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Should I Remember

GalaxyDreamer90

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Lately been having a really hard time with my ex BF that I have sadly decided relationships romantic or not just aren't worth it for me and that I'm better off alone. I worry others will force me to socialize. As a teenager in this lifetime I wanted nothing to do with the other students at school because they were so mean yet I was teased and forced to socialize anyway. Though I don't remember much I can remember in a past life being a young woman alone in the forest yet I was happy. Seems I've always been happiest alone. All of a sudden I'm wondering if I should remember more of this past life. Maybe remembering can help me cope with the loneliness and others forcing me to socialize. A few years back I tried going to another hypnotherapist to try to remember more but something seemed to be keeping me from remembering and I still don't know what it could be that's keeping me from remembering. Should I even bother remembering. If not how do I cope with others forcing me to socialize when I'm clearly happier alone.
 
Not entirely sure. Would help if my ex BF hadn't payed his way out of the lease leaving me to pay the entire rent for this month and next month.
 
Maybe this could help ... Last evening, a friend was saying that she was angry because of somebody who wronged her, and who doesn't want to discuss the matter, acknowledge, and apologize. She was saying that an apology would greatly soothe her anger. I suggested that she's achieve a similar benefit if she hypothesized that actually that person didn't wrong her on purpose, that he might not even be aware of wronging her, and that there might be a case of some misinterpretation of facts from her part. Her anger soothing is only up to her.
 
Not sure what that has to do with my situation. Suddenly thinking I should focus more on the future the past is just too painful. Perhaps that's what's preventing me from remembering more.
 
Not sure what that has to do with my situation. Suddenly thinking I should focus more on the future the past is just too painful. Perhaps that's what's preventing me from remembering more.

In my post above I didn't refer to focusing on the future.

I meant that you can change your current negative emotional state, in ways independent of external factors.

The way I understand reality to work, negative emotions will bring in your life situations that will create more negative emotions. For example: a frustration soon amplifies into anger, which further amplifies into fear. A small pain or inconvenience ends up into great pain and suffering, but if you identify it early, and deal with it properly, then that can be stopped.
 
What baro-san says is true. Not speaking for you GalaxyDreamer, but from my own personal experiences. When I'm agitated, all the little things become worse. Lately I catch my thoughts when undesirable emotions arise. It doesn't mean I am avoiding, I am just becoming aware- having experienced an impatient and irritable attitude, I ask myself if I want to go through that again.

No one can make you do anything you don't want to. You may feel otherwise, people may try and proposition things in a way that makes it feel like you have to comply. I believe the entire world just went through that with the experimental mrna-injection. But ultimately, you must be the one to say whether you are willing to try something or not. Sometimes, saying no- and losing the comforts around us can be scary. Other times, it can be liberating.

This may or may not apply to you. I would encourage you to find peace in your life by finding gratitude for the small things. So being alone makes you happy? What is it about being alone that makes you happy? This is a good place to start.

What is it, about the idea of a woman in the forest? And I'd also be curios if you uncover how she survived in the woods alone, what skillset that requires. Is this idea a past life or a romanticization? I can't be the one to tell you that. But you can always explore these ideas on your own, free of charge.

I'm not sure coping is the appropriate perspective. I don't think coping means finding inner-peace and happiness. I think what will help is taking the reins of your life, deciding what you want- setting the boundaries you need, and learning how to balance your everyday affairs. You have free-will. Don't let employers, family, friends, society, foods, medicines make you believe otherwise. Because I think there's more, we don't see or are aware of, that contribute to feelings of hopelessness- depression, anxiety, etc.

Taking control isn't easy, but if you desire it, it will come. And if you believe in reincarnation, it may not even come in this lifetime. But you must make the effort now. Definitely strive to experience all you desire in this life, and don't worry about the what-ifs or try to understand all the details. Just take one step forward.

I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out with your boyfriend. It may end up being a good thing. If being alone brings you comfort, I want you to know it is entirely possible to feel the contentment one experiences in solitude in the midst of a crowd. There's an entire world inside you.

Wishing you all the best.
~CP
 
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Thanks though I'm not entirely sure I believe in manifestation I do seem to believe for the most part life is what you make of it. The memory of the forest if it is indeed a memory is very vague that it feels like my imagination most of the time. Maybe it's time I focus on my goal of being an artist as weird and geeky as that may sound though I'm not sure I can achieve that goal. And lately been feeling lonely and it's not helping that because of my ex boyfriend paying his way out of the lease I'm not sure how I can pay one last month of rent. Suddenly thinking it would help if I can find a room mate. Not only can they split the cost of rent with me I can stay where i am instead of moving again. But have looked for a roommate before and no luck. I just don't know what to do.
 
Being an artist is not weird or geeky.

I find it interesting that I know of a handful of people in need of roommates at this time. Myself included. Apparently there are apps out there that help with this process.

I'm in Houston, TX- whereabout are you? I have about 6 months to prepare. Some people do not have the same luxury.

Not knowing what to do is normal. But maybe you can look into one of these apps if it helps. I do believe in the power of prayer, and I will keep you in my prayers.
 
Well unfortunately I'm in Ohio and I don't mean to be so picky but looking for a younger woman in late 20s that can be a younger sister type to me since growing up I only had older siblings.
 
Well I've been posting in groups on Facebook and managed to get a roommate already. I'm a little nervous but also excited. Mostly excited that I don't have to move after all and will have someone to split the rent with. Since it's been a while since I broke up with my BF it will take some time for me to adjust to living with someone else again. Also I'm just so use to being alone. Even in this lifetime I had to rely on myself from an early age since my sister's are all much older than me I didn't really have anyone to play with growing up. I told my new roommate that it might take some time for me to adjust but maybe I'll adjust to it rather quick. As for the past life memories still think it's best to not to remember any more. Actually I'm kind of debating rather I should let her know of my religious beliefs or not. Probably best not to mention my beliefs as that's normally something you don't want to discuss.
 
Yeah except she needs my help moving in and not sure how I can help. Was going to have my parents and me help her move in but now my mom is really mad at me because I brought up her learning disability bit I only do that because she told me as a kid I have ADHD so I'm only giving her a taste of her own medicine as they say, but I think that's something for a different topic.
 
Well looks like I got scammed and am not getting a roommate after all so looks like I'm moving next month which is really stressing me out. Starting to think it might help to remember more of this past life but like I said last time I went to a hypnotherapist to try and remember more something seemed to be keeping me from remembering and still don't know what it could be.
 
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