2 more things.
The CONTAINER analogy:
The only way a person/soul/personality can improve over time is if all experiences and lessons are gathered into a single "container". When you you learn to study to get A's, YOU have collected experience. Same when you pick the right mate, when you perfect your painting skills, and when you learn a new trade at work. YOU become better over time because YOU are the container collected all feedback to improve your journey. Now, if you get destroyed through reincarnation (all experiences lost, cannot remember to leverage any of it), there is no original container left to judge the next life against the previous. So, the decision to reincarnate may have been horrible, or awesome, but there is no original experience set remaining to evaluate it. So it would look like reincarnation experiences seem to be random because you have no collection mechanism telling you to only reincarnate into certain people but avoid others, based on previous experience... because there is NO MORE PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE. So, in order for that to progress, there must be a "container" collecting YOU, and all previous YOU's, and all the subsequent YOU's, to make sure the soul journey is not random/wasted. But, a "container" that collects many, many human lives is by definition not a "human life". Oversoul? Ok... but it's not YOU anymore. A saving grace? Maybe we don't reincarnate, but rather a COPY reincarnates, and we wander heaven forever. I vote for that.
Levels of Spirit Elder Interaction:
There are 4 levels of guidance we may get from the "other side".
1. None. It's all random, good luck to you.
2. Looking at a human set of to-be parents, judging the next life MAY be ok based on genetics and environment and the times in which you're going back. Still, you're not getting guided much. They drift off and leave you.
3. Spirit guides, before reincarnation, are able to see every detail of your to-be life, warning of the bad and the good, all the way to the end. On comes the amnesia, if you agree, and all of it happens. They change nothing, to make sure it's as-seen.
4. Elders don't just see your future on Earth, they CREATE the details to make SURE stuff happens to you. If you committed a crime in the previous life, they make SURE you're the victim in the next life. The are ensuring your suffering , ensuring your successes... forcing it all, unlike in #3 where they passively predicted it. That would imply, returning criminals MUST experience being a victim, which would mean Spirit is not interested in preventing suffering, because some people are "scheduled" to suffer. I guess society would be a deliberate hell at that point.
Yes those are extreme. But the truth is in there somewhere... and as we move down the list, I get angrier at them. They can help, but won't?
I wonder if this reincarnation "process" is "working"? Whatever it's supposed to be accomplishing, is it working?
Let's ask 1st thing when we arrive.