Am I A Good Leader

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  1. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    I keep getting this feeling that I'm a good leader, but I have a hard time believing it. It's just in the past people have said I'm socially awkward. Besides no one ever cares what I have to say anyway. Why then do I keep getting the feeling I have what it takes to be a good leader?
     
  2. baro-san

    baro-san Senior Member

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    The way this works: as long as you don't believe it, you aren't.

    You can start by changing your belief, your thought, your emotions, and you might become a good leader. You have to be specific, clear, positive in your wish. Leader of what / who? What does it mean to be a good leader in that specific capacity, in your opinion? How will you feel when you'll be so?
     
  3. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    I don't know how I can possibly believe in myself when people say that I'm socially awkward. What can I do.
     
  4. KenJ

    KenJ Moderator Staff Member Super Moderator

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    GD90, it is hard enough to work yourself free of self-doubts without confounding it further with allowing (needing?) outside influences to divert your energies. As Deborah has said (in a slightly different way than I had) "Energy Follows Attention". Note how that is affecting your question and answer and think deeply upon it.

    Who is limiting you?
     
  5. baro-san

    baro-san Senior Member

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    Firstly, do you know whom / what you want to lead? In what capacity? You have to define your wish.

    Secondly, your subconscious creates your reality, including your perception of the people in your reality.

    You can pass your wishes to your subconscious through affirmations / requests made at the best moment when your conscious and your subconscious are in touch, that is the moment when you're falling asleep, and the moment when you're waking up (you can also do it through (self-)hypnosis). Your requests have to be specific, clear, concise, using verbs in their positive present form, framed in time, charged with emotion, trusting that your request will materialize (this may be difficult in the beginning, but in time you'll get there).

    You are the writer / director / actor of your life's script!
     
  6. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    I guess I feel as though I can't be a good leader because the first counselor I seen said I had autism. It still hurts me to this day.
     
  7. Ritter

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    Military? If so, read world war leadership manuals. Not hippy dippy crap full of hugs and rainbows. The ranger manual of the U.S army is good. As is the SS leadership manual. See if these align more with your inner being. A good leader is a good problem solver. A good man is a good problem solver. Men can't be men anymore and most often have distorted behaviors that cause self doubt and weakness because they are not socially allowed to be manly men. By which I do not mean behaving like pigs, like many men from the baby boomer generation still do. Defeat whatever is oppressing you. Head on. Decide who you are and stick to it no matter what people think. Train physically, don't drink alcohol, don't take modern medicine, which kills your hormones more often than not, don't eat soy, eat plenty of protein and learn how to say "no" quite firmly. Throw out unproductive and unmanly modern activities. Don't ever be seen on bloody ComicCon or some other crap. Go fishing or hunting, carry a weapon whether it is legal or not. An unarmed man is a slave and no man at all. Whether it is a damned table knife or an automatic rifle, enter the world as the wolf, not some tame bloody chicken or a sheep.

    I had to look again and now I see by your avatar that you are female. I feel like an idiot. But perhaps some lost guy will come around and find use for this. A few things may apply, but I am not a very proficient woman. Never tried being one in all of my lives and I don't particularly understand how women work or how you establish your inner hierarchies. Which at the end of the day is what it is about. But i'm not even going to guess. I have seen way too many intelligent and good women who seem to have no status at all in relation to shallow and uneducated women whom I fail to spot much virtue in. The stereotypical Cheerleader vs. Nerd thing.

    Bear in mind it wasn't always so. Once upon a time, noble women were well-read, carried on ancient traditions and knowledge, and when Europe was pagan, wielded half the power. Roughly comparable to Civilian (female) vs. Military (male). For an ancient and thoroughly interesting read, find the Oera Linda manuscript. Some say it is fake. It is not.
     
  8. Jim78

    Jim78 Senior Registered

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    Hi Ritter.

    Your preaching to boys. A real mature adult man doesn't need any instruction on how to be a man. I'm reminded of Mick Jagger: "Well he can't be a man cos he doesn't smoke the same cigarettes as me."
     
  9. AlexD

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    I'm rather impressed to read your reply Ritter. It sounds like the writing of a relic of an ancient time rather than a mature man living in contemporary society. After all the efforts that were made for us to live in a peaceful Europe, and the hopes for a peaceful world in the future, there are still so many people wanting to give into their most animalistic side, because in their heads it means to be strong, to be powerful, to be superior. I do believe you have given us a clear idea of what kind of person you are, not for your past uniform, but for your current thinking.
     
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    Not sure if you're trolling, kidding, or worse.
     
  11. briski

    briski Senior Registered

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    I think serious as there has been influx recently on here of military reincarnations. To the point where it feels likes its a war time reincarnation forum!
     
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  12. AlexD

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    Seems like a nazi forum to me, briski. I can't judge people for their past lives, of course, but I can't agree with them either, especially if they learned nothing from their experiences.
     
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    I think thats why theres a lot of German soldiers, They have there own stories to tell that havent been told which is part of the learning process for everyone what @Ritter had been put through just before his death is disgusting, regardless of side. I wasnt aware of such things happening like that
     
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  14. AlexD

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    I'm not defending the allies briski, not to mention the communists -you probably don't know my story, but I've been a victim of the communists in the twentieth century, although I was a free citizen and not a nazi/fascist. I was just stating that regardless all he's been through he doesn't seem to have evolved much in terms of mentality, it's evident. Probably it's a slow process and talking about it may (or may not) be part of learning, but I would expect a mature human soul to be able to see beyond the "kill or be killed" machine.

    However, we are probably going off topic here.
     
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    tanker Senior Registered

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    What's your definition of Nazi, please.
     
  16. AlexD

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    Nazi is simply short for National socialist, tanker. I am aware that many German soldiers served to defend their country, just like everyone else in war. I was just commenting to briski saying that there seems to be a predominance in WWII German soldiers here lately. It probably sounded derogatory, but I know very well that atrocities have been done on both sides. What I disagree with is seeing current reality from a perspective that is out of place in my opinion, as I stated before. That's pretty much all.
     
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    There must be accounts of Russian treatment of SS somewhere if you really need to know. I saw it first hand, and couldn't begin to describe it to you. Or perhaps better not to put it into your mind, anyway, if it isn't there, briski. I mean that, sincerely.
     
  18. AlexD

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    Tanker, I was imprisoned by the communists in the fifties, tortured for several months, raped, humiliated, then executed. I wasn't a fascist nor a national socialist, but I have an idea what communists are capable of. A very clear idea, to be honest. It wasn't the point of my discussion. The point of my discussion is that we must see things for what they are. Do you still think that "kill or be killed" is the answer to this society? We are not nazis, nor communists, nor allies, we are supposed to be people. I would just like people to see things with a bit of common sense, possibly with a bit of humanity too.
     
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    Thanks, AlexD. I didn't class myself as a Nazi as I was not, nor wanted to be, a member of the Party. Having said that, on my hobby horse again, there were also some SS I wouldn't call Nazi either, in the currently used sense of the word.

    As for numbers - maybe we all appeared at much the same time in our present form as we died at much the same time. I don't know if there's a predominance in numbers on here - maybe we just have too much to say for ourselves! Apologies if so.
     
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  20. AlexD

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    There is no need to apologize for sharing one's story tanker, it's everyone's right here.
     
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