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KAREN1
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My 4 year old has been getting spooked lately. He talks about bad guys, like every kid does. In our house, he was walking down the stairs and halfway down, he turn around and shot up the stairs like a bolt of lightening and jumped on top of me. He was breathing really heavy. He was scared.
Last night, we were in the kitchen talking and he took his toy gun (which, at the store he insisted he needed to buy, he didn't take a tantrum but he looked scared and adimant that he needed it), and he pointed it toward the table. I said who are you shootin' at partner, he said H.P. We do not know anyone named H.P. So I asked where H.P. was from and my son told me that when he himself was little, he and this H.P. were friends. I said but honey, you still are little. He said no, before when I was little.
I asked more questions about his friend and my son filled me in. Here goes.
H.P. was a little boy when my son was, before. The two were friends and played at my mother's house, except I wasn't there, and my son let H.P. outside once and apparently there was a pond or a river behind the house. (The place where my mother lives now is about a minute drive from a river and about a two minute drive from a pond). I guess that my son wasn't supposed to let H.P. out, he said he felt sad about doing it. He told me that H.P went onto the water (it was winter so it was frozen over) and then the police and other people tried to get him off of it because the ice wasn't thick enough. My son said he could see all of him and then only his head and face and his mouth was wide open. H.P. fell in the water and froze. At first my son thought said that H.P had drowned, but then he said that he had frozen and went underneath the ice. The police officers and fire fighters couldn't reach H.P. My little one said that after, he kept bringing ice into the house. Maybe part of a child's greiving.
So about this friend, I asked what he was doing...visiting? To this, my little guy replied, "Yes. He is a police officer now and he is a bad guy." I said that the police aren't bad people, they are the good guys (I will soon be training to be one). He said, "I know, but he is. He is dressed in black but has skin like ours." My son took his hockey stick and toy gun with him to bed last night.
He also said that they used to go to a place called (and I am spelling it wrong since 4 year olds can't spell out what they say), 'Sengi' I haven't a clue what or where that is, except that I was told by my boy that it was a place far away and took along time to walk to. Because H.P.'s dad carried him there and it was far. Although when he mentioned that place, he did say that H.P was going there but he just called him 'that little boy' then.
Anyway, I asked him if H.P. did come and visit him, and he said that it was just pretend. He wanted him to come though.
I am a bit confused. Anyone caring to shed light on this please do, I am fairly certain that he is not 'seeing' this H.P.
Thanks!
Take care,
Karen
Last night, we were in the kitchen talking and he took his toy gun (which, at the store he insisted he needed to buy, he didn't take a tantrum but he looked scared and adimant that he needed it), and he pointed it toward the table. I said who are you shootin' at partner, he said H.P. We do not know anyone named H.P. So I asked where H.P. was from and my son told me that when he himself was little, he and this H.P. were friends. I said but honey, you still are little. He said no, before when I was little.
I asked more questions about his friend and my son filled me in. Here goes.
H.P. was a little boy when my son was, before. The two were friends and played at my mother's house, except I wasn't there, and my son let H.P. outside once and apparently there was a pond or a river behind the house. (The place where my mother lives now is about a minute drive from a river and about a two minute drive from a pond). I guess that my son wasn't supposed to let H.P. out, he said he felt sad about doing it. He told me that H.P went onto the water (it was winter so it was frozen over) and then the police and other people tried to get him off of it because the ice wasn't thick enough. My son said he could see all of him and then only his head and face and his mouth was wide open. H.P. fell in the water and froze. At first my son thought said that H.P had drowned, but then he said that he had frozen and went underneath the ice. The police officers and fire fighters couldn't reach H.P. My little one said that after, he kept bringing ice into the house. Maybe part of a child's greiving.
So about this friend, I asked what he was doing...visiting? To this, my little guy replied, "Yes. He is a police officer now and he is a bad guy." I said that the police aren't bad people, they are the good guys (I will soon be training to be one). He said, "I know, but he is. He is dressed in black but has skin like ours." My son took his hockey stick and toy gun with him to bed last night.
He also said that they used to go to a place called (and I am spelling it wrong since 4 year olds can't spell out what they say), 'Sengi' I haven't a clue what or where that is, except that I was told by my boy that it was a place far away and took along time to walk to. Because H.P.'s dad carried him there and it was far. Although when he mentioned that place, he did say that H.P was going there but he just called him 'that little boy' then.
Anyway, I asked him if H.P. did come and visit him, and he said that it was just pretend. He wanted him to come though.
I am a bit confused. Anyone caring to shed light on this please do, I am fairly certain that he is not 'seeing' this H.P.
Thanks!
Take care,
Karen
