Reincarnation and sexuality/gender identity?

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  1. DoingThingsWithAbby

    DoingThingsWithAbby Active Member

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    I compleatly agree with you. I just wish I could impart the wisdom on the modern era of my experiences as a male who had body dysmorphia in a previous lifetime. I had to figure out some safe coping mechensims for that era. It wasn't easy, but it showed me that there are hard things that men have to do in order to keep their families, especially women safe, and how to find little ways to love yourself.
     
  2. DoingThingsWithAbby

    DoingThingsWithAbby Active Member

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    and maybe we could message each other if that's easier?
     
  3. -HM-

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    I’ve been male in all but this life and one other that I can recall. I’m straight and I’m not transgender but I have been told that I have a very masculine personality and body language even though I LOOK really feminine.
     
  4. AlexD

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    My soul seems to like androgynous or intersex incarnations. I only have one confirmed life in which I was fully male (though I've been told that I had kind of delicate features), was married to a lovely woman and had a daughter. I've had other incarnations (even very ancient ones) in which I was ambiguous or feminine looking though biologically male. I don't remember a long list of past lives but this current one is the first in which I am born biologically female and, personally, I'd rather stick to that. But I guess that depends on my soul's choices, not necessarily on my current desire to reincarnate as a woman. I guess that it's always me, in the end.
     
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  5. TruroNE

    TruroNE Senior Registered

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    I'll have to read this. Maybe it will explain why I was such an odd kid.

    I was a big, what some call, 'Tom Boy' as a child. It just seemed right to me. I cut my hair short, I wore boys clothes. (Although it was slacks and a button up shirt most of the time.. so, yes, i was "that kid" in my school) Once I got to junior high, I started to conform to what the other girls were wearing. I grew my hair out and started to dress more feminine. I've always found it a struggle to be feminine. It's like it doesn't come naturally to me, so I have to act it out sometimes. I am attracted to men, I've got a husband and child now. And thank god my man accepts me for all my weirdness, haha.

    However, I wouldn't say I'm totally NOT attracted to females. There's always that little something that I can't explain.
     
  6. Wes

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    I've always felt like this in a way. I identify most comfortably as bisexual in this life, so who I liked in previous lives could go either way.
     
  7. Shiriya

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    I found often in previous incarnations when I'm a male, my preference naturally leans towards women and when I am born female, vice versa to men. I dunno if there's a term for this, but there's that from what I've seen from snips of other lifetimes.
     
  8. CydonianKnight

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    I've come to this forum just to create a similar topic (which I did); I was born a female in this life, and there's this strong pull toward having relationship with women. But frankly, I would be much comfortable having them as a guy. I'm sure I've been one in majority of my previous lives.
     
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  9. Mary Hanauer

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    This is an interesting topic. I was born a female, but have always felt more androgynous. Although I can't confirm my past lives, going by the information I gained through regressions, this is a pattern that kept repeating itself, especially in my most recent incarnations. However, I feel that I was more comfortable as a man.

     
  10. Graham76man

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    It's all about love not gender. The people you fall in love with in past lives you will still be in love with again. Now if your the opposite sex (or the same sex) to each other then a sexual relationship might develop. But your wife, in a past life, could be your sister, mother, brother, father or child in this life. And the same the other gender way around. Of course the sex thing shouldn't come into it, but of course it sometimes does. But most societies don't approve of this kind of relationship, hence the problems.
    Souls themselves come in all shapes and sizes, some are male and female. One of my relations said that on the other side one of her friends looked like a giant mouse! For most of us what we look like on the other side is the scariest thing in dreams we have. But it's really all to do with the fact that current form of us doesn't want to me that yet, for obvious reasons!
    The other thing to bear in mind is that the soul has sometimes no control on the human body. It might want to impose sexuality on a soul that might have chosen relationships with the same or opposite sex. In such cases the soul will be in conflict with the body.
    I think it is best to assume that the body and soul need to work together in a symbiotic relationship, rather like many creatures in the natural world. For in the end humans are animals that have just a special link with the other side.
     
  11. magnus

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    Can‘t tell much about that. Used to be a straight guy, am a straight guy still.

    What is interesting is that previously I was 100% playboy with constant affairs, now I‘m 100% romantic and would never do that.
     
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    If i can choose next time i think i will wanna try female to mix it up a bit, I dunno. I feel im a young soul.
     
  13. Jupiter 11

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    Hello somesurrealkid, yes, I think that gender identity goes along with past lives and follow a pattern. A least it is true in my case.

    For several lifetimes now, I follow the pattern 2 times males, 2 times females. I'm currently female in this life. Each time, I am in the second incarnation of a sex, my gender identity goes through a kind of a "in-between". My body is of one sex, but my gender has already made the shift into the other.

    The idea of pattern reminds me a theory I saw online, saying that being lgbt would be a " bridge", a transitionnal state before switching gender. I don't know if it's true, but it seems in my case.
     
  14. Ministargazer

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    Hello Jupiter 11,

    Yes, I think there is a pattern of bodies changing sexes throughout lifetimes. In the lifetimes I now know of, I was female then male then female so I am assuming that the next lifetime will be male again. I came into this life as a female, quite angry and upset that I now had a female body and so cut my hair really short and wore pants every chance I could get as child/pre-teen. "I didn't choose to be a girl so why am I one?" I spent an extended time in my late childhood, early teens in rebellion against the fact, while other preteen girls were rushing out to buy bras. I think it took a lifetime to reconcile to being female - just in time to anticipate being male again in the next life!
     
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    I think it can be an explanation for some in that situation but perhaps not all. I think there is a lot we don't know yet about this (biologically) that can matter, it is so sad that people have to suffer because of this, as we evolve I hope there will be better understanding and more knowledge and respect regarding this sensitive subject. I only remember what I think is two pl as a male, one as a little boy ages, ages ago (who died in bed coughing, living in some cottage, winter outside. My mother had passed away earlier and my father was the only one still alive). Then as some male soldier, knight where I really seemed to enjoy being in a strong body. The others, the majority, that I've experienced was as a female.
     
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    I wonder, is there anybody who had a past life as gay, or transgender? If this was already mentioned in this thread I apologize, as I haven't reviewed it recently.
     
  17. AlexD

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    I had an old past life in which I was biologically male but looked practically like a female (without breasts). I don't know if I could call that being transexual though... I'm sure the concept didn't even exist back in the day. Judging from my feelings I was ok with myself anyway.
     
  18. Angie Brown

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    Tbh, it is the male sperm that decides for the egg to be female, so gender is 'assigned' by nature even before conception.
    Gender is biological, not merely a social construct.
    This is not to comment on whether or not we are influenced by pl genders. It is simply to state the facts of genetics - concerning gender and scientific fact as what is the valid decider, rather than psychological dysphoria.
     
  19. Angie Brown

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    I do suspect that the psychological condition of gender dysphoria can also be due to a pl. However, it is still psychological and not genetic/hormonal, and is most definitely not a mere, irrelevant, fluid 'social construct'. Any scientific genetic training or learning can only confirm that. We have two genders, male and female. What adults choose is up to them as long as they are not harming others and I don't look down on people for their private choices, but I have a real problem with the new application for the term 'social construct' pertaining to gender, because applied to gender - it is untruthful.
     
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  20. Angie Brown

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    Whoever told you that probably didn't like that you aren't a pushover who always gives in to others. Lol.
     

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