Overseas said:
But who is to say who needs it more? You can look at that from a materialistic pov and a spiritual one. From what I've read and heard all the people who've had a gender changing operation feel that's the right decision. And despite of the often occuring pain no one that had the operation done regrets the decision, at least not that I know of. They're relieved afterwards.
I just acknowledge that people who are in the wrong body have serious problems with that, so there's a problem here that needs to be solved. If there's no possibility of gender operation these people can end up in psychiatry which is also a huge cost for society and even bigger on long term.
I think in the end the material should come in line with the spiritual.
Hi Overseas!
I can certainly empathize with anyone who is troubled by what nature did or didn't give a person. And I don't wish to pass judgment on anyone for deciding to change things that are within the capability of medical science. On the other hand, I'm sure that most of us have known people that are unhappy for reasons of vanity, pride, and self-involvement. In fact, all of us have been there from time to time, ourselves. But, I tend to be a little impatient with some complaints for reasons I hope to express here.
When I returned from Vietnam in '68, my head and face looked like something from one of Hollywood's special effects departments. During my first stay at Tripler General Hospital in Oahu, Hawaii, I awoke one day to find someone in the bed next to me pulling himself up by two handles that were suspended over his bed. I thought he was exercising through a hole in his mattress or something, until I realized that half of his body was missing from the waist down.
He smiled and made small talk as I laid there, too stunned to say anything back to him. I found out that he was a very happy jewelry maker, who lived in Honolulu with his wife. Later that day, she came with an armful of tropical flowers and a beautiful uplifting smile. In fact, she was one of the most stunning women I had ever seen. It was very clear that they were both very happy and positive people. He introduced us, then chatted with her, as if I was a member of their family, trying to include me in their private conversation. After a week of this he went home with her, and I missed them both terribly. But that time with him carried me through some bad times.
I never forgot that experience; and I told my sister about it, while I was living with her a couple of years later. And she remembered that story as well. So, whenever I was self-absorbed and down in the mouth around her, she would sharply remind me of those beautiful people at the hospital. Since then, I've spent a lot of time in Veterans' Hospitals, mostly as a visitor; and I've seen some pretty depressing situations. Whenever someone complains that they're in the wrong body, I would like to show them some of the people I have known, who are in much tougher situations. Yet, many of them don't complain at all.
After 42 years my visible scars are difficult to notice. And I've grown more patient with people who don't know how good they've got it. So, when somebody cries out that they "need" elective surgery for any reason, I try very hard to understand. And I can certainly feel some compassion for their situation; because it is clear, that they are hurting deep down in their souls; and I want to do what I can for them. But I also believe that many people would feel less anguish, if they would look beyond their own difficulties, and observe the rest of the world. Isn't that the essence of karma and reincarnation? To reach beyond our own little universe and rise above the problems that plague us?
-Nightrain