Recent content by Arrant

I do like that. It's a beautiful way of looking at it. And, yes, I'm sure you feel it more than me. When my dad died last year, he was 83, and was physically and mentally worn out. I am quite certain he was ready to move on.

Also a possibility. Although I do believe we learn best in close interaction with others, and by "close" I mean emotional closeness. Emotional isolation withers the spirit, don't you think? I'm not sure.

Yes, you have a point. I believe that, too. But I struggle to make the connection...

Interesting question! No, I have no trouble expressing myself - generally speaking, except for a certain inhibition with relative strangers or those I feel lack the ability to consider new ideas/ways of thinking. As for feeling uncomfortable with this life or this world? I feel I am driven by...

All of this makes sense. However, if I thought I really was "starting over with a clean slate" I'd be really depressed on two counts. The first would be worry over what on earth I'd done so terrible to necessitate a fresh start; the second that a fresh start implies many more lives to come. As I...

This is a question that has been troubling me for some time! Of course, when I say "alone" I acknowledge that the presence of one's parents and siblings, etc, make that concept, on the face of it, sound questionable. But one doesn't necessarily feel bonded or drawn to one's relatives - even...

This thread resonates with me, particularly today as, in less than three hours, I am attending my own father's funeral service, during which he will be cremated - as per his wishes. To me, and all my family, it seems a much cleaner way to dispose of his mortal remains. As its been two weeks to...

Thanks for your thoughts everyone. I feel consoled by what has been written, and reassured too.

Hi all, Not sure that I've posted this in the most appropriate place, but, having recently lost my father, I have a burning question... I know my father is still close - in moments of calm and peace I think I can feel him - and I've no doubt he is looking down on me, and still doing his...

No, that's the thing. I'm fit, able, well educated, intelligent - yet alone and without direction. And it's destroying me bit by bit each day.

Thanks for your thoughts on this. I think I am addicted to both alcohol and sex. As with any addiction, I've noticed a progression over the years. Either activity used to give me a high, and though there are times when they still do, for the most part I often feel compelled to do one or the...

I keep reading that addictive personalities are deficient in some chemical or other in brain. Is that all there is to it? Is drug, sex, gambling, or alcohol addiction all due to neurological factors? Or can it be PL related? Any thoughts?

I have been "troubled" by these thoughts all my life - it has led me to great unhappiness, but also great enlightenment - at least I think so! How worthless would all that suffering be if not...

Can anyone offer an opinion? Given the fact that it's basic human nature to want to love and be loved, or simply to have friends and a social life - a sense of purpose to one's life, a direction,etc - would anyone of us choose to lead a life that renders us effectively spectators on the lives...

I agree with you entirely. My point was simply that what happens to the body is a matter of irrelevance to the departed soul. The soul is past caring.