I have certain beliefs about our souls and our purpose or goal in this life. I am aware of reincarnation but have never really embraced the idea fully. I believe that we exist in "heaven" before we exist physically here. I do not believe that our lives are a cosmic joke that we are the butt of or that it is some Karmic slap in the face. We choose our parents, we choose the life situation, economic, race, religious, and/or gender that we are born into. I shared this with a friend who was struggling as a mother with her children. She couldn't fathom why things in her life were going the way they were. After hearing this idea of personal choices a light blossomed across her face. She changed her attitude about her children and her struggles melted away. She just needed to understand that her children chose her to be their mother. I believe that we take full responsibility for our physical life before we enter the human form. God and each soul come to an agreement for why, who, what, and where we are to exist. I believe that souls have gender in as far as your basic being. I believe that when a female soul or male soul incarnates into the opposite body that this is part of the contract with God. You are here to learn something related to the body that you are born into. You chose to do this. If you fail the assignment then maybe you will have to repeat the assignment in another lifetime or maybe you will just accept that you cannot learn this lesson.