Intrigued and Frustrated

Hi, I am new to this group, but I am glad I have found it. For many months now my 4 year old son has been asking me every day if I can help him find his mom. When I tell him I am his mom he says, "No, you are my mommy, I need to find my mom." I no longer correct him, but I just don't know how to respond anymore. My husband gets really frustrated and I have to tell him to calm down. He claims that his mom is at the hotel and she has blue eyes and yellow hair. I would just like some advice on how to deal with this. It comes up EVERY day! Hopefully someone out there has dealt with something similar and can help me with the frustration.

Welcome to the forum,


I hope we can help ease the frustration, and help you with your son's memories. Have you read either of Carol's books? They are a great way to start and the first two listed. You can also contact Carol directly. I will notify her of your post so she can respond to you here as well.


Does he say anything else about his other mom? Since he is four, ask him to draw a picture of what he remembers about her. Try not to lead him, just ask questions.


Keep a journal about what he says and does. Also record (write down) his responses to your questions.


There are many books on reincarnation. Regarding your husband, he might be more interested in the scientific approach of Ian Stevenson at Virginia University and the lectures at Harvard and Yale. Carol's work is fantastic - of course. .


There are a few sticky thread at the top of this section you may want to go over as well.

Welcome to the Forum.


Please know that what you and your son are experiencing is not that unusual. As you can see from the many posts on this Forum, young children do remember previous lives, and are sometimes confused by what happened before, and their present-life experiences. You can help your son resolve his confusion by understanding that he needs to talk about his memory with someone who will listen--preferably you and your husband.


I go into great detail in Children's Past Lives why these memories come up and how to talk to a child about them. So please get a copy of my book ASAP and start reading!


In the meantime, when your son says something about his other mom, take a deep breath, calm yourself, and ask open-ended questions. Engage him in conversation, because he's trying to communicate something very important, probably something that is troubling him. By using open-ended questions, or reflecting his words back to him, you can keep the flow of the conversation going, which would be in his best interest. The worst thing to do is to shut down the conversation. Even if you don't understand what's going on with him, engage him, enter his reality, and see what he's trying to communicate to you.


Often, the past life memories surface because children are recalling traumatic incidents from previous lives. (I know that sounds bizarre, but it's true.) By allowing them to speak freely about them, they can release the emotions they're still feeling from the past.


In your son's case, does he have separation anxiety? Any behaviors, fears, or strong emotions that seem incongruous to his present life? There might be some clues in his present personality that relate back to this other life, but didn't really make sense before. If you can encourage him to keep talking as he brings up this memory, he will tell you what happened. It's all right if he gets emotional about it. Just let him talk, and then reassure him that he's now safe, or that you're his mother now, or whatever you feel he needs to hear.


Just know that there is nothing wrong with your son. Children have past life memories, and some are traumatic, and others are not. If your son is remembering a traumatic event, you can help him release the feelings connected to it.


Feel free to keep posting. We're here to support you and your son. And please read the book and the posts in this section. You will see that you are not alone, and that you can help your son.

Thank You!


I have not read either book, but it does sound like a great place to start! I haven't really been able to get any other info from my son about his mom, but I honestly haven't really tried. Having him draw a picture sounds like a great idea. As for his behavior, he is definitely my clingiest child. He also asks everyday if he can go to the hotel, so if something traumatic did happen to him in a previous life, I assume it happened at a hotel. I haven't spent much time looking at the other threads, but I hope to do so later tonight and get some comfort from others dealing with similar issues. I have always believed in past lives but I never thought I would deal with this type of issue.


One other thing that just occurred to me was that when my son was 2 and 3 he used to ask to go home when we were home. I think that might be related.


Anyway, thank you so much for replying!! I was really at my wit's end today, and this site really helped! Where can I get the books?

Welcome to the forum. There is a book section here on the forum where you can order the books. Also Amazon and Barnes and Noble would be other places to look. Children will often talk about past life memories when they are sleepy or riding in a car. Those are good times to ask open ended questions. You might ask him what his name was, what was his mother's name, etc. I wonder if he would know the name of the hotel? I'm guessing his last life was probably within the past 70 years. His brief description of his past life mother sounds like it could be European or North American.

Hi,


Here's a direct link to the books about children's past lives. The first two listed are Carols'. You can order directly from this site by clicking on the book you want.

hi,


I have a 3-year-old who started reliving her past life at 2 and it was really scary. More so because they don't seem to be able to recognize past from present. But if your child is remembering is because he needs to get past the trauma of losing her mom, and he'll need your reassurance that it won't happen again. That's why I had to do with my little one and after months and months, she finally let that other past go... for now at least.


You're doing a great job!


Sofia