I have not posted here in a while as my son has been generally a content and happy boy. It’s hard to believe that any of the above actually happened until a little glimpse of something comes through every now and again. ...
It’s heart breaking as his parents, as we don’t want him to grow up scared in this lifetime. He has nothing to be scared of, but yet there is that underlying fear that has come through from his past. It is such a shame, because he is the funniest boy in his class. He has lots of friends and was voted most popular. He has such a beautiful personality. I fear this is holding him back.
Has anyone else had any similar experience? Is there anything we can do?
Hello Ukwood, I read the posts about Steven with interest. He sounds a lovely child and you are a very dedicated and loving Mum! I am sure that being so unconditionally loved and actively supported is the most healing experience possible for him after his past life ordeals.
In thinking over his situation I came upon an idea which I thought might prove to be helpful if he were to be triggered again. By that I mean his projecting of his general fear (originating in his past life) upon comparatively harmless people and situations in his present life.
I am just a lay person, so I might not explain this too well, but here goes … There is a healing method called Inner Child Therapy which adults usually undertake to heal psychological problems originating in their childhood (of their present life). I was reflecting that your description of Steven’s behaviour sounds like what a therapist would call having
internalised the horrible parents of his past life. (That basically means that they are not physically there but their poisonous behaviour invaded the child’s mind and a kind of “ghost” version of the parent continues to exist within the child’s mind.)
In present lives this happens to many people who grew up having experienced insufficient parenting and although the parents may even be dead, their painful behaviour becomes internalised during childhood and is then often projected upon others into adulthood. You then need the help of a psychotherapist – and possibly one specialising in Inner Child Therapy – in order to free yourself of the internalised parent.
In thinking about Steven, I wondered if something along the lines of Inner Child therapy might help him be able to release those internalised parents and free himself of his fear and sense of powerlessness. There are surely IC therapists who also believe in re-incarnation and I personally can’t see that it really matters in the end if the parents are from another life or this one, because at least the way I understand the therapy, it is the
feelings which are still alive within oneself and causing the bother.
I would like to hope that Steven’s awful memories just fade away, but in case he is still sometimes plagued I wanted to pass on my thoughts.