together, with all the family and it was brutal and horrific.

I'm reincarnated and still feel the same emotions, angst, sorrow and a lot of other things. I was very young when I died. I have reunited/reconnected with my siblings from that life which is a godsend but with my parents? I have not. I have tried, and have gotten hurt quite a few times, so much so that my siblings are weary of people who claim to be our PL parents. I don't blame them. But they were older then me when we died. I was young and still was under her wing (my mother's).

It doesn't make sense to me, and I've tried to come to terms with it that they could be with God. That they are safe with God. But why would God be so cruel in keeping them from us? Keeping her from me? Why would God do that to us? Why would they not come back and be with us?

I don't want to be raised by them. I don't need to be. I'm 30 years old this time around with a young teenager's unsettled emotions and angst from this particular PL. I've even tried to talk to my PL self or my inner self, and something helped or worked but I know there's more because I wake up feeling so sad. Feeling so... abandoned... if that's the right word. I wake up feeling out of it and of course I function through the day but I really am not functioning. And to compound it further, this is the month in which we all died in that life time. So that doesn't help things at all. It makes it worse.

So, I'm sorry for ranting/venting here. I just don't know what to do. I don't know who to talk to. I wish I could talk to my PL mother and ask her why she isn't here or why she chose not to be here. I cannot in my good conscious reconcile or believe she's with God or that my PL father is with God either. I cannot. I'm stubborn and have my own will but I cannot believe that. I feel like I'd be lying to myself in how I feel.

When I spoke to my inner/PL self, he asked me about her. He asked where she was. And all I could say is "I don't know." And it's not good enough. I know it isn't. I need to know that they are safe and okay. I need to know that. And I don't know. And that is what pains me the most is not knowing if they are.

Anyways, my apologies for all this drivel and venting. There's a lot going through my mind right now. I wish it would stop. I wish I could move on, but I can't. Every time I try to, I just get reeled back in.

I hope you all have a good day.

Hi 1785,

It is interesting that you would have two such similar lifetimes--and I do mean SIMILAR! (I will not say more than that based on your interest in avoiding the specifics). However, isn't it enough to know that the people you loved are somewhere? You know they did not go out of existence. Nothing says that people have to be on the same plane of existence and place at the same time. But there is much that says that love will draw people back together eventually, even if separated for a time by duty or circumstance. At the moment you and she have different places you need or have chosen to be. The separation is temporary, but it may be that it has its purpose in teaching you and/or her how to be apart. Other than that, I do not know of anything you can do other than pray about the matter and send your love to those you miss.

I wish you the best in dealing with this trial! You will find them again -- somewhere, somewhen!

Cordially,
S&S

The way I feel about it that it is a mistake to make this world out be all there is or is the best choice when there is so much more out there plus some souls have gone through hell much more so than those who have only been happy throughout their lives. Experiences like Stalingrad or the Battle of Berlin are big disincentives for returning and the only reason some even come back isn't for themselves but ultimately the lucky ones were able to move on elsewhere.

Hi TABA & 1785:

Here are some Cayce statements to those that no longer were required to return. They may be of interest:

https://www.edgarcayce.org/about-us/blog/blog-posts/july-reincarnation-unnecessary/

It may be that the people that 1785 longs for have transcended this necessity. Likewise, as TABA has often noted, this is not a bad thing to do so, as this world is definitely not always the best place one could be.

Cordially,
S&S

SeaAndSky said:

Hi 1785,

It is interesting that you would have two such similar lifetimes--and I do mean SIMILAR! (I will not say more than that based on your interest in avoiding the specifics). However, isn't it enough to know that the people you loved are somewhere? You know they did not go out of existence. Nothing says that people have to be on the same plane of existence and place at the same time. But there is much that says that love will draw people back together eventually, even if separated for a time by duty or circumstance. At the moment you and she have different places you need or have chosen to be. The separation is temporary, but it may be that it has its purpose in teaching you and/or her how to be apart. Other than that, I do not know of anything you can do other than pray about the matter and send your love to those you miss.

I wish you the best in dealing with this trial! You will find them again -- somewhere, somewhen!

Cordially,
S&S

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Morning to you SeaandSky,

Thanks for being discreet and respecting my wishes on what I do not want to divulge here. Yes the two life-times I've had (I've had more of course but these two in particular are eerily similar) are, and well... it's the fact of the matter that I do not know where they are. I don't know if they did not go out of existence. I know I'm not 100% versed in Reincarnation and spirituality, etc. So it's hard for me to grasp that my PL mother and father wouldn't return. The young, teenager in me (despite me being a grown man in this life) doesn't grasp the concept. Maybe you are right that at this moment she and I have different places to be/or have chosen to be. It is hard for me to think we are being kept from one another. Thanks for the encouragement <3.

Also, the Edgar Cayce readings are very interesting, and it is an interesting theory. I never really looked much into his readings. But thanks for sharing them.

There and back again said:

The way I feel about it that it is a mistake to make this world out be all there is or is the best choice when there is so much more out there plus some souls have gone through hell much more so than those who have only been happy throughout their lives. Experiences like Stalingrad or the Battle of Berlin are big disincentives for returning and the only reason some even come back isn't for themselves but ultimately the lucky ones were able to move on elsewhere.

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TABA, thanks for taking the time to read my thread and contribute to the discussion. I find everyone's replies and opinions/feelings interesting to read. I agree, this World is definitely not all there is to be in, or the best choice to be back in. I don't understand really why I'm back. I suppose it is to live the life I wasn't given the chance to live. I'm living this life to right karmic wrongs done a long time ago - I know that much about my existence. I agree, most people didn't have happiness throughout their lives. Some just had downright hard challenges to go through every single day. Thanks for responding and giving your thoughts to the discussion. <3

I think we need to consider things in terms of longer timescales. For example, my grandmother, who I remember well, passed away nearly half a century ago. It's possible that after some interval, maybe 100 years ago, she might return to this world. But that does mean for most of our lifetimes we won't be inhabiting this planet together. These are simple practicalities. It's not like on one single date everyone on earth is born simultaneously. People are coming and going all the time. Taking the variable-length between-lives phase into consideration, then we will just be interacting with a sample, one might say a sub-group of all the people we have known over our eternity of existence.

But - and I've recognised this as I get older and more and more of my family and close friends pass on, I've recognised that I'm still in touch with some of them. There isn't any real separation. Unfortunately not everyone will have this in their awareness, it isn't a fault or failing, just the way we are made. Some people I know have experienced a bereavement and are longing for some contact from their loved ones, but it isn't always available. Circumstances are different for each of us.

I sometimes get this urge to find people I used to know (definitely more when I was younger) but somehow I can trust that it's okay even if we don't see each other for a long time. Our lives take different paths, and when it's important we'll reunite in some other place and time, if not right now. I mostly think of those people on a positive note: "Oh, what would such and such say if they could see me now, they would be so happy for me", "Such and such would find this so deliciously ironic", "Oh, that person would have wanted to experience this, I hope they get to do that", "I understand that person so much better after this experience, I wish I could share that with them now", "Oh, how they would laugh if they could see this", and so on. Sometimes it's bittersweet, but I don't seem to have a need to be too hung up on anyone, as in I'm not going to fall apart if I can't have them with me right now. Sometimes I really wish I could talk to someone, but at the same time I have peace with it, because I feel like the opportunity will come some other time. Even if there are unresolved issues, I don't have any doubt that at some point in time those people will be at peace about their feelings. Someday. I can always wait for someday, because so many of those "somedays" have happened to me.

Hello -

Your question is very interesting and I'm sure a lot of people question the same thing. To my understanding it's this. I believe that some people come back because their lives were taken from them too rapidly. Either a car accident, murder, or etc. They never finished fulfilling their purpose here on earth. It wasn't their time to die, basically.

I'm living proof of reincarnation. My aunt passed away in a horrific car accident in 1985. Two years later I was born. My mother who was her sister started to notice quickly the resemblance in communication, body language and even more proof, scars. I was born with the same scars she died with. I live each day to make sure I fulfill my purpose on this earth because I strongly believe that's the reason I came back.

Thank you for taking the time to read my answer. I hope it helps. Please feel free to reach out to me for any questions or more information.

Have a blessed day,
Brooke