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Discussion in 'Reincarnation Questions' started by Christina Conrad, Nov 2, 2017.

  1. Christina Conrad

    Christina Conrad New Member

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    I have been with my significant other for 20 years. He and I met in the military on deployment to Saudi Arabia. I was doing laundry at the same time he was and he was trying to talk to me. I was having none of it and was rude but he finally convinced me to talk to him. We found out we were stationed at the same base and lived 2 blocks from one another and knew a lot of the same people and hung out at a lot of the same places. I wasn't really into him because I was seeing a French Air Force guy who I also met in Saudi and we had a very, intense romance. Long story short, the French guy came to see me in the U.S. when I returned. I panicked because it was so intense and things were moving very fast. He was ready to leave everything behind to be with me, to include leaving his wife (who I did not know about in the beginning BTW). He did end up divorcing her but I definitely told him not to and that I did not want to be responsible for that, etc. I ended up ending things with him and a few weeks go by and my now significant other comes back to the U.S. and comes to my office. I was rude to him again, but then a gay male friend called me and asked who the hot guy was who was looking for me. I hadn't thought of him like that until my gay friend said it! After that, we started talking and dating and were exclusive. We dated for 6 mos and got married. We were married for 10 years and started having problems and divorced. But for some reason, every timeI tried to date someone else it would fail. He and I had an on again off again relationship then finally got back together but not married in 2012. sometimes I think this is not the right relationship for me but on the other hand I can't imagine not being with him. I love him but I feel less romantic and more of a friendship. We just aren't "partners" in things. It's crazy. I was married once before and had no problem letting him go, but this one is different. I wonder if we have some major karma to work out.
     
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  2. Cassie

    Cassie Kemetic-Shintoic Pagan

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    I'm a bit confused by this post, it seems more suited to a 'relationship advice' forum than a spiritual one.
    I didn't see any mention of Reincarnation, and it's in the 'Reincarnation' section?
    Are you saying that you knew him before this life? You don't seem to have mentioned that, or perhaps I missed it?
     
  3. Christina Conrad

    Christina Conrad New Member

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    I mentioned karma in the end. I guess I figured that would indicate reincarnation. I guees not. I will delete when I get home.
     
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    You could do a past life regression, with a specialized hypnotist. Get references before picking one! Or, try to learn self-hypnosis!

    Through past life regression, I learned why things happen in my current life as they do: it's the balancing of a past life (aka "karma"), when I was on the other side of my current issues. Can't do anything about it, but I can learn a lesson from it. I also asked about a couple of failed relationships: why did it happen? Simply, because those weren't my soulmates.
     
  5. Cassie

    Cassie Kemetic-Shintoic Pagan

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    I don't think you should delete it, I was just wondering If there was anything that specifically made you feel as though this had past life connections. Anything you noticed about the relationship that felt familiar/repetitive, like falling back into old patterns or making the same mistakes/decisions again?

    I'm by no means an expert on relationship reincarnation, I've only ever been in love with one man in my entire existence, and I haven't met him again in this life, if he's even here. I can only imagine what it would be like to see him again in a different body, with a different voice, but feeling that same timeless connection.
    I don't know if I'll ever fall in love in this life, it seems highly unlikely. I tend to be drawn more towards the dead than the living.
     
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  6. KenJ

    KenJ Moderator Staff Member Super Moderator

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    Cass, that makes me sad to think that you are missing out on loving feelings in this lifetime, my thoughts immediately went to Steven Stills recording by the way. Maybe I understand since I've always felt that I had perhaps experienced more somehow, but I think it was perhaps more the "place" rather than the "person/spirit" - but that's just my feeling. I could not ask for more than my current relationship, possibly the most loving and caring I've experienced in this life yet there are thoughts of something even greater - it could just be selfishness. I hope that you are speaking from a similar position rather than from actual deprivation.

    I immediately related to Christina's original post in this thread from remembering the times earlier in my life. The two of you make me realize how fortunate I've been with the people that have been a part of this lifetime, helping me undertake it and be where I am at this time, I hope that I have been able to have given back to them what they needed in our contracts with one another.

    I hope that each of you accept and nourish what you have or find before getting to your last decade.
     
  7. fireflydancing

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    Reincarnation is all about love. All kinds of love. Sometimes too much love to handle and a lot of confusion. Christina, I do think that there are older ties between people who love each other in this life.
    I don't 'do' karma but I do believe in finishing complex situations. Somewhere on some level, we made promises and agreements between souls and we only remember the echos, not the full agreements.
    This amnesia gives us the right to make mistakes, to fail, to experience our free will. If we were all clairvoyants and would know everything on a forehand, there wouldn't be room for exploring.
    Meeting your old soul-friends will give you the opportunity to explore your inner self: what do I really want, what are my morals, what are my boundaries, am I willing to change boundaries/perspectives/convictions, and so much more questions they give you to answer.

    edit: This is, of course, my perspective from my point of view and my level of consciousness. There might be answers as valid as mine containing other purposes and values.
     
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  8. Christina Conrad

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    I am not really sure. As far as familiarity, yeah when I met him he felt like family. When I think of it, maybe he was a family member in a past life. There have been things that have happened on both sides of this relationship that require forgiveness. And while I was madly, romantically in love with him in the beginning, it now feels more familial. But that said, I do love him and find him attractive sexually. I can't put my finger on it. I have been unsuccessful with self regression so maybe it's time to find a professional.
     
  9. Cassie

    Cassie Kemetic-Shintoic Pagan

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    Oh, I know this thread isn't about me, but thank you for the concern, and reply. Don't get me wrong, I'm in a relationship now with a man I care about very much. I do love him, and I know that he will provide well for us. He is very agreeable and proactive, we never argue, even if we disagree on something.

    It's just that I'm not in love with him.

    I might feel differently if I meet someone else down the line, but I am content now. At 33, I need to think rationally about my future, I can't make decisions on a whim.

    I am aware of what being in love feels like, and what it means/how it feels emotionally and spiritually.

    I regret to say that I haven't found that here, I feel like a little bird that hasn't sung in a very long time, although I'm taken out of my cage and cared for, I'm not sat on the shoulders of the man who can deliver me to freedom.
    I'm always bound to return to the cage.

    It's important that I mention that I seem to only fall in love with the dead, because the dead can see through the body of the little bird, to the woman within. I have a better connection to Kami/Spirits, than I can with the living. My soul belongs to them, until it goes back to where it's supposed to be.

    Some people are lovers, but I am a fighter, it's.. difficult to accept that I don't have to fight anymore, when I've spent my whole existence doing nothing else. If I'm not fighting beside a man I love, I don't truly know how to be.
     
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  10. Cassie

    Cassie Kemetic-Shintoic Pagan

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    I think that's a good idea, past life regression, for some, can be a difficult feat attempted alone. I've never had problems recalling my past, but I am extremely thankful for that, because my past is a tapestry of difficult experiences I wouldn't like someone else to know in its entirety.

    I hope you'll go through with it, it's a difficult road to take, but it's better to know than to not.
     

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