My Daughters "gift", sometimes scares me

Hi! I'm new here..

I have been wanting to find a site like this for sometime now, I'm glad I found it!

My oldest daughter is 11 yrs old. She has always been an "old-soul" very smart and caring for basically everything. She has always seem to have these things running around in her head.
over the years there have been alot of things that comes out of her mouth that she could not possibly know. She has described many things that she could not possibly know. And there have been several times that she knows when something bad is going to happen. At first I thought it was over reaction of her own fears. But I soon found out that it wasn't she was right!

My Grand mother also had this gift. Infact the day she died, she knew it I remember my grandmother comming to visit me and for the "first" time in my life she told me she loved me and she was proud of me. That day she said "I hear death bells ringing", and I said "granny, stop that". Well the next day we got a call and my grandmother passed in her sleep (she was healthy with no real medical problems) that shut me up. My mom told me many times of the family "gift". Well I think it skipped me, but Alexis got that "gift" or is it??

One night she said she was visited by a lady with gray hair, glasses and a long pinkish night gown. She said this did not scare her, but she wanted to know who this person was. She described features of this person that there was no way she could have know,,this person she was seeing was my grand mother. She was buried in her long pink night gown!! I was not close to my (great grandmother) she was always very mean to me. I did not have "any" pictures of her, there was no way Alexis would know. She said she came around a few nights in a row.

There was another time a few years ago she was at my EX mother-in-law house, and I was talking to her on the phone. She casually mentioned that the dog scared her last night because he kept barking at the front door. she looked out the window and saw a tall man, with a long coat on and a big hat (like top hat?)..then she started talking about something else. I asked my mother in law, was there anyone out side last night that kept wakeing lexi up? She said she did not know what lexi was talking about! They live very far in the country, nothing around for miles. A couple of weeks later I got a call from Linda and she said she was visiting her aunt, and she came across some pictures of one of her great uncles. She said she went pale, and speechless when she saw this picture, she said it was exactly what lexi describe to her!! She then told me that she did not know this uncle , he had lived and worked on the family farm in the late 1800's early 1900's.

Lexi told mema (llinda ,grandma) that she was scared of leaving me (this was at a time where she "would not" leave my side) she said she was afriad that something would happen to my brain...what??? She said she saw me (future of past?) having something bad happen to me and that would be my death!!
This was when she was about 5 yrs. old. Now, not many 5 yr old know and worry about these things to the point of NOT letting me out of her sight for quiet some time...

Do you think that somehow she has seen "MY" past life, or is she seeing my future??? Oh, by the way my NaNa passed away 2 months ago, lexi said that day (b4 I knew) that something really bad was going to happen that day, she did not want to go to school, and she was very upset, I finally said for her to stop messing around she was going to school!! That night I got a call from my mom and she said that NaNa had passed in her sleep!!

What is going on here??Does she have more than "one special gift"?? At what point do I try to encourage her and assure her that she has my support? My husband is totally against encouraging her. He thinks I am "feed" her "imagination"..That hurts her feelings, and now she really does not want to talk about things because she say's we do not believe her!

Thank's for listening, and sorry I rambled on,
va~kim

When I was a kid the prevailing notion was that kids who tried to write with their left hand needed to be forced to write with their right hand. Just like that misguided idea, I believe it's always a mistake to try to change a kid into something different rather than recognizing and fully accepting each precious kid for what he or she is.

You child has these gifts for a reason. I don't think it's anyone's place to either encourage or discourage her in those gifts. Rather I believe her gifts should be acknowledged and accepted just as they are, and let her own wisdom guide her own choices as to how they should or should not be developed. In other words, be supportive, but not pushy in either direction.

Anyway, that's my own humble opinion, for what it's worth.

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I agree with Fiziwig that your child has this gift for a reason. To deny your child's gifts is the same as denying who your child is, because the gift is a part of her and who she is. Even though it might be easier to chalk it up to your daughter's imagination and ignore or discourage it, that's not going to help your daughter and it's not going to make the gift go away.

I hate to hear she's not telling you anything anymore. Maybe you should try an open discussion with your daughter, letting her know that you believe her, but that her gift sometimes scares you. Maybe your husband's reaction is also due to fear, or lack of belief in those type of gifts. Be honest with her about that too.(You know the old saying about honesty being the best policy). Let her know it's a gift you don't have and don't fully understand. Maybe it scares her sometimes too. Once you reopen the line of communication, you don't have to encourage her, or bring up that subject again. Just let her know she doesn't have to edit what she tells you and that you'll be there for her and listen to her when she needs you, no matter whether the topic is her gift or what happened in school that day. You might find that the more you know and understand her, the less often her gift scares you and the more you see it as just a natural part of your daughter. In any case, your relationship with your daughter is too important to let her gift create a rift or lack of communication between you.

Okay, I'll step off my soap box now and hope I didn't step over any line or offend you in any way. For what it's worth, I think your daughter has a wonderful gift that will serve her well.

I can't tell you how happy it makes me to hear about your problem! Don't think that I'm a loony, but I'm so happy that there's someone out there with, I think the same problem than me. Except for the fact that it didn't skip me. I didn't forsee the future, but I always thought I was crazy, because I saw people that no-one else saw. Wen I noticed that no-one could see them, I quickly stopped to talk about them. That didn't mean I didn't see them no more! When I grew older I learned to block them out. But now I have a little girl (she's 3), and I think she has it to. And I don't know how to guide her, or how to explain it to her. I only know that I can't block them, and she sometimes get scared of them. And I must say ,sometimes I'm scared to! Because I really don't know what to do. And how do you begin to explain to a 3-year old?

Remembering a past life

When our daughter was 3,My wife and I were driving along street.My daughter was in the back seat.The cars were moving very slowley.Then we saw this older woman walking with a cane.Our daughter said,mommy Do you see that woman walking there.My wife said yes why do you ask.My daughter said,she was my mother one time.We were skocked at what she said.But that was 30 years ago and we did not beleive in past lives at that time.But let me tell you,if it happened today.I would be out of that car so fast,and I would be talking to that woman.Georgeimage

I can imagine that it scares you sometimes! It is an amazing gift. It might be wise to get her into touch with someone who has lots of experience with that gift. She will have to learn to "protect" herself (just so that she doesn't get upset herself when she sees people that aren't really there, and so that she can live her life without being disturbed by too many souls/appearances).


Low

Please don't ever try to stop your child. I'm the oldest of 9 kids (6 are my mother's natural children) My family also had a gift and it was passed on to my mother's children. It was openly acknowledged when we were children. My mother even belonged to the psychic institute and there was a time when a person there saved my brother (by a vision he had when he wasn't even near my brother). This type of life was just matter-of-fact, it was openly discussed and we didn't think we were any different than all the other people in the world.

When I was 11, we moved to the suburbs and my mother got a job with the state mental hospital. There she saw a lot of people she felt weren't insane, they just had a gift also. Some people she felt were stuck in their past life, others she thought were possessed and very few were actually insane. (What she felt is what she told me after I became an adult.)

Anyway, because of what she saw at work, she was afraid her children would be considered insane and locked away, so she put an end to any discussion of our gift. She would act like she never believed in it to begin with. This caused so much turmoil in our lives. It's very confusing for a child to have something ripped from them like that. At one instance you believe and openly discuss something at the dinner table, and the next day you're being punished for mentioning it.

It didn't help that the home we moved into had spirits all around. It turns out, where we moved to had once been crawling with Native Americans. There's one man who's been inside the house from the day it was built, 32 years ago. Being the oldest, and stubborn as I am, I refused to completely stop. I would mention it every time I saw that man. The rest of my brothers and sisters, being younger, did as they were told and either didn't see him or they ignored him - except for my youngest sister. We openly discuss it all the time and my mother blames me for "corrupting" her.

Then my 3 year old niece started see him. She'd walk into the house and say "Grandma, why is that man always sitting on your stairs?" The man she described is exactly what I've always seen, clothes, hair, eyes, everything. That's when my mom admitted to what she had done and the fears she had and she's slowly starting to talk about it again. Unfortunately, I feel she's done a lot of damage in the mean time. My other sister doesn't even believe in it, the oldest boy who was the most spiritual of us all is teetering between believing and atheicism, and the youngest boy has OCD (which I know has come from all this).

So, to make a long story short, don't deprive your child of her memories, thoughts, etc. You don't have to discuss them if you don't feel comfortable with them, but don't make her feel she's bad or wrong or it's just her imagination. As many people have said earlier in this post, there's a reason for the way she is, it's a gift. But one of the most important things to remember is what Lowland_Kid said "She will have to learn to "protect" herself!" and you should learn also. Your daughter is a reciever and as such, she attracts entities to her, in turn, bringing them around you. If you need more information on that, email me, I can help you out. (algodfrey@focuscenter.com)

Hi...

My name is Monique, and I'm 20 years old. For 8 years, my mother and relatives considered me as a high imaginative child, because I told them about a house, grandfather and dog in a distant city I've never known. I gave them details I couldn't possibly know, about streets and places and people. Only now, 17 years after the first time I said it, my mother considered the possibility that I could recognize the place and the house if I would be taken there. All over the years, I felt like everyone thought I was a liar. Can you imagine the consequences of that for a child? Even now, old as I am, people still doesn't believe when I say that I see spirits or dream with things that didn't happen yet. It's scaring even to us, but since we have to learn to live with it... It hurts a lot when the ones we love the most don't believe in what we say. Don't do that to your girl, and ask your husband to be more comprehensive. Your daughter will thank you a lot, and will trust you enough to reveal her feelings more easily. That's priceless to a mother. Give her the space to tell anything she needs. It's healthy and needed. Even if it scares the hell out of you. And tell her what you feel about it all, not forgetting to tell also that even then, you're ther for her, no matter what may happen.

I hope what I said can help not only you, but other parents with the same doubts and fears too.

Kisses,
Nicki

Nicki, have you finally gone to the house that you believe you reincarnationally remember? I really am curious.

Respectfully,

Andrewx

Thanks to everyone for your help.My 3 year old is now 32.she does not want to talk about the experience.I keep asking her,but she keeps cutting me off.I am a school crossing guard,and I get to meet a lot of small kids.I have asked the mothers to lissen to there kids.so far nobody has come forward.You know a lot of people do not believe in recarnation.But I do.I have a few experiences in the private messages,if anyone is interested down at the bottom of the reincarnation form. Love to all Georgeimage

hello all,

i am a new member here and i am so glad i have come across this community. i would like to share my opinion on this topic and i hope that i am not overstepping my bounderies. first i would like to say that for anyone who has children that display these gifts i think that it would interest you to read "adventures of a psychic" by sylvia brown. even if you don't believe in that sort of thing it is an interesting read. my son is three years old and he is constantly speaking of things that there is no way he would have knowlege of. i try to encourage him by NEVER admonishing him when he says things that i either don't understand or that scare me. if he does have a gift , i believe it is for a reason that would be a benifit to everyone. when children speak of things that you think may be from a past life instead of ignoring it or brushing it off as imagination, ask questions. just make sure that they are not leading in any way. i think one of the most horrible words in our language is "overactive imagination".
it is because of "imagination" that some of the greatest inventors of our time have given us things like electricity, automobiles and modern medicine. furthermore i feel that children are some of the most natural psychics in the world, think about it , they are fresh from the Other Side, or Heaven or whatever you want to call it. it is not untill the age of three or four that these memories of the Other Side and past lives really start to fade, but with encouragement these children can learn that these experiences and gifts are wonderful and you as a parent can help to ensure that they retain these gifts. If your children see things that they don't understand or that scare them , tell them to ask God or whatever name you call him by, to show them things in a way that they will understand and in a way that is appropriate for them. i know as a parent that sometimes you may wonder if you are doing the right thing for your children but i truly believe that as long as we encourage them in every way possible , in every area of their lives that they will grow into responsible independant human beings that are able to make wise and caring decisions.
just some of my thoughts on the subject and again if i have offended anyone i apologize.

bbjo22