Do We Get To Choose Our Parents?

[Susie]

In her book Children's Past Lives, Carol Bowman devotes an entire chapter to choosing a life, including who our parents will be. Her conclusion that we chose our parents is based on recollections of children and adults she has worked with.

In one such account, four year old Courtney tells how one rests a little while in heaven after death, then"...you have to start thinking about what you have to learn in your next life. You have to start picking your family, one that will help you learn whatever it is you need to learn next." (page 136).

Carol further says:

The selection of parents is the most critical decision in the planning process because it sets the stage for the coming liftetime. It's no wonder young children seem to remember choosing their parents more than any other aspects of their prebirth experience. They often tell their parents why they chose them, claiming either that it was their decision alone or one that was made with the help of guides.(Page 141-142)

 

[deborah]

Although there are many souls that I do believe - "choose " their parents. I think more often than not -many are drawn to them..like a magnet and conscious "choice" is not part of the equation.


Carol Bowman in her book Return From Heaven, references the Tibetan Buddhists.

“The Tibetan Buddhists agree that the more aware and conscious a soul is, the better its choices will be for the coming life. They say a spiritually evolved soul can direct its incarnation and choose the place and family of its birth. Otherwise, they say, Karma will dictate the choice, and the soul will be drawn, as a magnet, into whatever womb resonates with all its past experiences.”

Ian Stevenson notes that “although my research suggests that we are the creators of our own lives and, to a certain extent, our own bodies, our participation in this process is so passive as to be almost involuntary.”

 

[ChrisR]

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