Hi there - I'm very new - I just happened to find this site, as I was trying to find information on this subject following an interesting encounter with my daughter.
She is almost 3 years old and a few nights ago, out of the blue, began to tell me the story of "when she was a boy".....she started off to say that when she was a boy, she was playing in the street with her soccer ball, (she made a gesture with her hands to indicate that the soccer ball was deflated or something) and she was playing with her ball when it went onto the street, so she chased after it and a car came along and drove over her. She proceeded to explain that "blood was coming from her body" and she died.
I was in dismay and had no clue what to say, as I have no experience on this subject, however the sincerity of her voice and the details of the story, told me she was truly speaking of an experience she had actually encountered. I asked her some questions, like what colour was the car. She immediately answered "blue" and that a man was driving. I asked her where her mommy was when this happened, and she immediately answered "in the house....but it wasn't you, you are my mommy now". She then proceeded to repeat the story and added even more detail, like the fact that when she was hit by the car, there was a garbage can there, and garbage was thrown onto the street with her. The whole situation is very strange and I'm now finding myself curious as to how do I handle this?? Do I ask more questions, do I leave it alone? Is there something I should be saying?? Any feedback or advice is appreciated. I'm definately going to check out the books! Thanks!
She is almost 3 years old and a few nights ago, out of the blue, began to tell me the story of "when she was a boy".....she started off to say that when she was a boy, she was playing in the street with her soccer ball, (she made a gesture with her hands to indicate that the soccer ball was deflated or something) and she was playing with her ball when it went onto the street, so she chased after it and a car came along and drove over her. She proceeded to explain that "blood was coming from her body" and she died.
I was in dismay and had no clue what to say, as I have no experience on this subject, however the sincerity of her voice and the details of the story, told me she was truly speaking of an experience she had actually encountered. I asked her some questions, like what colour was the car. She immediately answered "blue" and that a man was driving. I asked her where her mommy was when this happened, and she immediately answered "in the house....but it wasn't you, you are my mommy now". She then proceeded to repeat the story and added even more detail, like the fact that when she was hit by the car, there was a garbage can there, and garbage was thrown onto the street with her. The whole situation is very strange and I'm now finding myself curious as to how do I handle this?? Do I ask more questions, do I leave it alone? Is there something I should be saying?? Any feedback or advice is appreciated. I'm definately going to check out the books! Thanks!
