Feeling Like I Dont Belong

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  1. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    I made a list of my interest and I'm starting to look at groups of people with similar interest on meetup.com. I found a group on meetup that looks interestimg. Its an anime/manga and video game club. Also I'm interested in computers and video games and I dont think my college has a computer club so I might look into getting a computer club started at my college.
     
  2. Cat1965

    Cat1965 Senior Registered

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    Galaxy, you sound perhaps depressed and my recommendation is to try and get some counseling. I am sure there are thousands like you...tell us what makes you so different and maybe we can help you. It is not easy to give advise on so little..i would recommend saving a dog on death row. Call your local animal shelter and start there...bonding with an animal can be magical. They really are mans best friend..
     
  3. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    I already see a counselor and I also already two cats from the local animal shelter almost 2 years ago. I still feel alone though. Mainly because I feel like I'm the only one with this certain phobia. I wont say what it is because its embarrassing.
     
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    we know nothing about you.:)))))...we don't know if you are a male or female:)) ..we dont know your age:)))...so share your phobia...trust me i have heard it all:)) No judgement..
     
  5. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    No I cant. It's too embarrassing. Like I said I'm most likely the only one with this phobia. Even my psychiatrist said he had never heard of someone with this phobia before.
     
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    Cat1965 Senior Registered

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    i will tell you that you are letting your own brain get in the way of your happiness so re-think your negative behaviors....what country are you in?
     
  7. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    I'm in The United States.
     
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    sorry i missed the anime and computer club idea message....all good ideas. You don't sound so different than many college youth..ok you have a phobia. Maybe it is a pass life thing..don't stress out about it.
     
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    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    My phobia could come from a past life, but I cant remember enough to know for sure and that I do remember my phobia seems to come more from traumatic experiences I had in this life then past life.
     
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    there you go..a traumatic experience can cause a phobia..you got that right...google getting over phobias. When i was little i got locked in a dark basement by accident...i remember not being able to see anything and becoming terrified of the dark after that (phobia) When i was younger i stayed in a 500 year old haunted castle in England....i was woken by a ghost at 3am. It was pitch dark in the room which was huge..i could not find the light. I remember i started to have a meltdown...my husband guided me through it. He also could not find a light and heard the ghost...we both experienced a totally weird event where the room felt like a black hole ...to make a long story short after that episode i was not so afraid of the dark. Kind of lost that one and only phobia..facing your worst fear and living through it, embracing it can help you get over it
     
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    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    That is sort of what I'm working on with my counselor is getting over the traumatic memories I have of my childhood in this life so I can get over the fear that I have.
     
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    Keep going with the work you are doing with your counselor. You will get though this. Love the idea of using the meetup app.
     
  13. GalaxyDreamer90

    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    Sorry to revive this topic, but I'm still feeling like I'm in the wrong place and time and wish I could escape to the forest world. I'm just not sure what to do. I try to tell myself I'm here to use my talents and it helps some to know I have a reason for being here, but I still feel like I'm stuck in the wrong place and time.
     
  14. RedSunshine

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    you are the only one like you because we are all created to be unique. You are not alone, people are talking to you in this forum, we are here and you can talk to us.
     
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    GalaxyDreamer90 Senior Member

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    Thanks. I've been feeling very lonely lately and not sure what to do.
     
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    It is natural for everyone to feel out of place at one point or another. Many people here have felt extended periods of out-of-placeness. Some people post about missing certain locations, some about different time periods, and others still about different planets and mythical locations.

    I go through this often. This existence can feel so wrong sometimes that I become temporarily convinced that I will wake up under some tree with a sword strapped to my belt, and all will be right with the world again.

    The problem is that we are here now. We have to decide what to do with that. Find something to do that you find fulfilling, or perhaps take the time to strengthen a friendship. I cannot guarantee that longing for other places will ever go away, but if you can make enough good reasons to, you will find that you belong here and now as well.
     
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    Just be patient, you will find your purpose just give it some time.
     
  18. BrokenAgate

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    Well, I can say that you are definitely not alone, because this could be me! I've never felt like I belonged anywhere. I have a few great friends, which makes life more bearable, but it would be nice to feel as if I actually belong on this planet, like I wasn't accidentally misplaced or something. If anyone here is familiar with "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy," by Douglas Adams, then they'll understand what I mean when I say that I feel a bit like the character, Ford Prefect: stuck on this stupid world with its ridiculous humans, wishing I could hitch a lift out of here. It's not really a matter of finding a purpose; I'm 54, if I haven't figured it out by now, I probably never will. Or maybe that IS the problem and I just don't know it. All I know for sure is that I have never liked being around people, not even as a child, and I still don't. (It's unfortunate, really, because I always end up in customer service jobs, dealing with people all day.)

    In a group of people, I feel like I don't belong, like I have nothing in common with anybody, and I can't make myself be interested in the same things they are. I try, though. I went to a political rally/meet-and-greet type thing for a local guy who's running for office, and felt absolutely NO connection to anyone there. I simply occupied a space, nothing more. It's the same at any event. I'm on the outside, looking in, watching other people having fun and doing interesting things. I keep wondering where I DO belong.

    Oh, and I have two cats as well, Elvira and Stormy. :)
     
  19. Cat1965

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    Broken Agate...cats rule. Have you ever tried communicating with them using just your eyes? That is the key
     
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    There and back again Senior Member

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    It is one thing to feel like this once in a blue moon and another to know beyond the shadow of a doubt which is the case for some like myself. Society these days is horrendously evil with every matter dark hearted thought and ill intent it makes me wonder why anyone would want to live in this world for as long as they do let alone forever.
     
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