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bennyclay

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Have any of you found that once the metaphoric door is open, so many things begin to pour out? It seems like my son is more and more consciously aware of his past lives, and not just the ones that were apparently traumatic. The other night at dinner (we were eating at a mexican restaurant), my son remarked that he would like to be a Mexican sometime and live in Mexico; he said, "I've never been Mexican before. Then he said, "I would build by own house, too." I asked, kind of laughingly, "So, how would you going to do that? Have you built a house before?" and he said, quite seriously, "Yes, I did. I even helped built that"- and pointed to the mural of a pyramid on the wall of the restaurant. Then he quickly went on to say, "But I knew the most about building when I was a Roman. I helped make the plans for buildings then, and I was really good at it." None of these assumed past life memories were traumatic or depressing in any way, so I was glad to see that now that this door is open, he can enjoy the good memories as well as the ones that are troubling him. By the way, a couple days later, my son briefly referenced this conversation and added that he "mostly built roads" when he was a Roman, more so than buildings.

The same evening, all that past life talk sparked my daughter, who usually doesn't make any references to past lives (and who is also diagnosed with high functioning autism) to go into a long description of how much fun she had as a Viking one time. She said that she had five sisters, and that they loved to sing, but that they also loved to fight. My daughter, who doesn't eat meat at all, also said, "And we just LOVED to eat lots of meat and throw the bones! But our favorite thing to do was sing. We sang so funny!!"
 
open door, talking about past lives

Well, it all started when we moved back to America after living in Germany for nearly four years. We moved to Germany when my son was only two years old, so he really didn't remember the U.S. at all by the time we moved back here six months ago. Cameron just turned seven years old last month.

Anyway, first he started having a recurrent nightmare in which he is a grown man who is standing on top of a very, very old building, and then he jumps off, ending his own life. I asked him one day why he would jump off a building in his dream (in fact, I asked as if this were a silly, unrealistic thing to do), and he answered as if he were an adult, with a terribly serious tone, "Because I wanted to die."

Around the same time this dream began, Cameron started crying a lot around bedtime, usually a couple times a week or so, saying over and over, "I don't want to leave my body so fast again; I don't want to leave my arms and legs. Why can't we all just stay in heaven? I don't want to leave too soon again!" It was all I could do to comfort him and get him finally to sleep.

Gradually, Cameron began saying more than just the above. He started making references to being an infant who died when he was only two days old. This started when we were watching "Little House on the Prairie" on DVD. An infant dies on that show which is sad, but Cameron had an extreme, out of control reaction to it and kept saying that he was just like that baby. Of course, the baby in the show lives for several weeks I believe, but Cameron kept saying he only lived for two days. He also said he never got to do the things he planned, the things he wanted to do.

Then he has also made references to when he was a Native American boy who wanted very badly to be a man. He envied the tools the grown men used, such as the knife, and wanted to use it himself, but he kept saying "The Good Man" didn't allow it, because he was still too young. Then he cries and says he never got to use the knife because he left his body too soon. I wrote an earlier post in which I asked if anyone knew what "the good man" might mean in the context of Native American history, and I found out that in the Crow language "the good one" translates to mean "Chief." Very interesting! I really didn't expect to find an answer that would be so clear and definitive.

Obviously the things I just described have all been negative and sad for my son, which is the reason I was glad that the memories he seemed to be recollecting at the restaurant seemed to be rather positive.
 
Wow! If I were you I would start writing down the things he says. Just so he can look back on them. Good luck!

Amanda
 
writing it down

Actually I did start doing that a few weeks ago, when someone else suggested that I write these things down. I want to remember the exact way in which he worded things, and the way each conversation came about. I think it's important in case we are later able to possible verify any of the lives he has remembered, and just to have it documented, without time taking its toll on the memory.

I do have another question, and I hope you or someone can help me on this. I have noticed that most children seem to remember their past lives in a factual way that is not upsetting; they even seem excited to share their experience, I have read. By contrast, my son is having an experience that is more similar to, for instance, Carol's son, when he was upset by the fireworks, and so on. For my son, these memories are not a pleasant thing, and he is not emotionally removed from them. I am wondering how common this is, and what it means... My intuition tells me that it means there are some unresolved issues, but I thought you or someone else might be able to give me even more insight on why his past life memories seem to be so upsetting for him.

Thanks,

Jennifer
 
HI Jennifer,

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with your son.

Have you tried to reach Carol Bowman? She may be able to help you with your sons emotional memories. Or I could contact her for you. Which ever you prefer.

There is a certain level of integrity in your posts that I believe warrents attention. ;)
 
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Deborah, thank you for writing. I have only begun to learn about past lives within the past six months, as I began worrying about my son and the "odd" things he would say and cry about. Actually I did contact Carol, and she recommended that I take Cameron to someone (she gave me a name and number), so that he can work through whatever is going with him. I am not qualified to deal with this, but yet I know he is distressed and needs some kind of help. I have already talked on the phone with this person at length, and have an appointment for Cameron to see her next week. I know that most of the people in my family would think that I've gone crazy if they knew about all of this, but they haven't had to deal with him crying and crying, obviously filled with fear about leaving his body "too fast again." And having read the four signs that something is a real past life memory, Cameron's comments would definitely qualify. We often hear about people who have to "work through" the memories of early childhood experiences, such as abuse, so I guess something similar is going on here, except these are past life memories... I don't know.
 
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HI Jennifer,

I am so glad to hear that you are following through to help your son. He is a very lucky little man to have a mother who is open -sensitive and willing to listen - at a much deeper level than most.

Please keep us posted - and know we wish you all the best.
 
Your son is definately lucky to have you for a mom .... you are open to listen, and willing to help, instead of mistakenly brushing it all off as imagination.

And you are very lucky to have your son talking before he is a teenager .... my daughter gets such attitude sometimes :)

Kids ... ;)

Mama2HRB
 
listening to my son

Well, it became clear pretty quickly that just trying to get him to sleep and saying, "Shhh, shhhh, it'll be okay." wasn't going to cut it. The mother in me wants to just comfort him and make it all go away, but I'm realistic enough to know that things don't just go away when you push them back, repress or deny them, etc. Thanks for the compliments, but I really am just doing what I have to do, given the situation. I think he really is crying out for some kind of help, so I'm doing the best I can to get that for him. I'm eager to see how his appt. goes next week. Cameron is normally such a confident, easy-going kid; these recent fears, worries, crying, etc. stand in contrast to his personality, in general, up to six months ago. Anyway, I'll keep you guys posted if you're interested.
 
Sorry I missed this thread yesterday! It certainly sounds like you're doing the right thing - listening to your son, encouraging him to talk things out, etc.

Of course, we'd be interested with hpw the appointment goes next week - I know that in Carol's book, her son showed great improvement over his fear of loud noises after his regression.

Best of luck!

Aimee
 
Hey bennyclay,

I think it sounds like you´re doing very much the right things for your son on this, keeping a clear head and working constructively to find solutions:).

I was thinking... maybe it could be possible to view all this as your son actually being lucky enough to have an opportunity to deal with this at such an early age, maybe ridding himself of old baggage, instead of dragging it along in his subconscious through life... bogging him down and making life harder than necessary. Like for so many people...

Although I realize this perspective would maybe not be easy to adopt facing the suffering of your child... And quite a load for the the little guy to face, all at once... Still, I bet he´s strong enough to ride out the storm...or maybe it wouldn´t have come up for him (My daughter, now almost 5, has had some slight recall episodes. Interesting as such, but nothing traumatic or nearly as vivid as this).

BTW, I´m glad The Crow information was of help! Pretty cool, I thought;) .
 
I just keep talking, and keep asking questions. Some days she will talk, others, I just get attitude.

One thing to watch for is obvious change in behaviors and speech patterns. If that happens. Ask if it is Cameron. If they say no, then ask who it is. You may be amazed. Of course, he is still very young, and you might not see this for quite a while, if ever.

Mama2HRB
 
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