How does a soul select its future parents When my daughter was about 3 years old she stayed with my parents for a year when I went to the middle east to work. My father wrote to me about her progress. In one of his letters he said that she told him she was sitting on a seat with "God" who showed her all of us and the house she would live in. She told him that he would die first (which he did) and she would be very sad but he would be there until she was "a big girl". He died very suddenly when she was eleven years old. She has had a very difficult life but things seem to be getting better now, so I think that we do go over a life plan with our guides before we arrive here, and work within a framework of events to learn our lessons. We do have choices though don't we, how we handle situations that come upon us, and maybe we get 90per cent right of a lesson and then have to return to finish the other ten per cent in a new life. I have known two or three children who died young, and in each case they were very wise for their ages. One was a friend's baby, who died very young but changed several people around her. I haven't worked out yet why children die young, whether its their lesson time up, or a lesson for their parents, but that is another subject. My daughter didn't choose us, we were chosen for her.