3 year old with a vivid past

Discussion in 'Children's Past Lives -Age 7 & under' started by Ukwood, Feb 5, 2014.

  1. Ukwood

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    Just when you think he doesn't remember anymore...My son had had nightmares last Saturday, but didn't wake up till the morning, then he came through to our room and snuggled in next to me. He started laughing and said the horrible man called the horrible lady Buttons. Then laughed. I felt like the blood had left my body as, I wasn't expecting that after all these months!


    So,I said what did the horrible lady call the horrible man and he said Buttons too. He thought it was funny. He said sometimes they called me Buttons too.


    No one in our family or his nursery calls anyone Buttons. It's a nickname, that one no one in his circle uses.


    Today I picked up the ipad and he said can we find my cage. Again, totally unexpected. So I typed in playpens in google images and I got him to find it. He found the exact same one he found months ago! He doesn't make this stuff up.


    Out of all those playpens listed, he found the same one. Amazing!!! Again it is not a common shaped playpen that we have here in the UK. It is octagonal, beige with pink lower canvas. I never had a playpen for our children and nursery school doesn't have one either. So he can't have seen it.


    The other interesting thing is, his skin has been really good, but in the last week his face has just flared up again. I saw pictures of meth addicts children and his face flares up on the same spots. On his cheeks and near his mouth.


    Last month we finally got an appointment to do patch testing and the results showed he is allergic (one of his many allergies) to black rubber. And only because of the chemicals in it. Now I am not sure of meth chemical, but black rubber has some heavy chemicals in it. It is a rare allergy, but his skin reacted to it. It sin childrens bike handles, swings, black tires in playgrounds. It may be nothing, but strange it is the chemicals.


    I have a question for subject experts :)


    If you have an energy in one past life do you carry that same energy to your next lifetime? For example, if I can get my sons energy healed in this lifetime, will it follow him in the next lifetime or will he always have allergies in his remaining lifetimes?


    Why would he carry the allergy or have the reactions he had from a previous past life?


    Carole I know you said Chase had eczema on his skin in your book. What did eczema have to do with the war he was in?


    If I came make sense of the energy I may find the right alternative therapy for him to heal him in this life and his next.Has anyone tried alternative therapy to heal a past life allergy and if so which one did you try?


    Looking forward to hearing from you.
     
  2. Carol

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    UKwood,


    We do carry the energy of unresolved past life issues with us. They can manifest physically, emotionally, and mentally. Once the memories are resolved--talked about, let go of--the emotions, which are usually bundled with the physical symptoms, can be healed. If the memories are resolved, worked through, or healed, that do not carry into another life. That's the beauty of the process: the soul can heal wounds from other lifetimes so they aren't carried forward. It's all about healing.


    In Chase's case, the memory of his battlefield death were very emotional. If you recall, he remembered being shot in his wrist before his actual death. In this life, he had eczema on his wrist since he was a baby, which was tied into his emotional memories of fear, sadness, and guilt that he carried forward from his life as a soldier. Once he talked about his memory, the fear of loud noises went away, as did his eczema. BUT, years later, when he was in college, (after I wrote the book!), his eczema came back. I was surprised, because he hadn't talked about his memory for a long time, and didn't seem to be bothered by it. I asked him what was going on that could have brought the eczema back. He thought for a moment and said, "Oh, I had to register for the draft to get my student loans!" The thought of the possibility of having to serve in the military triggered his memories on some level, and the eczema came back. But immediately after he said that, it healed again. He is now 32 and he hasn't had eczema on that spot on his wrist again.


    So it doesn't surprise me that your son's rash flared up when the memories started surfacing again. You're probably on to something when you relate his chemical allergies to the meth chemicals. And, it isn't surprising to me that he remembered the same playpen. To me, that's more validation that his memories are genuine, because they are consistent. (I talk about that in my first book as a sign of authentic past life memory.)


    I guess your son is still processing that life, but it sounds as if he's really moving through it. I think that if you continue to allow your son to talk about his memory, and do whatever you've been doing, he will heal.


    It's possible that homeopathy, Reiki, or some energy healing could assist him in the process, since they work on the subtle energy levels. Maybe some other members have some ideas too.


    You're on the right track! The eczema is related to a past life, so the deep healing will come when your son is able to let go of the trauma he suffered in the past.
     
  3. Carol

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    One more thing that just occurred to me: The image of the playpen is a touchstone to that lifetime, making it real for both of you. Perhaps it's providing grounding for that other experience for your son, so he can begin to differentiate that experience from the present. By seeing that image, your son may even be able to bring up more feelings or information that can help him work through the painful memories. Just a thought...
     
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    I wonder if the date has anything to do with it? Maybe an anniversary? Maybe add the date the rash returned to your notes. Or maybe something else triggered it.
     
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    It sounds like an American PL when you mention the bat. Could they have been his parents or people who kidnapped him in that life? They sound like drug addicted parents who abused a child. Drugs like meth cause teeth to fall out.
     
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    Welcome. :) You need to start at the beginning of this thread. This was all covered when she first came to us. Amazing story. Her son seems much better now, thanks to all of the suggestions here.
     
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    Steven hasn't spoken of his past for ages and I have been so busy at work. I have now left my job to spend more time with the children and to finally finish reading Carol's book. I am an incredibly slow reader. I started on page 230 and have also ordered the second book. Well I was on page 248 and remembered when I instinctively knew to google the playpen. I was in deep thought and in runs Steven, jumps on my bed and says 'the horrible man threw me down and it really hurt my bottom' I was again taken back, as I didn't expect that. So I asked him more but all he wanted to let me know was that his bottom was sore from being thrown down. He then changed the subject.


    Today he was home with me and I offered him some pencils to draw me a picture ( he normally says no). So he says he would like to draw a picture of the horrible man and woman. So I got some paper and he said he needed 2 pieces. So in his way drew two blobs with stick hands and said that was the horrible man and women. I asked him where he was in the picture and what they were doing. He said he wasn't there anymore and they were just standing there. So on the other paper he drew our family and himself with a smile. He drew a heart and said it was a happy heart and that the horrible man and woman had a bad heart. He asked if would be ok if he threw them in the bin, so he did, he threw them in the bin.


    And just like that he went to play.


    He definitely doesn't see himself with the. Anymore.


    I am not sure if I posted this before, I need to retread. But he didn't like sleeping in his bed as he wasn't allowed to, because he was only allowed to sleep on the floor or in the cage. So he use to get out of bed and sleep on the bedroom floor or landing. It broke my heart as no child of mine needs to sleep on the floor. But we use to carry him to bed. But he hasn't done that in a couple of months. I think the thoughts still come and go but he definitely knows they can't get him now.
     
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    Thanks for the update. This amazing story continues. I think he is definitely healing.
     
  9. tanguerra

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    That's wonderful news! So glad to hear this.
     
  10. Blueheart

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    I have had this happen too. I'd be thinking about this stuff, and then like magic, one of my children would say something that directly related to what I had been thinking about.


    Thanks for the update. It won't be long now before he forgets he ever talked about this other life.
     
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    It's good to hear from you again! So glad to hear that Steven is doing better. It sounds as if his memories are fading, or he's letting go of the painful feelings and now feels safe.


    I just read your other post about your daughter's memories. Now that you're experienced, you can talk to her about them. It's interesting to me that once you started reading the book again her memories were triggered. I talked about that in the first book, and have found that our children really are tuned in to our awareness--on so many different levels.


    Both of your children needed good parents this time who could love them, understand them, and keep them safe.


    Thanks for sharing your daughter's story too. Please keep us posted on both of your children, and let us know if we can help.
     
  12. Ukwood

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    And then out of nowhere..


    It's been ages since I last posted, as it has been very normal in our home. Steven hasn't spoken of his past or mentioned the 'horrible man'.


    Just before Christmas we decided that Steven can start using our dinner plates, instead of his Mickey plate, which has a slightly raised side to for easy scooping onto his fork.


    I gave him his dinner and he put his lips to the side of the plate and started shovelling his food in his mouth. I told him that was not good manners and to eat properly. He said, ' that's how the horrible man eats' and laughed. I told him off and we had to show him all over again how to use his knife and fork as he kept doing this at each dinner time.


    Then he went to school after the new year and came home upset because a teacher had told him off. She just said 'no to him in a stern voice. The nightmares have begun again, he is scared to be in his room alone. We have to keep checking on him every 5 minutes until he falls asleep. Then every other night he is screaming out in his sleep. He is semi awake and he tells me about the horrible man. He is very tearful in the day, as he is having restless nights. It is just awful for him. I make sure I listen and ask him open questions, to get it out of his mind.


    I can't wait until he is 7/8 so he can forget. It breaks my heart and I hate him upset. He truly is a happy boy and his teachers comment on how well he does and how happy he is, but when he closes his eyes he is seeing a different world. I wish this would end for him.


    What is really annoying, is that after all we have been through with Steven, my husband still doesn't believe any of it and still gives me a look as though I am nuts. I feel very alone in helping Steven at times and I'm am close to tears most night he gets in a state.


    I'm taking him to a new treatment called Health Kinesiology. I've had a few sessions, and it is really great. It was developed by a Canadian guy, and seems to be growing in popularity. I will try anything of course to help him. Has anyone tried this?


    Since I last posted I had a surprise third baby, and I am intrigued by what he will tell me one day.
     
  13. tanguerra

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    Probably the stress of starting the new school year, with a new teacher, has upset him a bit and brought up feelings of insecurity? Hopefully it will settle down again in a while. He needs to process it. It's a lot to process! Possibly even a word to the teacher about how he hasn't been sleeping too well, and has been feeling a bit fragile, and perhaps go a bit easy on him would be in order (without going into all 'this' of course)?


    Maybe get him to do some drawings and then scribble them out or throw them away or something like that, so he can remind himself that that's all finished now would help?


    Lots of cuddles of course. Remind him that he's safe now, as often as it takes.

    It's hard not to be supported by your partner with something like this. But, you've got us!! We're always here. :)
     
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    Many, if not most, of us here are similar. Thank God for the internet and groups like this one. Back in the 1970s I went to a past life regression workshop in my city put on by Dick Sutphen. There was no advertising. People like me who were on his newsletter and customer list got a letter in the mail announcing this workshop that was held at a local hotel. They expected maybe 50 people. Instead there were about 300! The hotel had to open the partition and use two meeting/banquet rooms. Mr. Sutphen said this happened everywhere he went. Even remote areas like Montana. People were coming out of the woodwork. He was in town doing research at the courthouse and library on one of his own past lives as an outlaw in the late 1800s.
     
  15. Blueheart

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    I may be reading more into this than you wrote, but it sounds as if he is now having night terrors, which is a bit different from nightmares. My middle child had them too. We would find her sitting up in bed, eyes wide open, screaming in mortal terror. She would talk and answer questions, but have no memory of the incident the following morning.


    I found they increased on cold nights, when she would pile on the blankets as she was falling asleep. An hour or two later, her body heat would warm up a pocket like a little inferno, and this, I think, was the thing that triggered the terrors for her. It triggered the fight-or-flight response. Pulling a blanket or two off of her when I went to bed seemed to make them less frequent.


    If they are terrors, the good news is, they are probably far more difficult for you to listen to, than it is for him to experience, as he will not remember what he is dreaming about. And, here is more good news for you . . . after the terrors, the worst of Emily's waking memories (of drowning) came to a halt. This might be just the final stage of him processing what happened so he can forget and move on. A doctor told me it was best if we did not try to wake her up at these times. To just make sure she is not going to fall out of bed and let her sleep. If you think about it in terms of him processing a past life, it might be best to not disrupt this nighttime "therapy". I know it is easier said than done.


    I am sorry your husband does not see it the way you do. That is tough. Congrats on the new baby.
     
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    Dear Ukwood,


    I'm sorry things have been tough lately and want to send you at least a virtual hug. Although my daughter is doing much better than when we started on this road, once in a while she'll remember things and wake up with nightmares as well. Just a couple nights ago she was crying inconsolably talking about death and not wanting to see others die... She's just grasping the concept of death so the memories are flooding in.


    Blueheart, I find it curious that my little one's nightmares are always worse when she feels hot at night. I have to be very careful about finding a balance between heat and cold to avoid the nightmares. And she can't stand wearing socks at night, that always triggers something for her for some reason.


    I don't know if this helps, Ukwood, but I have come to terms that my daughter will always carry her memories with her and will have to deal with them all her life. It's a blessing in disguise, I hope. I don't know much about past lives but I'm hoping that the information helps my daughter become stronger and deal with life's challenges in a more compassionate, wiser manner. One can always hope.


    We're here for you if you ever want to chat.


    many hugs,


    sofia
     
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    Thank you


    Thank you for your support and messages. It helps me to know I am not the only person with a little soul going through this.


    Blueheart it's interesting you say about the heat at night. I never thought of that. I will try keep it cooler. Steven is an incredibly hot little boy anyway, but in Winter is hotter as he is in Winter pj's and duvet. I will try and reduce the heat. From what you described, he is getting night terrors and wakes up still in a trace sort of state. He doesn't remember in the morning or when he wakes.


    Sofia, thank you for your continued advice and support.


    Steven has been asking about death a lot recently, and today we had time as he had a hospital appointment. He always gets sad thinking our dog will die one day etc. He spoke about when he died with the horrible man and mentioned all the previous stuff again. But he finds comfort in the fact that he did die before and you come back. So,it does have a silver lining.
     
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    I have not posted here in a while as my son has been generally a content and happy boy. It’s hard to believe that any of the above actually happened until a little glimpse of something comes through every now and again.

    Steven is now 7 and has not spoken of his past life for a while. But every so often he becomes very emotional or very withdrawn. It’s not until we delve into why he is behaving like this do we get reminded that his past life is still there in his mind and seems to affect his day to day life even now.

    Earlier this year Steven would cry every day when I dropped him off at his class at school. I thought it was just because I was leaving. Then if he was expecting my husband in a room, but saw me he would get all upset and ask where Daddy had gone. And the same would be if I suddenly was in the kitchen but went outside. He would get all upset. On top of all this he was getting stomach aches at night and then in the day at school. He saw a few doctors who diagnosed him with allergies or it was stomach flu. I took him to our Health Kinesiologist as I was desperate to get to the bottom of these stomach aches. We found out that he is absolutely terrified of an adult leaving a room, as he thinks he is going to be taken. So if the teacher unexpectedly leaves the class, or I am not in a room he thinks I am in, Steven gets all worked up resulting in him getting stomach aches. He wants his parents and adults he feels safe with around, so that the horrible man and lady don’t come and get him. We have been working on this all year, and are very careful to let him know where we are around the house. The stomach aches have subsided.

    Then last week two incidences which left Steven very worried and upset. He unknowingly dropped his jumper on the ground after school on the way to the car. He was so upset and getting quite beside himself. I explained, that it had his name in and it would go to lost property and that it would be ok. He was scared, I couldn’t say anything that made him feel any better. I asked him what he was scared of and he said he didn’t know, but he was just scared. I asked him if he was scared of me and scared I might get cross with him, he said no.

    Then he had his first test ever and got one question correct. He was hiding his homework book from me. He started getting all upset and really emotional and looked terrified when I asked him if I could see his book. I asked him why he was crying, he said he was scared. I asked him what about and he didn’t know, he was just scared that someone would get really mad at him. He was terrified of the consequences. I explained that his sister had the same thing happen and we helped her with reading and she got her test correct. We helped him that evening and the next day he got 100%.

    He has always been scared of consequences. We nurture our children and help them develop. We have NEVER hurt our children or given them reason to be scared. He isn’t scared of us, he has this fear in the back of his mind that something will happen to him if…

    It’s heart breaking as his parents, as we don’t want him to grow up scared in this lifetime. He has nothing to be scared of, but yet there is that underlying fear that has come through from his past. It is such a shame, because he is the funniest boy in his class. He has lots of friends and was voted most popular. He has such a beautiful personality. I fear this is holding him back.

    Has anyone else had any similar experience? Is there anything we can do?
     
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    You can try giving him additional constructive experiences of failure/breaking rules/making mistakes so he can experience the fact that mistakes can happen without horrible consequences. Some of this might be easier when he's older, but here's a variety of options to jump-start your imagination.

    I read once about a father who offered to reward his son for breaking some non-essential rule at school because the son was so much of a rule-follower that his father was concerned he wouldn't do the right thing if it was against some rule or other.

    Maybe play a game with him, where he purposely tries things he know he isn't good at and then gets points/stars/rewards just for trying something new and experimenting with life. Add even more points for continuing to try again in the face of continued failures. Sit down each time and think with him about what he's learning from each attempt. Take the focus off him and put it on solving the reasons why some things work and some don't. Can he do better next time? Can he control the probabilities? Maybe the results of his "mistake" would actually be useful in some other context. Can he think of one?

    Take his bad grade, for instance, you can explain that he can now see what he understands very well (the ones he got right) and what he still needs to learn more about. Ask if he realized anything new from reviewing the test that might help him get those questions right the next time. What has he learned about tests in general? What kinds of information did his teacher focus on?

    Show him with something like a coin toss how random events work, then ask him if the coin is wrong if he wants a head and the tail shows up instead. Point out that the tail is just the other side of the same coin, and that without the tail the coin would vanish entirely and there wouldn't be a heads up either. He can keep trying and just count the flips that show the side of the coin he wants to keep until he has as many as he wants.

    Talk about how he can find the good side of the things that happen and start a "gratitude journal" where he explains what he is learning from mistakes or experiences that feel negative at first. Ask if he would have learned so much just from everything going right without knowing why.

    Have him collect experiences that go right using something symbolic. Maybe write a word on a piece of paper and keep it in a jar. One penny for every positive experience. One rock for every lesson learned, etc. The build up of visible evidence will give him a tangible explanation to cling to for why he doesn't need to live in fear when he's in the midst of a trigger.

    Hopefully you can eventually construct a practiced sense of optimism to balance out his fatalistic thought processes and move him from automatic negative reactions to questioning whether something good might be possible, too. It's only a step from imagining good things might be possible to learning to find the good/useful possibility first and taking the opportunities that come with them.
     
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    Thank you very much Mere Dreamer. I will try some of your suggestions. They are very practical and I am sure he would understand at his age.
     

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