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  1. Jaimie

    Jaimie Senior Member

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    Hi, I am trying to see if someone that I might think could have been me in a past life, was married and burried but it is very hard. In my flashbacks she was from a mix race but I dont know if she was white or colored on any official paper. Her husband, a sailor, was blond and blue eyed. I have spent time trying to find them in old newspapers from 1910 til 1930 but it is as if they have never existed as a couple. The couple I suspect have very much existed, so I am lost for words. I cant find an engagement and upcoming wedding, I cant find where she was burried in 1922. Maybe the loop hole is that they were married at sea ? Maybe she was burried at sea too ? I have tried to search on this but nothing comes up. I am not from US. Maybe I am missing somerhing, not getting something. Any advice or knowledge about this would be really great. How to find records of such events at sea ?
     
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    Thank you but I have unfortunately already tried that site and nothing comes up. I have tried searching in all the US state papers before this. People put things in the paper those days that we would not do today like visiting family and relatives or returning from a trip and not to mention engagements and weddings and funerals. I can find people with their names, separately, but the only time I found them together was the article of Sadie's death ( which was believed in the article to have been that she wanted to take her own life so she deliberately drowned ). Never before. Never after. No note of her funeral. I thought that maybe, just maybe if they are the ones that match my flashbacks - if my flashbacks are now true - that there was a chance those events happened at sea and was then the reason why it was not in any newspaper.

    Thanks again though, Ken, I am sure the site you linked is of great help to many.

    I guess that Sadie and William Conlin ( the married couple ) will remain a mystery to me.

    The only William Conlin I found that was a sailor died in a tragic way trying to get out of a mental hospital. His sister spoke that she thought he was there because he was so unhappy about loosing several of his buddies ( who had died of the flu ), and he died in his early 20s. No mention of a wife dying before.

    /Jaimie
     
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    If you're buried, try findagrave.com. If the headstone was recorded by the site, you might find it there.
     
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    Thank you, I have tried there too...no luck...If I got it right with my flashbacks her father was ill when she was alive. If Sadie is the one that I remember it meant her father died 3 years after she did and his home is now not visible on Earth Google because of all the trees dominating where the house used to be. I don't think there is a house there no more, if it is it must be falling apart. It is still in a neighborhood with neighbors, houses, so that has not changed. If Sadie is the one then she lived with her husband and her father in that house once, before she died.

    If my flashbacks are further true than her husband got "wild" after her death, drinking, and not taking care of himself properly. I don't know what happened to him. They had no children. If my flashbacks are true than she felt like a failure for not keeping ( miscarriages ) and giving him a baby/babies, he would have been a great dad then and wanted to become one. I think she felt like a failure to her Father because he had high hopes in her getting further in her education ( instead she was a drop out because she got pregnant and had to get married, but she loved her husband very much. She also felt like a "bad girl", because I remember her husband-to-be would tell her he was trying very hard to make a "descent" / married woman out of her, and not go "all the way" before marriage. I think if she had said stop he would have. Basically, she took the blame for everything. It was always only him, for her. She would never dream of being with someone else, she was very shy, no one else would ever come close so she was not be "bad" in that aspect ). I'm sorry I have such a long explanation.

    I suppose my point is that there was no one around to care for her grave, if she ever had one, that is, if her husband either moved on or died young due to his life style or accident and her Father dying shortly after she did.

    I don't know what they did of those they thought/or was 100% had committed suicide. If they were allowed to have a funeral just like everyone else and be buried on sacred ground ?

    I don't know if they separated colored from white folks in the US regarding grave yards and if the colored were in more danger of having theirs removed or something ? That is if my flashbacks are now right and Sadie was of mix race

    Jesus, I got carried away once again with my thoughts...sorry...Thanks again for trying to help :)

    /Jaimie
     
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    I wish I could help you with figuring this out, but I'm not sure if I could.

    What I can tell you, however, is people of color often were buried in separate cemeteries or their own section in a bigger cemetery. Many of them had unmarked graves and the cemeteries have since fallen into decay. Of course, that varies depending on the location, the individual, social status, wealth, etc.
     
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