Bullies

As a middle schooler I was bullied. As a middle aged woman of almost 40 I'm still tormented by their words and their lack of inclusion.

I am curious are bullies people we have encountered in other lifetimes? Do they hurt us in each life. Say for instance, an abusive spouse, someone who killed us in battle, a torturer during the inquisition or someone who relished torturing us when we were their POW?

Do you have any lives with your bullies?

I have to say that such experiences left a deep and lasting impression on me that will never go away for which plays a big part as to why I hate modern society. If one isn't One of them and their cliques you'll be at the very least pushed aside while at the very worst killed for it as history often shows where groups of outcasts are persecuted or genocided ect. I've come to find that one not only has to have the right words, right personality, even the right body, and the right vibes to be included in many of these groups but the individuals themselves are this way it is so annoying. As for past lives there have been some types of restricting personalities that I've come to hate interacting with and generally don't play nice with anymore.

I had the odd experience to meet and spend time with someone who did kill me in a PL. He was not a bully to me this lifetime, although our friendship didn't exactly start out the best way. He was really very genuinely kind to me and by the end of his time on earth, we'd developed a fairly healthy relationship. He's someone I find myself missing quite often.

People can grow and change for the better. It's just a matter of whether or not they actually want to and if they're willing to put in the effort to actually do it.

As for the people that did bully me in this life, I don't know if they've been in other lives with me.

To me it appears that it sometimes is situations and role models that reappear, like: there is someone who bullies/abuses/betrays you in several lives, but it's not always the same soul. That a certain pattern reoccurs until you have tried all possible different ways to handle the situation.

I was bullied at school too, I was definitly not fitting in, so soon a couple of guys thought I was easy prey. This was going on for years. Later in life I had a dream where I came to meet these people asking them why things had turned out that way and one looked at me, stunned, telling me that we were actually friends and that it was part of the deal. I don´t know myself what to make of it, was it a true incident, I mean kind of an OBE ? I don´t know. Maybe wishful thinking to make sense of it? Fact is, since I`ve had that dream I can accept this as part of my adolscence without being sad about it anymore.

DiscoKitten said:

As a middle schooler I was bullied. As a middle aged woman of almost 40 I'm still tormented by their words and their lack of inclusion.

I am curious are bullies people we have encountered in other lifetimes? Do they hurt us in each life. Say for instance, an abusive spouse, someone who killed us in battle, a torturer during the inquisition or someone who relished torturing us when we were their POW?

Do you have any lives with your bullies?

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Bullies may or may not be people we have encountered in previous lifetimes. A number of scenarios could be at play here. Three that come to mind are:

• Since your situation happened when you were in middle school, where bullying can be common, I'd say these kids were just jerks. Perhaps they were in a situation where they were tested to see if they would fall into the trap of bullying someone and consequently failed. Hopefully karma will kick in and they will learn not to do this again.
• It's possible that you were a bully in a previous lifetime and needed to experience what it was like to be on the receiving end. If this is the case, then the lesson would be to learn how to let go of that trauma and forgive these individuals.
• Another lesson that could be happening is for you to learn how to speak up for yourself when you are in similar situations. Bullies aren't always on middle school playgrounds.

It's difficult to pinpoint exactly what's happening in your case because these are not the only past life scenarios that can be at play here. While a past life can provide the "background information" we need to be careful not to dwell on the past and instead, try to focus on the present, which is where the healing needs to take place. I hope you have a good support network in place with either a member of the clergy, a close friend, support group, etc. You definitely are not alone. I feel your pain because I grew up in this lifetime with an abusive parent.

What if someone who tortures us in this life is someone that we heavily wronged in a previous life?

Anyway i am very sorry you had to go through that. People suck. (excuse my out of nowhere- misanthropy)

I too was bullied in middle/high school not only by thr students but also the teachers. I can easily remember eating alone during lunch and being fine with that until one of the teachers in the cafeteria came up to me and forced me to start sitting with the other students not caring that they all hated me. It didn't help though that back then I didn't want anything to do with anyone and would constantly pick fights with the other students. However though now I kind of am seeing how stupid I was for not wanting to socialize with others I still don't see what's so wrong with picking fights. I'm not entirely sure why it is I always liked fighting so much. Could be the fact that I come from a family with a long military history. As I have mentioned on here before I'm even decended from a revolutionary war general in this life. Also it could also be because I grew up watching violent TV shows and playing violent video games. Could even be the fact that I have so much energy and just sometimes need a good release for it. Still I don't understand why I'm so energetic and violent at times. My Doctor says the energy is ADHD but I don't feel the energy is a bad thing and worth such a negative label.

GalaxyDreamer90 said:

I too was bullied in middle/high school not only by thr students but also the teachers. I can easily remember eating alone during lunch and being fine with that until one of the teachers in the cafeteria came up to me and forced me to start sitting with the other students not caring that they all hated me. It didn't help though that back then I didn't want anything to do with anyone and would constantly pick fights with the other students. However though now I kind of am seeing how stupid I was for not wanting to socialize with others I still don't see what's so wrong with picking fights. I'm not entirely sure why it is I always liked fighting so much. Could be the fact that I come from a family with a long military history. As I have mentioned on here before I'm even decended from a revolutionary war general in this life. Also it could also be because I grew up watching violent TV shows and playing violent video games. Could even be the fact that I have so much energy and just sometimes need a good release for it. Still I don't understand why I'm so energetic and violent at times. My Doctor says the energy is ADHD but I don't feel the energy is a bad thing and worth such a negative label.

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Yea had a few episodes of my own, was even strangled by the school coach in the fourth grade. The compulsory extroversion just flat out toxic and typical of western education these days and r.i.p anyone actually wanting to learn in this garbage school to prison pipeline. The same crap is endemic to white collar work so a lot of people are quitting in droves right now as the wage plantations kill off remote work.

I wouldn't exactly say education is a bad thing and since the pandemic I have come to see how important schools are for educating kids , but I do believe there needs to be some changes to the way schools teach. I remember in college learning about how people have different learning styles and found out I'm a visual and hands on learner, which is why the typical sitting down and listening to lecture doesn't work so well for me. I can vaguely remember being in kindergarten and having trouble sitting still during lecture. Instead it helps me to do hands on projects and to watch video tutorials while following along.

GalaxyDreamer90 said:

I wouldn't exactly say education is a bad thing and since the pandemic I have come to see how important schools are for educating kids , but I do believe there needs to be some changes to the way schools teach. I remember in college learning about how people have different learning styles and found out I'm a visual and hands on learner, which is why the typical sitting down and listening to lecture doesn't work so well for me. I can vaguely remember being in kindergarten and having trouble sitting still during lecture. Instead it helps me to do hands on projects and to watch video tutorials while following along.

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Didn't say that it was a bad thing but what passes for it in some places particularly in the states is pretty disgusting, the other day a teacher finally got sacked after having molested 62 kids thus far.

That is so sad that there are people who will take advantage of kids or really anyone in general like that. Can't quite imagine all the trauma those kids must have gone through since I've never been raped but I imagine it must be very traumatic. I can remember as a teenager sex ed scared me so much to the point that as a teenager I would push guys away for fear of being taken advantage of. Besides I had it planned from a young age that I would never have a kid at a young age. Luckily I began to open up to guys when I started college, but now even though I have a boyfriend now I feel as though I'm missing out when it comes to intimate relationships since I waited until I was in my 20s to get into guys and start dating. Also my boyfriend doesn't want a serious relationship yet. However I do strongly believe he will eventually want a serious relationship so now I'm learning to be patient and wait for him to want a more serious relationship.

Lately I had a dream about one of my childhood bullies. A background of my childhood bully. Her and I were the only two children in the class who came from the same cultural background so in the beginning I thought her and I would be good friends. That is not what happened. She wanted to fit in and thought that she could do that by turning on me and going along with the popular children. It shows she did not have the strength to stand up for whats right at that age.

In my dream I run into her at a theatre that was having a ballet performance. I attend such performances quite a bit in this lifetime. We were all in the audience. Myself and my best friend, and her in the row either in front or behind us. She asked me with some condescension but more pity and feeling sorry for me "I want to know how that childhood turned out". Almost asking me with such a bad childhood how did my life turn out? She was slightly looking down at me thinking I must not have reached much success but also pity. She also said to me "You weren't exactly living the American Dream". In my dream I got angry and called her a choice word. My friend smoothed things over and said I didnt say what I did and instead something else that rhymed with what I said. I said "I said what I said" and for my former bully to hear the name I called her. I do not know what this dream means.

Hi Disco,

A clueless or repentant bully is one thing. In that situation, you would have put yourself in the wrong by being unwilling to forgive or reconcile (IMO). However, a seemingly unrepentant and still contemptuous or condescending bully is another. Maybe I should be a bigger person, but I think I might have done the same thing in your position. Some of these people need to hear what they didn't hear or pay attention to before.

Cordially,
S&S