Yes surrender seems to be the only way with Kundalini. For me it woke one night ( i had received shaktipath from my guru just a few days before). One night in nov 2008 i was reading Eckhart Tolle's New Earth and it had deeply resonated with me, and that evening i had released some trauma tears related to my family. That night when i was meditating , my body began to slowly shake , i observed the effortlessness of it. I went to bed that night and while i was falling asleep my etheric body or the energy body would rise up half way while i was asleep on the bed , I aware of being in the etheric body and as also in the physical body, hard to describe. I was fully aware of the way my energy body was abruptly getting up and falling back , many many times without me doing anything. And then i saw the vision of a yogi multidimensionally like a flash , again hard to describe, like i could see his full body and yet close up of his face , and feel what he is feeling all at once. He was in deep bliss and in deep meditation. I also began to have more and more out of body experiences and energy movements with in the physical body. Apparently they are called Kriyas, they would feel like eletricity jolts , automatic mudras and full hatha yoga poses that would happen effortlessly. One night i dreamt of a snake staring at me intensely and in that gaze there was such intensity , it was in my living room where i was sleeping, so i suspect it might have been an out of body experience. I will never forget its intense stare. The stare was stern and yet there was a bond. The snake was like a cobra but not exactly cobra, it did not have a hood but had such a piercing gaze. Its body was facing straight forward but its gaze was sideways at me. There was an intense message there. An intense message of 'wake up, its time. There is no going back'. Then my life began to go through major changes, divorce, change of place, change of people around me , and my interest in spirituality began to be more of a main focus , and i began to meet my soul family. More out of body travels and experiences , downloads, etc. Its been amazing journey ever since , like before 2008 i was a different person. literally different version of me. My relationship with my parents immensely improved towards unconditional love. My Kriyas got reduced as i let go of resistance with surrender, now they come up as a few automatic mudras that hold me or anchor me within in stillness while i let go of levels of identities, and be present in observation without thought. It feels like Presence. I feel more attuned to GAIA now. I can feel my body being guided to go touch certain trees and i feel their presence and my presence as one. its a beautiful journey, was painful when i was going through initial life changes and upheavals but now its more in the foreground as a gentle presence. Sometimes intense desire to focus inward comes over, an intense urge to stop thinking and be present, be one with surrounding, an intense urge to stop doing, just stop all the external focus of mind. and there is a magnetic pull there , an invitation to be deeply present, it feels like heaven on earth. like the split of me and my life disappears into 'What is' or whatever IS here and now.