The photo stuck out to me as 1890's. I don't know why but that's the feeling I got from reading the thread. I feel I may be missing something, so please forgive me for asking, but Ken, what is your goal with talking about this with your family? Is there some concern from them, towards you in this regard? Are you saying that you are surprised that you don't have gender issues in this lifetime, because of your experience? I take it though that having the experience has made you uncomfortable. Given that the memories seem to be in the context of taking care of a child, that's what I would expect for someone who changed genders, when that was something they wouldn't normally do under "normal" circumstances. I think if we honestly looked at our loved ones, there isn't much we wouldn't be willing to do for them. Maybe it just suited that lifetime in particular for you to be female and you did it, simply out of love and there's not much more to it than that. Could it be your daughter was they boy in the memory? If so, it's highly likely you switched genders for her, as she did. Here's a case in point, my friend's (past life husband) mother committed suicide when he was young and in his later years, he deeply regretted not having had a mother. From what I can tell, based on my research, his father from that life, is now his mother in this one. He is single and lives with her, so I think that was the manifestation of his last wishes or unfinished business from that life. I agree with S&S, I do think we have an innate "gender" and for me, I seem to have an easy time switching even though I mostly feel female. I think my gender issues in this life come from wanting to help my wife in this life, when I should have been female again, to finish my unfinished business from my last life. There's a longing and frustration there, in feeling like I missed out. I think my lesson here is to be less selfless and to focus on my own emotional needs and healing first. If you read Newton's books he does give one the idea that gender swapping is to learn valuable lessons, but I don't think it necessarily be such a "guided" activity. It could just be as simple as an expression of love for another. While I'm not 100% sure about your feelings Ken, I would look at your actions as being those of a loving parent and to view yourself with compassion and kindness and without any judgement.