More Souls Choosing to be Female?

[Harper.]

In other words, the deep essence of us always remains the same. I lost count how many times I've noticed I haven't changed one bit. I look at myself in the mirror and, physical resemblance aside, I see the same person as before. The same emotions, reactions and character. Nothing of me has changed except more and more experiences. I didn't look for my past, it just came out exactly when it had to. It was no daydream nor it was forced: it was me, without a doubt.
Gnothi seauton... know thyself. It's the only purpose for remembering that I can think of.

No, not exactly,

People can have say hundreds of lives but only remember the ones that currently resonate,

Not the same reactions, imagine being born female, after being male, you don’t see the opposite sex the same way you did,
You are still straight, but you see from a different point of view,

From my perspective, my experience, being female was an orchestra of range of feeling, a richer experience,
Compared to being male, which was more a penny whistle in its simplicity LOL

So while the soul is the same, it’s still coloured by experience, everything works by association,
Why do you have a fear or phobia at birth?, likes or dislikes? preference,

Souls develop, or you learn nothing,
Those that fail to learn repeat themselves

 

[Klaud]

From my perspective, my experience, being female was an orchestra of range of feeling, a richer experience,
Compared to being male, which was more a penny whistle in its simplicity LOL

Ain't that the truth? I had a rough day the other day and just kind of lost control of my emotions, and I remember thinking how much easier life seemed as a man lol. A lot of my PLs were male and they never worried about feelings, they just worked right through them. It kind of sucks sometimes, but I think I'd rather feel things.

 

[Harper.]

Ain't that the truth? I had a rough day the other day and just kind of lost control of my emotions, and I remember thinking how much easier life seemed as a man lol. A lot of my PLs were male and they never worried about feelings, they just worked right through them. It kind of sucks sometimes, but I think I'd rather feel things.

True, guys are the trouble shooters, thinking is streamlined to get to conclusions quicker,
It’s about practicality and function, no time to smell the roses,

But, you know there are more girls (as a percentage) than boys being born every year,
Souls are choosing to come back as girls instead of guys,

 

[BenjaminFR]

True, guys are the trouble shooters, thinking is streamlined to get to conclusions quicker,
It’s about practicality and function, no time to smell the roses,

But, you know there are more girls (as a percentage) than boys being born every year,
Souls are choosing to come back as girls instead of guys,

I don't know if more souls wish to be born as females, but just this morning I read that there is a 1.07 ratio males/females being born these past years, due to various factors..

And I smiled at the image you used (the roses), as I am the kind of man to pay so much attention to the roses that I forget where I was going

 

[Harper.]

Yeah, I understand the basic differences between genders but I don't buy overgeneralizations. At best there have been contexts in history in which men have been asked to suppress their emotions, but it doesn't necessarily mean those weren't there.

The assumption that more individuals should choose to be born a certain gender is in itself ridiculous and oblivious of the fact that there is a Divine Feminine principle and a Divine Masculine. Both are essential, and they don't always follow biological gender, they can even coexist in the same individual.
Fluctuations in the ratio are casual and it's normal that they occur.

No,
It’s not just a complex social structure in how men think,
In my opinion, you are interpreting what you want to see, instead of what’s said,

I think men have a simplified streamlined way of thinking, this streamlining also applies to emotions, they don’t lack emotion, just the complexities,

And it’s not an “assumption” you get to choose what sex you want to be before coming here,
Yes everyone has a masculine and feminine side, but once born your perspective shifts to one or other,

That’s why in every reincarnation i’ve had i’ve alternated between male and female, and not been gay, but straight within the sex chosen,

 

[Jim78]

Harper the notion that men have a more simplified, streamlined thinking is nonsense from my perspective.

The best you can say is that YOU have a more simplified, streamlined thinking.

Also my emotional life has been as rich as a woman's.

I wouldn't have been the General I was based on your criteria. The fact that I had a ruthlessness doesn't mean I didn't have a rich emotional life. I feel it with my daughter, my family, my lovers and on and on.

Also simplified, streamlined thinking wouldn't have helped me in battle. I left that to some of the men under my command. I had a vision.

You shouldn't generalise about such things.

 

[glia21]

No,
It’s not just a complex social structure in how men think,
You are interpreting what you want to see, instead of what’s said,

Men have a simplified streamlined way of thinking, this streamlining also applies to emotions, they don’t lack emotion, just the complexities,

And it’s not an “assumption” you get to choose what sex you want to be before coming here,
Yes everyone has a masculine and feminine side, but once born your perspective shifts to one or other,

That’s why in every reincarnation i’ve had i’ve alternated between male and female, and not been gay, but straight within the sex chosen,

You sound like a young person who practices Wicca,


Try stop seeing what you want to see, and value the truth for what it is

I don´t believe any of us has the ultimate truth, so it´s all just opinions, hypothesis, guesses and your assumptions from what you think you have experienced.
As much as I know, or think I know, I have been mostly male and yes, I think I chose to be female this time around - but it´s not as easy going as I wished it was. I´m still more male inside, and I have a hard time to work things out.

Compared to my PL self my current one is definitly influenced by hormones.
Anyway, my Pl self was facing a great complexity in emotions too, and being him I was crying as well. I don´t see the enormous difference some describe here.
When it comes to smell roses though, I gotta admit for some reason I dislike them a lot. Like the smell of lavender I can´t stand it. I do like the smell of grass at least. Most flowers are not for me

The difference in male/female births, if taken from international statistics, is influenced by the fact that boys are still more wanted in certain cultures (abortions) and the fact that girls are over all healthier due to the double X chromosomes and more likely to survive.

 

[SeekerOfKnowledge]

While this thread originally was about White Rose's problems to retrieve more actual memories...

Gender roles are there, have always been there and most likely will always be there, just that the actual details have changed over time. Nowadays writing love poetry, dancing or wearing pants often is considered "unmanly", but when you go back a few centuries... just as an example.

Maybe we should continue this discussion about gender roles in another thread and go back to the original topic here: what could help White Rose to actually remember more of her past lives?

 

[Harper.]

I don´t believe any of us has the ultimate truth, so it´s all just opinions, hypothesis, guesses and your assumptions from what you think you have experienced.
As much as I know, or think I know, I have been mostly male and yes, I think I chose to be female this time around - but it´s not as easy going as I wished it was. I´m still more male inside, and I have a hard time to work things out.

Compared to my PL self my current one is definitly influenced by hormones.
Anyway, my Pl self was facing a great complexity in emotions too, and being him I was crying as well. I don´t see the enormous difference some describe here.
When it comes to smell roses though, I gotta admit for some reason I dislike them a lot. Like the smell of lavender I can´t stand it. I do like the smell of grass at least. Most flowers are not for me

The difference in male/female births, if taken from international statistics, is influenced by the fact that boys are still more wanted in certain cultures (abortions) and the fact that girls are over all healthier due to the double X chromosomes and more likely to survive.

No, you are wrong in all your assumptions,
Do you know what I know?
Do you know how I know?

Obviously not, so how can you assume?

I don’t ask you to believe me,
I do ask for you to do your homework before making assumptions

And again you are wrong on birth rates, it’s not just cultural preference,
It’s a local, and global issue,

I could go in to more detail on this, but I doubt you would believe me,

I have no agenda here, I have told the truth,
I understand with forums like this it would attract a certain percentage of people more focused on fantasy rather than reality,
And that could account for your degree of skepticism,

But again, the only way to validate my comments is for you to do your own homework, independent of this forum, study, study, study,
Then come to a conclusion,

Sound fair?

 

[Speedwell]

But again, the only way to validate my comments is for you to do your own homework, independent of this forum, study, study, study,
Then come to a conclusion,

And what if someone does all that (or has already done so) and comes to a different conclusion?

 

[Harper.]

And what if someone does all that (or has already done so) and comes to a different conclusion?

Then at least it will be an informed conclusion and one not based on assumption

 

[Jim78]

So are you saying, Harper, that its a fact that men have more streamlined, simplified thinking than women?

Are you also saying its a fact that women have a richer emotional life than men?

On what facts do you base those assumptions?

Have you ever been in love?

What's true for you isn't true for me. I was a problem solver but my mind was never simplified. Its true women generally are more emotional than men but that doesn't mean I don't have complicated emotions. It just means that I choose not to show them for the most part.

 

[Harper.]

I always treat people fairly and rational

It’s hard to tell the difference on the internet between those that want to know the truth but make mistakes
And those that feel i’m threatening to there pet fantasies, and negative agendas

I give everyone the doubt until proven otherwise,

I’m not trying to convince you,
Don’t believe anything I say,

But do your homework instead of trying to dismiss what I say out of ignorance or maliciously out of context,
Know the difference between assumption and fact,

 

[Inhaltslos]

***Reopening this thread with a few tweaks where discussion veered toward personal attacks/name calling and deleted other comments where these things were mentioned.
I think the topic of gender and reincarnation is quite fascinating; I’d like to see the discussion continue. However, if we can’t keep the thread respectful, it’s getting locked and pulled.***

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Harper,

I'm not an expert in this area, but do like to try and keep up with the articles that come out. So, though I do not disagree with much of what you have said about the real and distinctive mental and emotional differences between males and females, I feel compelled to point out that these are only true as generalities or averages. However, I think the research shows that there is considerable overlap. Jung discussed the differences in terms of Eros and Logos, which I take to mean feeling/intuition vs. thinking/sensing (or maybe reason/judgment) in his lingo. I think more recently I have seen the relevant factors shown on bell curve type graphs of empathy vs. analysis. (i.e., on a X-Y chart with empathy at one end of the horizontal (X) axis and analysis at the other, while number of females/males at each position on the scale between the two horizontal poles was charted on the Y-axis). I suppose there are other ways of discussing the basic differences. However, the point is that these traits seem to fall on overlapping bell curves with the female peak closer to the “empathy” end of the scale and male peak closer to the “analysis” end of the scale. Nonetheless, in an individual case, it is possible to find a female who is farther towards the “analysis” side of the scale than some men and most women. Likewise, it is possible to find some men who are farther towards the “feeling” side of the scale than some women and most men.

In terms of alternating between female/male in reincarnation, Ian Stevenson’s research seems to show that “individuals” tend to reincarnate far more often in one gender or the other. (Actually, his ratios were about 1 or 2 cross-gender incarnations out of 10 past lives). To me that indicates that the basic differences are not merely biological, but indicative of innate soul/spirit traits. This implies (to me) that masculine/feminine are characteristics that transcend biological sex. On a personal level I see this as part of the basic yin/yang of the universe, but where there are varying amounts of yin in the yang and vice versa. Others differ, and see the soul as beyond gender distinctions. There have been some very long (and often contentious) discussions on the board related to this subject.

In terms of the statistical arguments about whether there are more boys or girls being born at the moment, links to various articles, studies, etc. would probably be helpful.

Cordially,
S&S

PS--After living for 6+ decades, I can safely say that I have found that most of the differences between boys/men and girls/women that I learned as a child are true--as generalities--not as absolutes. So, best not to use them for stereotype enforcement. However, I can also say that modern society probably does a greater disservice to a greater number of people by trying to create and enforce an opposing stereotype where boys/men are supposed to act more stereotypically female and girls/women are supposed to act more stereotypically male. The end result is to create and enforce a gender neutral stereotype that almost no one will fit and that is, therefore, even more oppressive than anything imposed in the past.

 

[Jim78]

S&S. I've also read studies that say women are generally more emphatic than men and that men are generally more analytical than women but that's not the same as what Harper is saying.

Harper says men have more simplified thinking than women. Firstly that's a blanket statement and secondly men aren't more simplified in their thinking than women. That's simply not true, especially since studies reveal analytical thinking which points to a complex intelligence.

Harper also said that women have richer emotions than men. Again that's a blanket statement. Also men are capable of just as much complex emotions as women.

Harper reminds me of some men's attitude to me during the times of the two women I have deeply loved in my life. I loved them because they were soulmates yet they also happened to be physically beautiful, so some men simply assumed my feelings were merely based on sexual desire because they had never felt true love themselves.

Harper displays that level of emotional intelligence. I don't feel that he is in a position to say that all men have the same range of emotions as him.

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Jim,

I'm not sure where to put "thinking" on the scales involved. We all--male and female--think. A person can think/consider things from closer to the "empathy" end of the scale or closer to the "analytical" end of the scale. Based on what I have read, it does seem that the average male will be somewhat less engaged in/by empathy/feelings and more analytical while engaging in "thinking". Likewise, the average female will be more engaged in/by empathy/feelings and somewhat less analytical while engaging in "thinking".

I think what Harper was saying is that being more engaged in feelings while simultaneously engaged in analysis makes the process of analysis (and thinking) more complex and less streamlined. Maybe that is not what he is saying. However, if that is what he is saying, I probably agree with him.

Cordially,
S&S

PS--I know from personal experience that my ability to engage in thinking from a purely analytical standpoint suffers greatly when I'm distracted by a lot of emotions. My work requires a lot of the former, and when the latter comes into play my ability to get my work done usually goes out the window.

 

[Jaimie]

When I read the question "More souls choosing to be female?" several things came to mind:

• Medical speaking female babies stand a better chance for survival ?
• Spiritual-wise: Girls and women are still in this modern day around the world living in suppression. The idea that they have less value. In some countries some even chose to abort or kill or give away babies because they were girls and the families thought having a boy was more valuable.
• Once when I was in meditation I saw suffragettes and was one of them, not at all the front leaders or anything but part of fighting the same cause. At the time I thought things like we were meant to be here, all of us, to fight, that we were needed to be part of the fight, that girls and women were suffering in ways that boys and men could not identify themselves with. The best thing to know how something feels is to feel it one self, right? "Walk a mile in my shoes...", that type of thing.

Just my thoughts...
/Jaimie

 

[Jim78]

Hi S&S.

I, personally, am able to approach problems from both ends of the scale as the situation depends it. It made me a most effective leader so while I can't ever remember being female I am well versed in the battle between empathy and analytical thinking.

So are you saying that women have more chaotic minds and emotions generally then men? That an average woman is incapable of clear minded thinking? I can only speak from the perspective of the women I have had dealings with. One of the women I loved was very clear minded and ambitious yet she also had a high degree of empathy. Obviously at times she made foolish mistakes but she reached the top of her chosen field. She had focus like a laser beam yet managed to be divorced from the ruthlessness inherant to analytical thinking. What I'm saying is that she outshone most men in her profession and did it without losing what made her a woman.

All that is required from men and women is self discipline. The ability to managed emotions and thinking at both ends of the spectrum. In that event and in my experience that balancing act levels any differences between men and women. Both genders are compatible and complimentary in their similarities and differences. That doesn't mean men are generally less complex and have shallower emotions than women. It just means they must discipline themselves to play to their gender complimentary strengths IMO.

 

[Polaris8]

Hi Jim,

I'm not sure where to put "thinking" on the scales involved. We all--male and female--think. A person can think/consider things from closer to the "empathy" end of the scale or closer to the "analytical" end of the scale. Based on what I have read, it does seem that the average male will be somewhat less engaged in/by empathy/feelings and more analytical while engaging in "thinking". Likewise, the average female will be more engaged in/by empathy/feelings and somewhat less analytical while engaging in "thinking".

I think what Harper was saying is that being more engaged in feelings while simultaneously engaged in analysis makes the process of analysis (and thinking) more complex and less streamlined. Maybe that is not what he is saying. However, if that is what he is saying, I probably agree with him.

Cordially,
S&S

PS--I know from personal experience that my ability to engage in thinking from a purely analytical standpoint suffers greatly when I'm distracted by a lot of emotions. My work requires a lot of the former, and when the latter comes into play my ability to get my work done usually goes out the window.

SeaandSky,

Well I will put my two cents in on this topic as to why more souls are choosing to be female.

In this lifetime I am male. However soul in its natural state is either male or female. We are for a better term gender neutral as within soul both positive and negative polarities within consciousness are in perfect balance. We only experience gender when we incarnate. This is because here we live in a world of duality where everything has it's opposite. So we have all experienced being the opposite gender at some point in our many lifetimes here on this earth to balance us out as soul. The earth as a whole has been for the most part male dominated as a group consciousness on this planet for last 2000 years or so. However the heart chakra of planet earth has opened up in the last few decades causing a shift in polarity on the group consciousness of planet earth as we go from the late young soul stage of consciousness to a mature soul stage of awareness in the general population.

Which is why there are so many changes happening all over the planet both on an individual level and also within countries, governments, social awareness and acceptances like race, sexual orientation, those born transgender ect.. So many souls are choosing to be female during this time to take part and help the planet evolve to a higher state of awareness. This does not mean that men can't feel or have emotional awareness far from it. It's just that those lessons are more easily learned if one is female in many cultures still however that is changing. The ideal state of either gender is to be balanced in polarity of consciousness no matter what gender you happened to be in at present. Just like with gay people who face discrimination still to a point it does not matter who you love... what matters is you love. This state of awareness comes from a higher state of being within the higher dimensions. This is where the heart chakra comes from as it is the bridge between the higher and lower dimensions within man.

So many women can be strong thinkers, analytical, show bravery and strong convictions in what they want to achieve and not be limited by social norms, just as men can be strong and tuff when need be yet kind, gentle and caring when the occasions arrives to do so. Both genders need to be in touch with their feeling and not be afraid to show emotion and express it when needed because in the end it take courage to love for both. In the end this is why we are all here. So that the soul may know itself by it's own experience.

Love and peace to all..

P.

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi Jim,

Remember, all graphs and analysis based on graphs are just statistical compilations. They do not say what is possible in any individual case, just what the normal bell-curve distribution of men or women is--at the present moment--assuming they are done correctly. However, there always are, and always have been people who do not fit into the normative distribution of attributes--THANK GOD!! The world would be a much poorer place without them. So, all the things you have discussed are quite possible. There will always be exceptions to every "rule" (or norm) when it comes to human behavior and abilities.

Hi Polaris,

The graphs discussed measure where things are at present for the great number of people. As noted above, they do not say that there cannot be people who do not fit into the normal trait distribution in the graphs. There always are exceptions. Likewise, they do not say what things might look like a century from now, nor do they say what things might have looked like a century ago. I tend to think that a century ago, there was even less overlap between the two bell curves and that we are moving towards more overlap, but only the future will tell.

To Whoever,

I think a lot of things are being said that seem somewhat defensive in nature, when that is not really necessary. Neither type of thinking is innately inferior to the other. It depends on what is being "thought" about. When working as an electrical engineer and designing complex systems within the scope of that skill area to accomplish a specific electric design goal, pure analysis is going to be more necessary than empathy. However, when working with human beings and groups of human beings, you better bring a lot empathy and intuition with you. Different areas call for different abilities and skill sets.

Cordially,
S&S

 

[There and back again]

Few things get me lets say "triggered" than the usual social programming that makes sexism towards men not only ok but encouraged which is immensely rage inducing at times as most men don't have it easy nor is their any privilege of just being male. Some of the reasons that immediately comes to mind why more souls wanting to come into this world as female is mostly down to there being far fewer social pressures to stunt emotional and spiritual growth while men get worked like machines especially in Asian nations where basically life is nothing but an endless grind. As for non conforming males being between a rock and a hard place going against the grain one has to live with and just suffer through as that is all there is....

The male condition boils down to one of endless work, soul crushing emotional blockages, and almost non existent spiritual growth other than what $ociety doles out.

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi TBA,

I don't agree with every thing you have just said, but overall, you are right on point! And, as you say, in most cases:

"The male condition boils down to one of endless work, soul crushing emotional blockages, and almost non existent spiritual growth other than what $ociety doles out."

Not true for everyone of course, but that is what we're programmed for, and the burden we're encouraged (or even demanded) to accept.

Cordially,
S&S

 

[glia21]

No, you are wrong in all your assumptions,
Do you know what I know?
Do you know how I know?

Obviously not, so how can you assume?

I don’t ask you to believe me,
I do ask for you to do your homework before making assumptions

And again you are wrong on birth rates, it’s not just cultural preference,
It’s a local, and global issue,

I could go in to more detail on this, but I doubt you would believe me,

I have no agenda here, I have told the truth,
I understand with forums like this it would attract a certain percentage of people more focused on fantasy rather than reality,
And that could account for your degree of skepticism,

But again, the only way to validate my comments is for you to do your own homework, independent of this forum, study, study, study,
Then come to a conclusion,

Sound fair?

Oh wow this reminds me of the minion shouting "illumination!!"

 

[TheDivineOne]

Despite it being only a two-page thread (at the time of me posting in it), I don't feel like reading this whole thread from its first post to its most recent one. But if it is true that more souls are choosing to be female, it's an interesting concept, given I'm one of those souls with that preference. Being male physically is a traumatic experience that's left a foul taste in my mouth. I really can't wait until it's over.

 

[SeaAndSky]

Hi DO,

We also have some folks on the board who are doing their best to cope with a "move" from the opposite direction (from male to female). So, it works both ways. What I notice is that a lot of these moves seem to come on the heels of a traumatic lifetime/death as the other sex. So, e.g., we have some current females on the board who recall dying in war and coming back on purpose in a form where they could avoid that fate, etc. I've always thought from the very sketchy impressions you had of a possible PL, that you might have had a similar experience of moving from the opposite direction (F to M) with death as a female caused by ?? . But, just guessin'.

Cordially,
S&S

 

[Polaris8]

Despite it being only a two-page thread (at the time of me posting in it), I don't feel like reading this whole thread from its first post to its most recent one. But if it is true that more souls are choosing to be female, it's an interesting concept, given I'm one of those souls with that preference. Being male physically is a traumatic experience that's left a foul taste in my mouth. I really can't wait until it's over.

TheDivineeOne,

By the way love your profile name. Yes at times being male is in some aspects harder in that many are still not allow to show emotions unless it's anger, rage ect.. However these things are changing as well. For me being male in this lifetime is about balance. Because as a child I was very timid and shy and expressed very deep emotions early on when such things for a boy were not accepted at that time during the 1960's. I was called a sissy for fag for being so and even threated with physical harm at times. Over time I learned to embrace my masculine side while still keeping in balance my feminine side as well. Also in this lifetime I came out in the late 1970's. Which at the time was also a no, no. Since then I realized on a soul level I chose to be gay in this lifetime to learn the lessons of unconditional love. Because in lifetimes pass I was not so enlighten. Being I was part of the royal court in the middle ages where my job was to seek out those that were homosexual within the church and out them. Leading to their death which at the time I took great pride in doing so as I thought I was doing gods work. Not knowing I was doing just the opposite. As it is not so much the act that creates karma but rather the intent behind it that does.

This caused myself to be cut off from the flow of divine love within spirit which exists in all things making my ego feel I was above those that were different than myself. So in this lifetime I choose to become that which I hated the most in order to learn the lessons of unconditional love which connects all things within the cosmos and to the source of all that is which is god. This is how karma balances things out within the inner self and why we are here.

Hope to hear more from you as you are truly a wise old soul my dear.....

Peace and love...

P.

 

[TheDivineOne]

TheDivineeOne,

By the way love your profile name. Yes at times being male is in some aspects harder in that many are still not allow to show emotions unless it's anger, rage ect.. However these things are changing as well. For me being male in this lifetime is about balance. Because as a child I was very timid and shy and expressed very deep emotions early on when such things for a boy were not accepted at that time during the 1960's. I was called a sissy for fag for being so and even threatened with physical harm at times. Over time I learned to embrace my masculine side while still keeping in balance my feminine side as well. Also in this lifetime I came out in the late 1970's. Which at the time was also a no, no. Since then I realized on a soul level I chose to be gay in this lifetime to learn the lessons of unconditional love. Because in lifetimes pass I was not so enlighten. Being I was part of the royal court in the middle ages where my job was to seek out those that were homosexual within the church and out them. Leading to their death which at the time I took great pride in doing so as I thought I was doing gods work. Not knowing I was doing just the opposite. As it is not so much the act that creates karma but rather the intent behind it that does.

This caused myself to be cut off from the flow of divine love within spirit which exists in all things making my ego feel I was above those that were different than myself. So in this lifetime I choose to become that which I hated the most in order to learn the lessons of unconditional love which connects all things within the cosmos and to the source of all that is which is god. This is how karma balances things out within the inner self and why we are here.

Hope to hear more from you as you are truly a wise old soul my dear.....

Peace and love...

P.

I don't care how harder it is being one gender verses the other. Surely, some women will argue being a woman is harder or easier as men will say being a man is for a myriad of different reasons, which don't really matter in the long run if they don't know what it's like being the other gender. But my thing is I don't care, nor do I care about any "good reason" I "chose" being in this situation. No reason will ever be good enough. As long as I can be female next time around and have a body I'm absolutely happy with is absolutely all that matters. If you're right about intent causing karma more than act then I guess it's more than likely to happen since my intent is that strong, right? But I guess the only other thing that matters so I need not repeat this experience again is that I learned that my "lesson" in this life was to appreciate being female and not take it for granted. But I am sorry to hear about your experiences with showing your emotions. I don't believe in God by the way.

Edit -- Sorry if I came off sounding mean. I feel immeasurably strongly about my desire to be female as it means more to me than life itself. But when you mentioned it being hard at times to be male, it had me up-at-arms as it's all the more reason why I want absolutely nothing to do with being male anyway. Also, while I don't subscribe to the ideology of "God" I do however subscribe to there being a Higher Presence or a Creator, so to speak, and I also strongly believe that EVERY DESIRE no matter what it is is meant to be realized and fulfilled.

 

[Polaris8]

I don't care how harder it is being one gender verses the other. Surely, some women will argue being a woman is harder or easier as men will say being a man is for a myriad of different reasons, which don't really matter in the long run if they don't know what it's like being the other gender. But my thing is I don't care, nor do I care about any "good reason" I "chose" being in this situation. No reason will ever be good enough. As long as I can be female next time around and have a body I'm absolutely happy with is absolutely all that matters. If you're right about intent causing karma more than act then I guess it's more than likely to happen since my intent is that strong, right? But I guess the only other thing that matters so I need not repeat this experience again is that I learned that my "lesson" in this life was to appreciate being female and not take it for granted. But I am sorry to hear about your experiences with showing your emotions. I don't believe in God by the way.

Edit -- Sorry if I came off sounding mean. I feel immeasurably strongly about my desire to be female as it means more to me than life itself. But when you mentioned it being hard at times to be male, it had me up-at-arms as it's all the more reason why I want absolutely nothing to do with being male anyway. Also, while I don't subscribe to the ideology of "God" I do however subscribe to there being a Higher Presence or a Creator, so to speak, and I also strongly believe that EVERY DESIRE no matter what it is is meant to be realized and fulfilled.

The Divineone, Question if I may ask. You said you have strong desires to be female. Are you female in body now or are you male wanting to be female? As I have had friends that are transgender which is another soul lesson in itself. A far harder one to over come then being gay. But as soul we don't have a gender in our natural state in spirit. We are for a better term gender neutral having both polarities of consciousness in perfect balance. We only experience gender when we incarnate in the physical world of duality, time space and matter. Here we experience everything with its opposites. As for God I don't believe in a traditional god/deity either. After my NDE I experience god as a higher state of consciousness which is omnipresence in all things throughout the cosmos. Both in this dimensions and the higher ones as well. God has no gender as well as it is above time, space and matter. You, I and all other souls are apart of this higher presence. So we don't come for sin we come from divine love. The human race as it backwards.


You are correct in that every desire needs to be realized and fulfilled. If it is not realized in the physical world during this lifetime then it will have to be realized either on the astral or mental dimensions of being as this is the working out of karma within the higher dimensions. So any unfulfilled desire in this lifetime will be realized on the astral plane after death. Which is why some call it a heaven.

Have a good evening.

P.

 

[TheDivineOne]

The Divineone, Question if I may ask. You said you have strong desires to be female. Are you female in body now or are you male wanting to be female?

Excellent question, Polaris8, coming from someone who even quoted me saying all of the following...

Being male physically is a traumatic experience that's left a foul taste in my mouth. I really can't wait until it's over.

As long as I can be female next time around and have a body I'm absolutely happy with is absolutely all that matters. If you're right about intent causing karma more than act then I guess it's more than likely to happen since my intent is that strong, right? But I guess the only other thing that matters so I need not repeat this experience again is that I learned that my "lesson" in this life was to appreciate being female and not take it for granted.

I feel immeasurably strongly about my desire to be female as it means more to me than life itself. But when you mentioned it being hard at times to be male, it had me up-at-arms as it's all the more reason why I want absolutely nothing to do with being male anyway.

Yeah, I would've easily sworn me having said all that would've made it obvious that I'm physically male seeking to become female, but I guess not!

But as soul we don't have a gender in our natural state in spirit. We are for a better term gender neutral having both polarities of consciousness in perfect balance. We only experience gender when we incarnate in the physical world of duality, time space and matter.

I know spirits don't have a gender! I've been told that countless times and knowing that doesn't help me!

You, I and all other souls are apart of this higher presence. So we don't come for sin we come from divine love. The human race as it backwards.

What does this mean?

You are correct in that every desire needs to be realized and fulfilled. If it is not realized in the physical world during this lifetime then it will have to be realized either on the astral or mental dimensions of being as this is the working out of karma within the higher dimensions. So any unfulfilled desire in this lifetime will be realized on the astral plane after death. Which is why some call it a heaven.

Funny you should say that. I've posted threads here, and on Reddit, asking if we can have specific looks accompanying our next life bodies, because I do have a preference with how I'd like my next-life body to be like as I can give a list of things I dislike about this body, not just the masculine aspects of it. Annoyingly, I apparently have the type of body most people would want that I hate, but there are feminine aspects of the female body I crave to have that most women hate. But I'm being told such little details will never matter in the grand scheme of things with regards how our Higher Self's viewpoint when transitioning from life to life. So what? Do I have to fight with my Higher Self to have the body I want to have? If so so be it because it means a lot to me.

Frustratingly, it seems no one understands how much all this means to me and no person, be it online or in person can actually confirm for me whether or not I'll be a girl in my next life and give me all the answers I'm seeking. Plus, I've had the traumatic experiences of trolls exploiting my issue and using it against me to torment me and I can't have that happening again. I don't want to say never, but I'm confident enough to bet money it will be a very long time before I ever post on this forum again if I ever do at all.