A few months ago I was sitting outside one night when my 3 year old daughter came and sat on my lap just talking away...nothing in paticular, I don't remember how it even began but then she said something about her old mommy and daddy which caught my attention. I asked her you had an old mommy and daddy? She replied with yeah but I lost them at the lake I was so sad but then you found me and brought me home and now I am happy again. I asked her where her mommy and daddy are now she told me they are buried now...I must have turned white as a ghost I couldn't belive what she was telling me. After repeating some of the same things she finally just said she didn't want to talk about it anymore because it maked her sad. I told my husband and he thought I was crazy. I was up all night putting together the night terrors she used to have and the her horrible fear of the water...it started to all make sense. A few weeks went by and we didn't talk about it much. She didn't want to talk about it when I asked her but occasionally brought it up on her own saying she lost her old mommy and daddy at the lake. My husband still didn't believe me until she rode with him to work one day. He is a truck driver and he needed to move a piece of equipment from a lake outside our town. The lake is part of the water District and she had never been there before and it is very secluded...he tells me as they approached the lake she points and yells thats where I lost my momy and daddy!...he is starting to belive now...She just turned 4 and she brings it up here and there...this morning she was playing, jumping off the couch she layed out a blanket and said it's a lake, she then jumped into her "lake" and said look I am dead. My biggest concern for her is the fear of water. We have never taken her to swim in a lake but pools and swim lessons are a nightmare last year before this started she would scream every time I took her to swim lessons. Its the middle of summer now and she clings on to me if we go into the pool and ask me if i will ever let her get lost. I try to comfortcomfort her and let her know i will always keep her safe but nothing helps. I don't push it but I would like her to know basics of swimming for safety I hope she can get past it.