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Remembering and forgetting

glia21

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Dear all,
I've mentioned this before but not in great detail. My daughter, born november 2016, told me when about 18 to 20 months old that her older sister (7 years older than her) used to have an accident when she was little, she hurt her leg, and she herself was grown up and a man and drove her to a docter. She said she drove a car. Of course she wasn't speaking fluently at that age but she made herself clear, had a kind of stare, looking ahead, fully concentrated. She repeated the story a couple of times for about 10 months or more and also made remarks to her sister as if she ought to know how bad it was, how much she had hurt her leg and how worried she was. Her sister listened and laughed it away, making fun of it. That made her stop talking about it I guess. Until today she makes remarks to her sister as if she was older than her, trying to comfort her, and also explaining all kinds of things when she is asking something and it makes her mad, saying "stop talking like that!". And the little one saying " I tell you over and over again and you never listen!" It is hilarious at times. But interestingly, she quit remembering. She said it was a joke when I asked her about it. Since she is 3 y old she seems not to recall anything directly. Only the way she approaches her sister shows that there is something in the past. Could I have mistaken the story when she was that little? I don't think so. She wanted me to know, but had little vocabulary. But forgetting everything at age 3?
I'm happy about any comments.
Not sure what to think about this myself.
 
She is still so young, write it down and save it for her. Snippets of memory come and go and in the future they both might thank you. It also sounds like the blank stare was a slip into another (higher) realm of consciousness - the root of her memory. Take notes - even the smallest things sometimes turn out to be key. Be patient - it can take years for the pieces to come together. Also remember - there may be a need (healing) that needs to happen for her and that too may take time. Not surprising she has "forgotten", my son doesn't remember all the things he told me over the years. He's 35 now, but forgot when he was about 6-7. Perhaps when the time is right, she will remember more. Thank you for sharing your daughters experiences.
 
Deborah, thank you! I was only surprised that she quit talking about it so soon, I would have expected (hoped) to get more information, since most kids seem to remember until they are about 6-7 years old.
 
I think she has not remembered it anymore, if you get the chance you can video her saying important memories so she can recall if she can watch it in the future. oops, am I late for this? Hope it helps.
 
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