I Hope My Life Is Better In The Next Life.

Life For Me Sucks Now. I Can't Wait To Transition. I Ready To Start Over.

 

Hi Maddy,

Different stages of life can also bring "transitions" into something better. I was an extremely unhappy person for most of my adolescent years, but things got a bit better when I "transitioned" to the more independent life of a young adult in college, and then got much, much better when I found the right person and settled down (another transition). But, there have been plenty of very tough times since then. A few years ago I was having to cope with my teen-aged daughter going through a long hospitalization with leukemia. She was a very, very, very sick girl. Very hard on us, and even harder on her. That is just one of many. Tough times are gonna happen, whether it is in this life or another.

Sometimes tough times last for many years, and sometimes they are gone after a brief visit. The "better" times are the same way. Another lifetime will not stop this from happening. There are still going to be good times and bad times. In terms of the history of the human race, we get a heck of a lot more of the good times now than we used to. Being a starving peasant in a filthy hovel (with a privy = a hole in the ground) out back, was never a great way to live, and that has been the lot of almost all humans through known human history. Things are much, much better overall for most humans in most places than they have ever been before. So, you probably have less to complain about than you think.

We are, according to what I have read--heard--and seen over many years, here to learn, develop, and help others. We have to struggle and overcome obstacles to do all of these--they are part of the process. So, whether you want to look at it as a school, a prison, and/or a boot camp, etc. you're not going to avoid stretches where, as you put it, life "sucks." (And I've seen plenty of those times myself over my lifetime). Consequently, and here I am speaking from personal experience, your best bet is to keep your spirits up and do what you can to look forward to and make things better up the road. If things are in the pits now, they are quite probably going to be going UP in due course.

Cordially,
S&S

PS--Just my opinion. Others may have their own.

 

reincarnation is not an escape for left the problems or responsability, problems exist for force ourself to growth and to become better persons.
i had a nice childhood, an hellish teen age, a sad youngness, now is not much good, but at least i have a lot of experience that help me to face that. escape is never the solution, and also, if you not fix here on that life your problem, you will get however, for karma law, into the next.

 

Don't lose hope dude. Look forward. They're just a problem that you need to solve on your own.

 

It is just past karma acting. Even if you transition to a new body somehow, you will find the same karma and corresponding issues waiting for you there as well.

All spiritual exercises such as present moment awareness/mindfulness, unconditional love and compassion, service, virtuous conduct and others are meant to dissolve the karmic impressions which project intense desires in the form of cravings/aversions and generate suffering.

The ancient Indian philosopher Chanakya stated that austerity to be the price to pay for a happy life. In the present Kali Yuga or Materialistic Ages, where there is an abundance of the inauspicious tamas and scarcity of the auspicious sattva, unhappiness and misery comes easily to the person.

Through spiritual practices and austerity you can eliminate the karmas and lighten the consciousness, which ensures that bliss and joy which are characteristic of the pure soul, are not obscured anymore.

Suffering also destroys karma, but obviously the ideal choice is of destroying karma through proactive spiritual practice and austerity. The karma is eliminated and one also enjoys bliss and joy in the process.

 

"Even if you transition to a new body somehow, you will find the same karma and corresponding issues waiting for you there as well"


That's such a disheartening thing to read. So we really cannot escape certain experiences?

This is what makes me not want to live my current life sometimes too. Not from a suicidal point of view, just from a "i wish my life was different' point of view. I just hate certain aspects of my life, and I wish they did not exist.

But I also challenge that statement. If that statement is true, doesn't that impeach our free choice to change our minds, or just not have to have certain experiences?

 

Welcome to the forum, SheSearches. I challenge it too. The statement cannot be a fact, as nobody knows any of these things for sure, so is opinion. We can only do our best with the life we have, and hope for better things. Possibly this Covid year isn't the best of times to think too hard about difficult things, as we have enough to deal with. Hope things improve for you!

 

I am also getting concerned that this talk of 'karma' is becoming the norm on this forum, and is now being presented as fact rather than opinion or belief. I feel this can be quite unhelpful for new members and only adds to their unhappiness, as their misfortune is then assumed to be the result of something they have done wrong in their past life. As an example, SheSearches has recently illustrated this by saying how disheartening she found it. I feel that we owe it to our new members not to worry them with ideas that nobody can prove as true or untrue. These topics are complex and difficult, and each of us can only talk from our personal experience.

It's both good and interesting to hear differing opinions on the forum, and gives us all food for thought. But for now I'd really like to see things more carefully voiced as personal opinions (however popular the ideas are) rather than statements of fact that apply to all of us.

 

I moved to Jim Matlock's Signs of Reincarnation group precisely for this reason. The New Age premise here put me off.

 

Ah, haven't heard of that one. Will have to take a look. Thanks, landsend.

 

Fireflydancing, I have to shamefully admit here that I didn't even know karma was an Eastern thing! This forum is the first time I've come across it. It did strike me, though, that there's a certain similarity between that idea and the kind of judgment-induced fear of past-generational Christianity. Repent and behave, or you'll suffer in hell in the beyond. I'm a Christian, but my own idea of eternity is far more merciful. I'd like to think that even the worst offenders get a second chance before disappearing for good. That's only my personal hope, rather than a fixed idea, though. But if we don't have forgiveness and love above all, surely we have nothing.

 

Hi Landsend,

Can you provide a link for Matlock's group? I'm always curious about what else is out there.

Cordially,
S&S

 

Personally I have to say that the modern the church and probably to some extent the first church is built on a foundation of fear and guilt with a measure of self righteousness. I know that it wasn't always like that but to deeply feel that it had gotten off to bad start from the git go. This past year has pushed me further towards looking for real freedom beyond the established mode of western spirituality of earned "salvation" as well the tired modes of eastern thinking as you've highlighted about karma "sins".

 

I have heard that in usa they have a written warning on microwave oven: Not suitable for drying living animals.
Should we now start using warnings when we are not talking from our own experience. Something like this:
In one of my previous lives I haunted and punished in cruel way people who didn't have the same belief system as I did. Now I don't get much joy in my. present life. Warning! (My belief, but not verified) (Not yet my belief, but interesting point of view I read somewhere) (My vision, dream but I don't know if I want to belive it) (Past life regression, but I doubt if that was my past life at all)

People are withdrawing from every forum. I don't feel at home on a Christian forums, where people teach how people go to hell even after a short life. A materialist can reject a Christian forum, because he doesn't like to be called a sinner, wrong doer.

 

Peace of mind, I'm really sorry if you don't feel at home on a forum where there are Christians, and if that's the case it's clearly a sad reflection on the kind of Christians you've come across. If they're saying people go to hell for whatever sins, after a short life too, that sounds to me more like an outdated view from past centuries which I agree is unhelpful and offputting. I certainly don't have that belief, and would much prefer to think of us being offered an afterlife review of the things we have done wrong, but from an honest perspective where it would be our own conscience that 'punishes' us by making us sorrowful when we're able to see the consequences of our own actions. So my personal hope and belief would be that when this happens we're all given a second chance to be regretful and ask forgiveness, and only then, if we refuse that, we'd simply disappear for ever. I have no concept of a 'hell' other than this. So this particular Christian is maybe unorthodox in some ways, but I'd hope, more gentle than some, and not prone to 'preaching'.

I don't think labels are that helpful really. I consider myself a 'wrongdoer' in some ways, just as I'd consider we all are, but the problem arises if we start pointing out other people's faults, as that produces nothing but resentment and negativity. I don't talk about my faith on forums unless for clarity on a particular topic, and would certainly also be put off by the kind of people you're talking about.

I'd hope that a Christian would make all feel welcome and not dictate to them how to think! The kindest Christians I know are not people who preach, they're people who encourage by example in the way they treat others. So I really hope this forum gives you enough positive and interesting things to want to stay and share your views. All any of us can do is to share with those we're comfortable with, and let the others go their own way. As long as there's mutual respect it'll be ok.