I'm new here, and although I looked through past threads to see if this topic was posted in the past, I didn't see it. Forgive me if I am posting something that has been answered or discussed previously. I'm wondering about if someone is reincarnated soon after their passing, how could they be a spirit of their former selves. I hope my explanation of my question below makes sense. For example, my mother was, and I am, an intuitive or a sensitive. She told me, before she died from cancer a few days after her 64th birthday, that if she could communicate with us from the other side, she would. On the night she died, I felt that she was hovering at the ceiling in the corner of my bedroom, but after that, I can't say that I ever REALLY felt her presence. I have been disappointed and surprised by this, as I expected to see her spirit, to hear her voice, see things move, etc. I have had those types of interactions with other spirits. I do see things sometimes that I think might be a sign from her, but it could just be a complete coincidence or wishful thinking and mean nothing. Sometimes, I specifically ask her for a sign. At Christmas, I will stare at a single ornament and say, "Mom, if you are here, can you move this ornament just a little?" Nothing. Ever. As background, my mother was a wonderful person who had a hard life. My parents divorced when my sister and I were young because my father was an alcoholic (but sober now for over 30 years). My mom had never worked outside of the home except in her family's dairy stores doing bookkeeping before she got married. After the divorce, she completed vocational training in bookkeeping and worked for the local vocational school. She barely earned enough to live, and our dad never paid child support, so we really struggled for food, gas, electricity, and the necessities of life. Mom lived her life mostly dreaming of a future where she'd have enough money to feel safe. She made lots of "when I have money, I will buy and do..." lists. We found many of those dream wish lists in her home after she passed. Yet, she didn't get to the point of feeling "safe" about money until she was ready to retire. She found out she had cancer a few months after she retired and never really got to relax in her whole life. I felt as if her life were not only cut short, but also was never fully realized. Although she was a giving, loving, caring person, she also held grudges and had a lot of anger for the way her life turned out. Sometimes I would say she was "mad at the world" for all her bad luck (karma?). If she had been quickly reincarnated, I doubt her spirit would be able to communicate with us. Once someone passes, I know they go through a life review and some sort of training before being sent back for a new life, but I don't know how long that is, and it depends on the person/soul. Since some spirits have been in the same places for hundreds of years, I'm guessing something has them stuck here and they have not been reincarnated. Maybe they are delaying Hell (or their life review) or don't want a new life. Is there anything to say you can be a spirit/soul AND be reincarnated at the same time, or are those separate and cannot coincide? I can't see how they COULD coincide. When I watch TV shows about spirits who are heard on EVPs, are seen by their families, or who can manipulate objects to prove their presence, I wonder why my mother hasn't been able to do that. Are spirits able to visit us while they are still in their life review and training phase? My husband's mother, now also deceased, was Portuguese and used a Ouija board nearly every day. She believed in hexes and curses, and sometimes seemed almost like a witch to me. I very much dislike the idea of using a Ouija board, as I feel it can bring unwelcomed spirits/entities into your space. She said she knew how to "control" that. The morning after my mother passed, my husband's mother said my mother didn't go to Heaven; she was in a cold, dark place because she wasn't as good as I thought she was. What a horrible thing to say! I don't believe it, and my husband's mother didn't like me all that much, so I think she meant to hurt me. (She also told me that her Ouija board said I would die young and my husband would live a long, happy life.) However, I do wonder why I don't hear from my mom. Maybe she IS in a place where she isn't allowed to communicate because of her grudges (I hold them, too - the apple didn't fall far from the tree). Anyway, if my story makes sense, I'd love to hear what others think.