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Karoliina said:
I still suggest you look also to the (Finnish) Swedish surname "Sjölin", as it sounds just like "Scherlin".

Karoliina
I used that spelling when I did my researching, with ö and with a plain "o" Although I don't know that I covered every possible avenue of research. I know Kade's PL family is out there somewhere - - I just think it's going to take researching old newspapers, cemetaries, etc. I really think a qualified, dependable PL regressionist that has experience dealing with children would be very beneficial. There's a reason he's remembering (i.e., I think there's something that needs to be resolved). I feel like things are coming to a pinnacle, too.
 
I am glad to hear another child plays like that. It is very disturbing to me because I buried my own child. To even play burying hurts me. I try my best to play but sometimes a tear will fall and he tries to comfort me. Maybe he was buried somewhere also. Maybe he is on a missing list. Remember months ago he said they dug a hole and put his mother in it; and put dirt on top. Maybe it was the same for him and his sister. It could have been hidden and not a funeral as I was thinking. I will search missing lists.

Kade is going to start a soccer team next month. He will be interacting with other children. I am sure he will also begin living this life. Another thing my daughter said is Kade is always referring to age 5; I wonder if he was five years-old.

I know what you mean about him wondering how he got here. He has asked how did you get me. He also said you die and then you wake up. It must be confusing to a little one.

No we do not have any Scherlins in our family. There were Sparks thats the closest I can think of. No one in our family has ever talked about a previous life; except Casey stating she drowned in a well.

My son in laws mother said her husband of years ago was named Todd. He was shot by an intruder I think. He was in his thirties. I think this happened in the late sixties. He was an alcoholic and mean from what she has told us. Other than that we do not even have a Todd in the family.

I too feel there is something Kade is trying to piece together. We have asked him if he remembers his first name and sometimes he says I was Todd and other times he will say I am Kade; or he will say he does not know. But he is consistant with Todd being the shooter.
 
Kitn said:
I am glad to hear another child plays like that. It is very disturbing to me because I buried my own child. To even play burying hurts me. I try my best to play but sometimes a tear will fall and he tries to comfort me.
Oh Kitn - - *BIG HUG* I can only imagine how hard that must be for you. I have dreams of losing my children and when I wake up, rather than feeling relief that it was a dream, that horrible feeling stays in the pit of my stomach. I hope none of this comes out sounding insensitive, because it's meant quite the opposite: I'd like to say that Kade has brought you here and hopefully this forum has helped you, even if only a little, with Casey.

Kitn said:
Maybe he is on a missing list. Remember months ago he said they dug a hole and put his mother in it; and put dirt on top. Maybe it was the same for him and his sister. It could have been hidden and not a funeral as I was thinking. I will search missing lists.
Gosh! I never even thought of this!!

I sure wish reincarnation was more widely accepted. You could then call various city detectives and relay the story.
 
I've called some city detectives and libraries and Ailish suggested that I just say I'm working on some family history which was true--just not my family.

I didn't get anywhere and also tried various spellings of the name and used Nicholas and Emma as first names.

Also, a little note. My son told me about a past life where he said his father's name was William Martin and later when i asked him what his name was, he said it was William Martin.

I thought that this was where the story would fall apart and actually started to disbelieve parts of it. However, when I looked it up on the internet, I found William Martin Sr. and William Martin Jr.

So, long way of saying that maybe his name was Todd. Even though it sounds like Todd was not Kade's father, it might just be a coincidence and his name could be Todd.

Also, I remember something from one of Carol's books. I think her son Chase floated around after he was dead and went back to see his wife and kids. So, maybe Kade was doing that 'before he went to the light' and saw himself being buried. If he was a child at that time, I'm sure it must have been very confusing.

Vicky
 
vicky said:
I've called some city detectives and libraries and Ailish suggested that I just say I'm working on some family history which was true--just not my family.

I didn't get anywhere and also tried various spellings of the name and used Nicholas and Emma as first names.
Great idea, Vicky!! When I was doing some genealogy, my father told me his great-grandfather's last name was "Whoberry" but had no idea how it was spelled, so when I did my research, I had to use a ton of spellings and when I did find information (census, deeds and such), I found that various documents used a variety of spellings. The reason was because he evidently was illiterate (he was native american), as his "signature" was an "X" on the documents.

vicky said:
So, long way of saying that maybe his name was Todd. Even though it sounds like Todd was not Kade's father, it might just be a coincidence and his name could be Todd.
Exactly. I also researched the name Ted and Thad, as well, and didn't come up with anything.

vicky said:
Also, I remember something from one of Carol's books. I think her son Chase floated around after he was dead and went back to see his wife and kids. So, maybe Kade was doing that 'before he went to the light' and saw himself being buried. If he was a child at that time, I'm sure it must have been very confusing.
Very true.

I just know there's information out there somewhere. It couldn't have been THAT long ago, considering the automobile, ice box, and Moon Tag game. We just haven't found the right place to search just yet.
 
After reading the post by Deborah about disorientation in children with PLM, maybe Kade's name was Todd Scherlin.

This weekend I did find a little bit more about what he thinks about. He said his mother and he were buried by the "church people." I asked him if he knew where his mother was buried and he said "by the church." He said he was buried there too, and he watched when they were getting buried. He also said his other father was there when they were buried. I said, "that must have been very scary to watch." He said "no I wasn't scared." I then asked "do you have a stone?" He did not know what I meant. So I told him that a stone is like the one by Casey and grandpa where they are buried. He said there was nothing there. If what he remember is seeing the burial, he may not know a stone comes later. There may be one there now.

This may be why he likes to play "bury me" a lot. If what he tells is past life memories, maybe that is the last thing he remembers about his life on earth.

I also tried getting him to draw. He does not have the small muscle co-ordination yet to draw much more than an uneven circle. He told me to draw his other mother. I drew a fat lady and he got mad. He said she is not fat and scribbled over it. I drew his other father and he said he has to have a hat on. He was insistant that the mother be as big (tall) as the father. I tried drawing the mother shorter than the father and he said they are the same size. I will try this again another time he is here.

I am going to try googling Todd Scherlin soundex and see what I come up with. Thanks everyone.
 
Hi Kitn, Hi everyone,
Below is a link to an obituary of person with the last name of
"Scherling" in Fargo ND, I see that there is also a "Nick Scherling" listed in the obituary, I wonder if these people
could somehow be related to the Sherlins the Kade talks about
? maybe the are cousins? maybe Kade could recognise some of these names? I don't know if this will help any but I thought it was interesting so I posted it here.

Here is the link:

http://www.korsmofuneralservice.com/fullobit.cfm?ID=72

Wizard
 
Thanks Wizard, I will do that. I am also going to see if I can find anything about the family.
 
I googled and found the Nick in the obit's was born in 1978. I think that would be him because there was divorce-custody papers filed in Fargo court system; the parents name matched the son of the deceased. He was the only child. I did find there are a lot of Sherling's in that area. So I will look some more. Thanks again.
 
WAY TO GO!!

Do you think that Kade could have been Nick? I know he said Nick was his brother, but the location and timing sounds about right. Did the parents "survive" Nick?
 
The Nick above is still alive. He was listed as a grandchild of the deceased. The son of the deceased name matched that of the boy Nick named in the custody papers in court. So that Nick he was not. Maybe his name could have been Nicholas. He said that Nick was his brother and his sister was Emmy. He sometimes said I'm Todd, but then again he says Todd was the mean man. He may be relating himself as Todd during his play acting. I think in time he may come up with a name. If I ask him he will come up with a power ranger name, lol. So it is best to let him tell me.

I have been googling different spellings and find no murder of a child. I also have been trying to find church cemetery records online. I have tried findagrave.com and found nothing there. I hate to pay for ancestery.com because I would not use it that much. There are a lot of Scherlins and Scherlings in there, but they don't give out free info. I remember my father telling me the Mormon Church keeps records of everyone. I guess I could try that.
 
Didn't Kade also say that Nicholas and Emmy were shot too?

I wonder if there is any way to just google some of the names from the obituary. For example, the woman who died would have been alive when Kade died in his last life. Maybe if there was an obituary of Kade and his family's death in his last life, she would be listed.

I'll try it.

Vicky
 
Yes, he said he saw his mother shot. He was hiding in the cupboard. Todd got him out and took him into the hall, but not a hallway, and shot him too. He said Nicholas and Emmy were shot too.

I found familysearch.org and it has lots of names and soundex spelling. I have been searching there.

Years ago many southern homes had open hallways in the middle of the house. It was to help cool the house. Usually the kitchen and living were on one side and sleeping rooms on the other. It was covered with the house roof, but it was more like a deck with two open ends. I wonder if this is what he meant by hall. I don't know if this was the norm in the northern part of the country.
 
Kade told me in the car today that he knows his other name. I asked him what it was and he said "I don't want to tell you." I told him that it was okay and if he did not want to tell me now he can tell me later.
 
Good answer Kitn. Sometimes its hard to put aside our curiousity so I applaud your focus on Kade's timing.

Vicky
 
He is spending the night with me. Right now he is in the tub; I am in my room so he is right by me. We played "bury me" and I asked him about his name Scherlin. He told me the reason he does not want to tell me is because " I have lots of horrible secrets and when I think about them it scares me." So I will just wait until he wants to tell me. He has told me so much I wonder what could be worse than what he has already said.
 
Kitn said:
He is spending the night with me. Right now he is in the tub; I am in my room so he is right by me. We played "bury me" and I asked him about his name Scherlin. He told me the reason he does not want to tell me is because " I have lots of horrible secrets and when I think about them it scares me." So I will just wait until he wants to tell me. He has told me so much I wonder what could be worse than what he has already said.

I can imagine how confusing and scary this must be for Kade. As someone has suggested somewhere on the forums, maybe you ask him if he can draw some of the secrets he has. If he could do that, it might be easier for him to talk about, and then you could help him cope with them batter. You're doing a wonderful job helping Kade.

John
 
I wish he had the small muscle co-ordination to draw but his body has not developed enough for that yet. He can only draw straight lines and very not so round circles. Usually those skills come closer to age 5. Today we were looking at playing cards, counting the centers and matching to numbers. He said this is five that's how old I was when I was the other boy. I said "oh you were five" and he said "yes, but I died."
I said "you did what happend" and he said "shot". So he is consistant.

Another thing he has told me is that he was in a big storm. That the sky was black and it was a tornado. He said it was like a big monster coming out of the sky. I asked him what happened and he said they ran. I asked him where he went and what he did but he never told me anything except describing the big black sky. I did look up tornados in ND and there was one in June 1957; a series of 5, one being an F-5. I know there are tornados in many areas but this seems to fit the time frame and possible state. There is also a winter festival in Fargo ND. You just never know when a child comes up with things if it really happened or imagination.

We passed the place they give riding lessons this morning and he saw the horses. I told his mother I would pay for riding lessons for him. She said he was too little maybe next year. He shouted from the back carseat "I'm not too little, I'm not afraid, I know how to ride a horse."

Looks like a storm coming got to go roll up my car windows.
 
I remember now you saying that Kade didn't have the co-ordination for drawing yet. As for the tornados, his description of them as monsters coming out of the sky is very accurate. I've witnessed a lot of tornados, and the horrible darkness and power would seem like a monster to a child. It's possible that the fear was so overwhelming that he doesn't recall many of the other details. Tornados are the most terrifying things I've ever seen.

John
 
1957 would correlate to the Moon Tag game also. Another piece to the puzzle.

Has Kade been in or seen a tornado in this life?

Vicky
 
No he has not although we do get them here. I remember when he was two and he was watching a kids tape. I think it is Sesame St.. I think Big Bird is in the living room and there is a knock on the door. He opens it and a white funnel with a face says "it'ssss winnndy out here" He used to have me rewind it over and over again. But we never discussed what it was. It was animated and not scary, just a friendly funnel. I thought he just liked the way it say "it'ssss winnndy".

I too was thinking about the Moon Tag game when I came across the 1957 N.D. tornados.

Another name he mentioned today is Johnson. We do not know any Johnson's and I cannot remember Johnson mentioned in any of the programs we watch. I asked his mom and she said she does not know where he came up with it. We don't have any towns around here called Johnson either. It is a very common name. I was wondering if it could have been his first name or something like Johnson-maybe Jonathan? Can't think of anything else close to that for a first name. Anybody have suggestions of forgein names similar to Johnson?

I am still googling searching for anything close to what he says. I searched North Dakota cold cases and found nothing.
 
Did he mention Johnson in context of a name of a person or of a city?
Maybe Todd's last name was Johnson since it probably wasn't the same as his last name/

Vicky
 
He said he thinks his name was Johnson. I have never heard of a given name as Johnson. He may have it mixed up with something else. I just don't think that was his name.
 
Maybe Johnson could have been a middle name? Some kid's middle names are the maiden name of their mom.
 
Your right, I never thought of that. Yesterday I was looking in the phone book and he was sitting next to me. An old birthday card fell out and he picked it up. It had teddy bears on it. He told me his other mother gave him one like that long time ago and he wanted to know what this one said. He told me he thought she sent it and she just wanted to see if he was happy. I sure would like to know what goes on inside his little mind.

I've googled and googled and come up with nothing.
 
I think its kind of cool that even though Kade's last life sounds tragic, he feels that his other mother loved him and that her love transcends time, space, death and rebirth.
 
Oh yes, by the way he speaks of his other mother I know he loved her very much. He has said sometimes she was mean. I get the impression she was strict but very loving. He has also said he tried to protect her but couldn't and got beat up.

Yesterday we made a spaceship out of tin foil, styrofoam plates and multi colored glass buttons. We had a good time and he told me his other father used to make things with him and he could use the glue. I asked him if his other father was sometimes mean and he said no he was very nice and they had lots of fun. He also said his other father was hurt in the big storm (tornado?). I was thinking maybe at the time of the tornado the father was still with the family. I believe I saw an injured list for the 1957 tornado. I will check that out. I hope it was for the town or surrounding area we are thinking.
 
He said his other father was there at the burial. Maybe in spirit? I will ask him, next time he brings something up, if his father was alive when the other boy was killed.
 
Found this about tornado of 1957

) Dave, it is fascinating to read the other accounts of that momentous day. As I said, I do recall it as a hot, humid, but clear day. I was 10 at the time and lived at 1130 13th St North, (now called University Drive.) At about 4 or so it started getting cloudy and by 5PM I believe WDAY television was giving storm warnings. The sky continued to darken, and the air was oppressive, but still there was a hint of a breeze. Mom sent me out to get the clothes off of the line, and as I looked at the sky, it was a sick greenish almost yellowish black color, and I recall the clouds roiling or sort of boiling. That's the best description I can come up with. Also, the air became dead still. I took the clothes basket into the house. We had eaten dinner, so we just watched out the west facing windows in our dining room. My mother was quite anxious, but dad kept us all calm. The TV stayed on until it blanked out. My dad and brother discussed the train sound, but my mom and I did not hear it. We always thought that the air pressure sucked out our ability to hear. My dad and brother did hear it, and we headed for the basement. We knelt against the west wall. I had my little sister in my arms, my dad was holding my baby sister, as we prayed! I remember him taking peeks out the window and he saw the garage lifted right off the car, and slammed down in front of the window. We heard wind, banging, glass breaking, a cacaphony of noise for what seemed like 3-5 minutes. Then it went silent and after a period of time deemed safe by dad, we ventured upstairs. The house was in complete dissarray. Windows broken, the clothes that I had taken off the line (and other people's clothes according to mom,) were strewn everywhere. then we looked across the street 2 large houses were totally leveled. Trees were down, electrical wires were sparking, it was dead still. Nick, my brother, and I went upstairs to the 2nd floor. We saw the sky above us as the roof was gone. Everything was topsy turvy. Then the rains came. My parents owned a large house just south of us down the block which had apartments rented to married NDSU students and their families. It was 75 years old at the time, so dad and mom were really concerned about the tenants. I will never forget the sight of dad jumping over downed trees and live power lines to run down to see what he thought would be complete chaos. Fortunately everyone in the apartment house was fine, and the old monster was knocked off it's foundation, but wasn't nearly as damaged as our home. In fact we lived in one of the hot little apartments for a time while our house was getting rebuilt. I know that the national guard was immediately called in. Until they were on the scene a couple of days after, my dad and brothers stayed on to guard the house, because there were stories of looting going on. The torrential downpour that came on the tail of the tornado ruined everything that would have been remotely salvageable. I remember the Red Cross being on the scene, in fact I think we were furnished with meals from them more than once. Needless to say, us kids had to stay away from the damage. But, stupid me, had to go pick my way through some debris and ended up with a tetanous shot for stepping on a rusty nail - the major childhood malady at the time. Stepping on a rusty nail was every kid's claim to fame that summer. To this day, when I see warnings on Television I take them seriously as I recall that day in 1957. But in all the years since then, I have never seen a sky or the cloud phenomena that I saw that night in the back yard.


Hi Kitn,
I've been following the story about Cade. I found this on the net at: www.crh.noaa.gov/fgf?n=fargo57f5_comments

It mentions a 'Nick' that was a brother to the man who wrote this comment. Just wanted to post it.

I thought about something....is it possible to maybe contact some of the people who wrote posts on the comments section of this site, that witnessed the tornado and who lived there at the time, to see if anyone remembers Cade's family?? Just a thought.

Oh yeah, interestingly enough, the writer of this comment called the tornado the "old monster".

Thanks,
Melissa
 
Thanks Melissa. I looked and did not see any names of emails. I am always hesitant about writing because if I would say why I would like information they think I am insane or weird. I will check to see if there are any more lists there with email addresses. Maybe someone would remember something of a crime. Thanks for the link it was interesting.
 
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