Lucky James Leininger showed evidence that the soul has freewill even in death. Before he was born Leininger was there when his mum and dad were at a hotel, and chose them as his parents. No doubt Leininger had a rough idea what he was letting himself in for, and he made a great choice of parents. It is a common theme amongst children with reincarnation memories that they say they were related in some manner to the parent in a former life. It appears in some cases family tag along with each other over several life times. It fills me with cold dread, the idea that my abusive father could become my son, hence I am extremely reluctant now to have children. My childhood was not happy, both parents following their own agendas be it work, dogs, or pursuing other relationships, they forgot about me. Neglected children tend to be troublesome, and so then all the physical violence and the emotional abuse was initiated to keep the troublesome kid in check. Taken to a doctor one day, the doctor said that there was nothing wrong with me, but I was the most unloved child he had ever met, and he had a real go at my supposed parents. Years later I terminated my relationship with my parents, and have made my life as I want to live it. Questions now arise - what on earth got me to pick such worthless rubbish as these parents, and all the trouble it has caused me? I have no reincarnation memories, and one of the questions I pursue is "why?" Now it is quite possible I am trying to achieve a certain purpose, and it had to be this way to achieve this purpose. Or it could be something so trivial as I did not love myself in a past life, so my "karma" is to be unloved by other people in this life. It is all speculation, and perhaps is a factor that drives me to find answers in the field of reincarnation. Can you imagine the despair and anger that will come from me, if a son declares "I was your father". Do you really think I am going to be overjoyed about that? The son would be rejected immediately, thrown out of my life, put into care. There are benefits to having no past life memories. Do I have a say in making sure I have no connections to my former family in this life, or in all future lives? If so, how does this work? Hence, one of the reasons I am working out how this reincarnation system works, if it has rules, it can be worked in my favour. One of the first things I will do is flag up to whatever decides to dump people together, that those former family never come near to me again.