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How to tell my mother about my reincarnation and my painful past life?

Dipanwita Saha

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3 years ago, I told my mother about my reincarnation and tried very hard to explain what I feel or why I am in so much pain, why I cannot adjust in this environment.. I want to find my real parents, my past life birth place, my past life love, my enemy who tortured and rape me everyday with as cruelty as possible.. about my death... but my present life mother failed to understand.. she thought I have mental issues or any kind of ghost stuff is happening with me and she gave me solutions with superstitions (Hindu Culture).. even she told other people also. They told my mother I am a crazy mental patient and she was terrified with all this.

I was 17, I had no idea how to handle all this... so I had to lie to stop her from what was she doing. I told her that I was wrong.. there is nothing true in my story, I was overthinking and everything is okay. nothing serious.

But I wasn't wrong ever.. I think I get so many proofs now.. I dreamed about my past life living place, temple, how I looked like (my face) etc.. I remember these things now.. but I cannot prove it... because I think my past life was minimum 900 to 1000 years ago... I find out some sculpture, hills, places and 1000 years old temple which I exactly dreamed like... I remember my enemy's every single torture.. though now I know how he looked like ( his eyes and hair, skin color) it is becoming more and more painful for me day by day than ever was but still I cannot prove anything..

I am afraid if I tell anything to my mother about this she cannot handle it... she is too weak to listen this things and afraid too... but she is the only one in my family now, I have no one that I can share with.. If she understands maybe she can help me to find everything or atleast I can feel peace... except this things she is like my best friend... I don't know what I should do.. I always feel like I am cheating to my mother and every people around me.. I even don't know I can marry anyone or not.. I can't be happy with anyone... in this 20 years of my life I still cannot adjust with other people, I was 2 or 3 years old kid from then I could feel I am different from others.. I always think this is not my place, not my world, not my people, not my parents.. there is nothing for me.. this life is just punishing me every second.. I am suffering.. I cry every night but no one can listen to me, there is no one I can talk and share my feelings with.. I miss my love, my husband. I was 12 years old too young when I first remember about my rapes clearly.. I could feel how rape feels like that pain... I knew I was pregnant.. I can feel how a pregnant woman feels like... now I am dying every minutes ever seconds, 1 minutes = 1 death for me.

Help me, What I should do? How can I tell my mother about everything? How will she able to understand me?
 
I’m so sorry about your situation! I can sort of relate, as I tried to tell my mother, my great confidant as a young teen, and didn’t quite get the reaction I was expecting.
Do you really *need* to tell her? If she took the steps to tell other people that you’re “crazy”, maybe she isn’t the best person to talk to in this situation. I am guessing you really need to be supported and heard, though...have you thought about blogging your experiences and/or just sharing here? Sometimes it’s easier to discuss with like-minded strangers than it is force it on someone who just isn’t receptive.
 
I’m so sorry about your situation! I can sort of relate, as I tried to tell my mother, my great confidant as a young teen, and didn’t quite get the reaction I was expecting.
Do you really *need* to tell her? If she took the steps to tell other people that you’re “crazy”, maybe she isn’t the best person to talk to in this situation. I am guessing you really need to be supported and heard, though...have you thought about blogging your experiences and/or just sharing here? Sometimes it’s easier to discuss with like-minded strangers than it is force it on someone who just isn’t receptive.
She didn't tell anyone that I am crazy.. She wanted to know what's happening with me that's why she told others to get some advice from them about my situation.. but it went wrong... I went to a psychiatrist he also told mom I have mental issues and I need to admit in mental hospital... so she (my mother) was afraid.. I didn't know 3 years ago that I should talk to parapsychologist not psychiatrist.. so I choose wrong doctor.. but now I am afraid that if I tell any doctor they can prove me as *psycho*. Also I cannot trust anyone even any doctors.
 
Dipanwita Saha,

Sorry to hear about the problems you are going thru in the present in dealing with your memories of your PL. The only advise I can give you is that it is important to a degree to remember about our PL however don't get too attached to them. Because as soul we all live in the eternal presence of the now. From souls point of view there is no past, nor no future only the now. And because of this very fact soul already lives in eternity. The only important lifetime to be concern with is the present one. For the past is the past. You can't change that because your PL was a state of consciousness you once had as soul. However now you are living a new lifetime with a new state of consciousness because as soul you have grown and evolved. You can learn from your PL and then apply that to what you are experiencing in the present which allows you to go forward with your life. As far as your mother is concerned she might not be ready in soul consciousness to handle your PL little along her own. So it's best to leave her as she is and love and respect her just as she is for now. In doing so you give her a gift of unconditional love which we are all apart of as spirit. This gives her the freedom of learning her lessons when she is ready. And when she is ready she will ask.

As for you know that those that you had loved in PLs may be with you now or are not incarnated at the moment but are still apart of your life from the other side. For not even death can break that bond. So in this life try to surround yourself of those with like mind. Being here in the forum is a good start. In time you will draw to you souls of like mind and heart. In the meantime enjoy your life you are living now and be thankful you know that you are eternal as soul. There are a lot of people that go from cradle to grave not knowing who they really are. And what you have learn so far is a gift although at present it might not seem that way to you. However you will grow from this experience and be a better soul for it. It is one of the reason we are all here in the first place. We come into the physical world so that the soul may know itself by its own experiences.

Peace and love to you my dear....

P.[/QUOTE]
 
I told my mother about her PL son once and showed her a photograph of him. The result from her: “I don’t understand!! I don’t want to know!!” Later, I realised she was being subconsciously triggered.

Telling a spiritually asleep person about past lives is like pointing a pistol in their face. They can’t handle it and I don’t advise doing it.

Eva x
 
I told my mother about her PL son once and showed her a photograph of him. The result from her: “I don’t understand!! I don’t want to know!!” Later, I realised she was being subconsciously triggered.

Telling a spiritually asleep person about past lives is like pointing a pistol in their face. They can’t handle it and I don’t advise doing it.

Eva x
Eva, OH!! How true this is. Which is why in general nature puts a block on the conscious mind of the present personality being lived out of these other lifetimes. Only when the soul has developed enough stamina and spiritual maturity to handle such information will the veil of memories be lifted. Usually at first it's always a total shock to the lower ego that the soul has lived before and is in fact eternal by nature. When this happens the veil of Maya of this world is broken. After that this is when true spiritual unfoldment can really take place. Of course on the flip side of this the karma from these past lives start speeding up now that the conscious mind is aware. Before this our karma was being played out in the background unnoticed. Which is why the present personality does not understand why certain things happen to one during the course of one's lifetime.

Good call my dear...

Love and peace.

P.
 
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I offhandedly mentioned it to my mother. I have had dreams since I was a young child, and when I found out more about it and past lives, I had said something. I got laughs and the old 'you're crazy' look. So I haven't mentioned it to her anymore. My grandmother, however, does believe in such things. She found my experiences interesting, we even went to a metaphysical fiar together.

I'm very careful about who I tell, as I know I was a man in my past life, my husband doesn't seem to take it well. I've stopped talking about it. I keep a dream journal and if something odd happens, I talk to my friend. If she believes it or not, she's there and doesn't hold anything against me.
 
I offhandedly mentioned it to my mother. I have had dreams since I was a young child, and when I found out more about it and past lives, I had said something. I got laughs and the old 'you're crazy' look. So I haven't mentioned it to her anymore. My grandmother, however, does believe in such things. She found my experiences interesting, we even went to a metaphysical fiar together.

I'm very careful about who I tell, as I know I was a man in my past life, my husband doesn't seem to take it well. I've stopped talking about it. I keep a dream journal and if something odd happens, I talk to my friend. If she believes it or not, she's there and doesn't hold anything against me.


TruroNE, You can tell your husband that soul in it's natural state in the higher dimensions has no gender. We are for lack of a better word gender neutral having both male and female polarities of consciousness in perfect balance. We only experiences gender when we incarnate into the physical world. The reason for this is because in the physical world everything here is about duality as everything in the 3rd dimension has its opposite. Good and bad, dark and light, night, day, male, female ect...

Most of us spend time usually as one gender for several lifetimes, however there comes a time when we have to experience the other side of the coin so that we can balance out our experiences in the worlds of duality. This gives soul a different references point and learning experiences that can only be learned being the other gender for a few lifetimes. Which is a good thing because it smooths out the ruff edges and we become more well rounded in our soul essences.

I have a theory that during the transition lifetime between one gender to another soul will experience homosexuality for a few lifetimes. This is a overlay of the astral influences on a unconscious level of the personality from the last lifetime filtering thru into the body of the opposite gender in the new lifetime. This allows soul to experience both states of consciousness while in one incarnation. This tends to be more of a astral consciousness then a physical one which is why for many it may seem weird or strange on the surface at first. But from a soul perspective it's just another state of consciousness that the soul needs to experiences on it's way towards enlightenment. So it does not matter who you love, what matters is you love.

love and peace always.

P.
 
3 years ago, I told my mother about my reincarnation and tried very hard to explain what I feel or why I am in so much pain, why I cannot adjust in this environment.. I want to find my real parents, my past life birth place, my past life love, my enemy who tortured and rape me everyday with as cruelty as possible.. about my death... but my present life mother failed to understand.. she thought I have mental issues or any kind of ghost stuff is happening with me and she gave me solutions with superstitions (Hindu Culture).. even she told other people also. They told my mother I am a crazy mental patient and she was terrified with all this.

I was 17, I had no idea how to handle all this... so I had to lie to stop her from what was she doing. I told her that I was wrong.. there is nothing true in my story, I was overthinking and everything is okay. nothing serious.

But I wasn't wrong ever.. I think I get so many proofs now.. I dreamed about my past life living place, temple, how I looked like (my face) etc.. I remember these things now.. but I cannot prove it... because I think my past life was minimum 900 to 1000 years ago... I find out some sculpture, hills, places and 1000 years old temple which I exactly dreamed like... I remember my enemy's every single torture.. though now I know how he looked like ( his eyes and hair, skin color) it is becoming more and more painful for me day by day than ever was but still I cannot prove anything..

I am afraid if I tell anything to my mother about this she cannot handle it... she is too weak to listen this things and afraid too... but she is the only one in my family now, I have no one that I can share with.. If she understands maybe she can help me to find everything or atleast I can feel peace... except this things she is like my best friend... I don't know what I should do.. I always feel like I am cheating to my mother and every people around me.. I even don't know I can marry anyone or not.. I can't be happy with anyone... in this 20 years of my life I still cannot adjust with other people, I was 2 or 3 years old kid from then I could feel I am different from others.. I always think this is not my place, not my world, not my people, not my parents.. there is nothing for me.. this life is just punishing me every second.. I am suffering.. I cry every night but no one can listen to me, there is no one I can talk and share my feelings with.. I miss my love, my husband. I was 12 years old too young when I first remember about my rapes clearly.. I could feel how rape feels like that pain... I knew I was pregnant.. I can feel how a pregnant woman feels like... now I am dying every minutes ever seconds, 1 minutes = 1 death for me.

Help me, What I should do? How can I tell my mother about everything? How will she able to understand me?
I know my reply is late but if its of any help....

If there is no one to listen to you, at least try writing it in diary like a witness so you get that energy flowing in expression and it is not suppressed. emotions are powerful energy. Suppressing them leads to all kinds of ailments & blockages.

What you really need here is a safe space to be heard. That energy of the woman you were 1000 years ago, wants to be heard, wants to be just heard, so write her heart out in a private diary so you can fully express without worrying about anyone else's response to it.

Once the energy feels seen,heard, understood, in all its anguish and pain, it calms down a bit and you can do further work like finding a regression therapy and trusting that God/Universe sends you further help.

Your mom may not be in a position to hear you and that's ok because she is a human being too and she is doing her best. So forgive her for not being able to hear you right now, she might when the time is right.
 
When I was a teenager and started having dreams that later would come true I made the mistake of telling everyone. They would tell me it was all coincidence and even worse that I'm autistic. I had to learn the hard way not to let others know about things like psychic ability and past lives. They will just think you are mental and stupid sadly. I would suggest stick to online groups like this website. Also where do live in a rural area or big city. Not sure about your country but I know here in my country the cities are more diverse and you're more likely to meet someone who gets you than in your small towns which is part of the reason I'm more of a city person. Small towns have their charms though. However, I was eventually glad when I moved from small town to the city. When I finally moved to the city I made friends with some of the people in the neighborhood that were about my age and they have been the best friends I have ever had. My one friend even got me into a group on Facebook with like minded people and it has been helping my self esteem some to finally have people that understand me. I would suggest social media to a point as you can meet some nice people but there can also be a lot of very mean people on social media. I would suggest sticking with small online groups that arent very active and not getting too addicted to social media as too much can make you depressed.
 
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