"One day we were all riding in the car and I turned around to check on Jesse, who was in the back seat. I noticed that he had taken his cap and put in on backwards. I asked him why he had his hat on the wrong way and he just gave me a look and said, ‘I always wore it like this.’ I knew he was remembering his life before. Tommy had always worn his cap backwards.
“When Michaela had a function at her school, we took Jesse along. As we entered the school, we passed by several classrooms. He stopped me in front of one, pointed and exclaimed, ‘See Grandma! I used to work in that classroom when I was big!’”
“One afternoon Terri and Jesse were kicking a ball back and forth in the yard. It was the size of a soccer ball. Jesse suddenly stopped, looked at Terri and stated, ‘You know Mommy, I used to play this game at school and I had these things on my knees,’ and he pointed to his knees. When Tommy was in school, he had indeed played soccer. He was agile and quick; he played the position of goalie. Of course, he wore big kneepads.”
“When Jesse was six years old, he became quite upset when he could not find “his” dirt bike. He looked everywhere for it. He kept asking me, ‘Don’t you remember it, Grandma?’ At first we tried to correct him – to tell him that the bike had been Tommy’s and not his. That bike was long gone and Jesse had never seen it. He insisted that it existed and finally we stopped trying to correct him.”
“We felt that his memories would soon fade. But Jesse’s almost nine now, and the memories still haven’t faded. He speaks less about Tommy and the accident, but he will occasionally say something that lets us know – he still remembers.”
Each memory that Jesse would express suggested to Loretta, that her new grandson was indeed Tommy. It was the little things, the unexpected things, that took them all by surprise. The memories were spontaneous, as if there were no division between now and then.
Over the years, Jesse’s grandmother Loretta carefully documented the things Jesse had said and done, and it proved to be an amazing collection of validations. Jesse himself showed his grandmother that love never dies, but returns to us in different ways. It was the sincerity and depth of knowledge with which he spoke that led her to believe that Jesse - was her beloved Tommy reborn.