I gave birth to a preterm baby boy. He was a fighter....fought a lot of obstacles but gave up after 40 days in Nicu. I have seen him going through a lot of problems. I can't seem to get over him. Read lot of stories of reincarnation...I really wish his soul comes back and chooses me to be his mother again. That's the only hope I have now. I feel his body was fragile so he decided to go but he will take a rebirth in a healthy body once I conceive again. Did anyone go through the same??
Lost my preterm baby boy in 40 days. Will he come back to me again if I try n conceive again?
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KenJ
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Welcome to the forum Bakul80. Only a few of the people here have experienced what you are experiencing, but I think we all have some understanding of what sorrow and questioning that you are going through, and wish to extend whatever help that we can.
It sounds as though you have already worker through quite a bit of this before posting here. My only personal experience has been through my daughter's still-born son which was quite different from being in your position. And, yes, there are several Messages/Threads about this.
It sounds as though you have already worker through quite a bit of this before posting here. My only personal experience has been through my daughter's still-born son which was quite different from being in your position. And, yes, there are several Messages/Threads about this.
Mere Dreamer
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There is no guarantee he'll return; it depends on the choices of multiple individuals ... not just you and your partner, but your potential child/ren's as well. However, if you look around you'll see that there are stories here of young children who died and have returned later to the same family, so it's easy to believe this can happen with infants as well.
I'm not sure if the specific example I'm thinking of was from this forum or a book of children's memories. If I find it I'll send you the link. Do explore the children's memories section. I think you'll find it encouraging.
May you find comfort and a sense of constant connection with the ones you love and who love you, even while they remain beyond the veil.
I'm not sure if the specific example I'm thinking of was from this forum or a book of children's memories. If I find it I'll send you the link. Do explore the children's memories section. I think you'll find it encouraging.
May you find comfort and a sense of constant connection with the ones you love and who love you, even while they remain beyond the veil.
Thank you for your reply. Just one more question keeps bothering me that my boy was in NICU for forty days...several nurses used to be around him. He has never seen me....I hardly touched him as I had severe cold that time. And I was not there the time he died and I did not even go to see him the time he died....as a mother I did not wanted to see his lifeless body....i wanted to keep his other image in mind ...like the time he used to open his eyes and look around...just could not see my son leaving us....now a question is bothering me that did my son 's soul ever saw me....know me.??? That I am his mother....I may sound stupid to others...but I am not able to cope up with his death...I am desperate to get pregnant again....in hope that my son will return. I want him back....want give him all the love and care. As he had a very tough life in NICU. Please pray for me.....i want my same son to choose me as his mother again. Like others m waiting for him to give me some sign that he is around or he will come back. M longing to see him and touch him. Just can't imagine life without him.
Mere Dreamer
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A lot of mothers actually dream of the spirit of their child hanging around before birth. Some who remember the time before and during infancy say they aren't always physically in their body even after birth, and they choose to wait for the body to develop before entering full time. It's possible that your baby's spirit spent time close to you even in the hospital, and it's very likely that he hung out with you for months or even years before he was born and "chose" you for this brief life experience even though he may have known he wouldn't be able to stay very long this time.
You may even have shared other lives and relationships with each other in the past.
On a spiritual level, you really can't lose anyone. The spiritual connections that link us aren't visible here, and we often don't notice them unless some unusual event helps us to realize there is more history between souls than we remember in every relationship. The relationships often already exist on some level, and we just add new aspects to them in each life. In fact, you have a whole network of previous live's family, friends, and spiritual guides who deeply love both you and your son on the other side. Right now he is more spirit than infant.
All this to say, don't worry that he won't know you.
It's perfectly normal to miss him. Just remember you are not alone, and he is not alone.
Take a moment and think to yourself that he is right next to you, snuggled close and trying to help comfort you. That thought is an event that a great many intuitives, adults, and children who remember (or connect to) the space between lives say is true and real. If those people comforted those they love when they moved on, then I think it's safe to believe your son knows you and is happy to visit you even now. You may not sense his presence directly, but you won't harm anyone if you believe this is true. I hope it helps a little.
You may even have shared other lives and relationships with each other in the past.
On a spiritual level, you really can't lose anyone. The spiritual connections that link us aren't visible here, and we often don't notice them unless some unusual event helps us to realize there is more history between souls than we remember in every relationship. The relationships often already exist on some level, and we just add new aspects to them in each life. In fact, you have a whole network of previous live's family, friends, and spiritual guides who deeply love both you and your son on the other side. Right now he is more spirit than infant.
All this to say, don't worry that he won't know you.
It's perfectly normal to miss him. Just remember you are not alone, and he is not alone.
Take a moment and think to yourself that he is right next to you, snuggled close and trying to help comfort you. That thought is an event that a great many intuitives, adults, and children who remember (or connect to) the space between lives say is true and real. If those people comforted those they love when they moved on, then I think it's safe to believe your son knows you and is happy to visit you even now. You may not sense his presence directly, but you won't harm anyone if you believe this is true. I hope it helps a little.
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Thanks for your brief reply....your words are comforting and just idea of him around is making me happy. My 1st pregnancy was a very difficult one....had lots of complication and then the preterm baby was born...never in my wildest dream I imagined or thought I will try to get pregnant again....but after reading more stories of babies coming back to same parents urged me to get pregnant again. Will take fews months to try again as it's just 10 days that he has left us. I miss him immensely and just want him to come back in a healthy body.
Thanks for your kind words....living in 'hope' ❤
Thanks for your kind words....living in 'hope' ❤
My daughter Mia was born at september 19, 2016. She was born after 32 weeks of pregnancy and after 12 YEARS(!) of trying. I'm the father by the way... my daughter had heart problems (truncus arteriosus + AVSD) and needed heart surgery when she was around 4000 grams. She fighted for months on the Nicu and finally we were allowed to take her home till the date of surgery. They waited a few weeks too long, she died on the operation table because her heart failed as a result of the anesthetic. She was already too weak, 2 weeks before she survived the anesthetic of a cardiac catherisation.
She died on february 22, 2017.
The latest 2 years before she was born, I noticed synchronicities on clocks when I checked the time. For some odd reason, I always checked the time when it was 12:22, 13:22, 14:22 or 18:22 etc. The 22 really stood out so extremely all day so it grabbed my attention. Now I think it was a sign so I would know AFTERWARDS that her dead was unavoidable and known in advance... so the date of her dead , 2-22 stood out for me.
My girlfriend had diabetes and after 12 years of trying, you just wont expect to have a baby, and we gave up, so her sugar levels were not right, causing the birth defects.
Now my girlfriend is pregnant again (almost 21 weeks) of a girl again and now her sugar levels are great because she was prepared this time. She will be called Mila. Calculated, there will be +/- 15 months between the dead of Mia and when Mila will be born.
I'm 100% sure Mia gets a 2nd chance as Mila.
Never give up hope
Tyrone
She died on february 22, 2017.
The latest 2 years before she was born, I noticed synchronicities on clocks when I checked the time. For some odd reason, I always checked the time when it was 12:22, 13:22, 14:22 or 18:22 etc. The 22 really stood out so extremely all day so it grabbed my attention. Now I think it was a sign so I would know AFTERWARDS that her dead was unavoidable and known in advance... so the date of her dead , 2-22 stood out for me.
My girlfriend had diabetes and after 12 years of trying, you just wont expect to have a baby, and we gave up, so her sugar levels were not right, causing the birth defects.
Now my girlfriend is pregnant again (almost 21 weeks) of a girl again and now her sugar levels are great because she was prepared this time. She will be called Mila. Calculated, there will be +/- 15 months between the dead of Mia and when Mila will be born.
I'm 100% sure Mia gets a 2nd chance as Mila.
Never give up hope
Tyrone