Skye

[edhenders]

My daughter is coming up on her 6th birthday. Several months ago she told me out of nowhere that she missed her other family. When I asked her who they were she said the family with the two story brown house. She said she was pushed down the stairs of an apartment building by her boyfriend and died. Needless to say, it blew me away. When I asked to describe what she looked like she said she was 17 and had curly brown hair. Her boyfriend had lots of tattoos. She told me she lived in upstate New York. Am I getting past life here? She knows something of other cities but we live in Texas and I dont know anyone in upstate NY.

 

[Susie]

Hi Edhenders,

Your daughter's expereinces certainly sound past life related to me. She has provided plenty of detail..her being pushed down the stairs by her boyfriend in an apartment building and dying, age, looks, upstate New York. Even if she had seen a two story house or apartment building as described, it would be improbable she could come up with the other details on her own, or even from watching tv.

Are you writing her expriences down?? Very important. It's natural for kids to forget as they get older. Parents tend to save lots of their kids' artwork, report cards, photos, etc as keepsake- why not have a keepsake journal of your child's past lives?

Sounds like you are asking plenty of questions, which is good.

Have your read Child's Past Lives by Carol Bowman? Outstanding book with lots of information.

I would like to hear more!

Susie

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Free will allows me to choose my path, but my Higher Power lights the way....

 

[edhenders]

I went to the bookstore today! Reading will take some time because clinicals starts next week. I am looking forward to it. I should have written items down with the boys (21 and 20) when they were small. I remember the 20 year old zoning out everytime a certain tv show came on about vietnam "China Beach". He would simply stop what he was doing and go somewhere else. He always left the room before the show would acutally start. I never did ask him what was happening. Youth! I am however, doing it for my daughter. Any ideas to pull move information out of her without her thinking she needs to make something up for me?

 

[Susie]

Hi Edhenders,

I would suggest asking lots of questions when she talks about her memories. Or, saying something along the line of, "Remember when you lived in the two story house with your other family?" Carol has so many wonderful suggestions for parents in Children's Past Lives.

Susie

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Free will allows me to choose my path, but my Higher Power lights the way....

 

[Kelly]

Hi Beth

Susie has already suggested two of the most valuable aids in my experience…a journal of your child’s experiences and sharings and to read as much as you can get your hands on (which I no doubt know isn’t as easy as it sounds)

As to other ideas…well I’m certainly no specialist…but a few thoughts come to mind on other possible steps you could make to finding some more answers…

Maybe you could try looking into her dreams and what they reveal by way of symbols, etc, and keep a journal of anything that comes up. You could make it like a game - every morning, you could all sit down to breakfast and share your stories/dreams from the night before…our dreams can reveal a lot of details and symbols that we miss in the waking world.

Another way is by getting your daughter to try plugging into her creative/imaginative side. As has been mentioned in here before, children can reveal great things through their creative outflow – through story writing, to drawing and painting or even “play”…maybe you could encourage her in these fields - and again, by making it more of a “game”, she may feel less pressured to do anything but what she feels inspired by and to.

When questioning children on past lives and memories, it is always important to use what can be termed as “clean” language, this is basically a language that guides, rather than putting “words into their mouths” …using questions such as “And then what happened…?”… “And so what did you do then…?”… “How did you feel…?”… “Can you remember why that was…?”

Clean language means not attempting to bring them into a truth or realization by any means other than their own thoughts and/or words; it means not encouraging them, by spoken word or tone of voice, to search for something within them just because you believe/wonder if it’s there. Children are very sensitive so it’s important not to put our own “theories” or “assumptions” across in any way, either by our reactions, tone or questions…sometimes the “real truth” can be far from our own imaginings and this putting forward of our own assumptions can cause the child to wander off from their own thoughts and memories. In a nut shell, it means GUIDING and not LEADING

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Lots of Love
Kelly



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[edhenders]

Thank you so very much. I started the dream "game" this morning. What an interesting little brain she has! This may end up being more fun for me. I will keep you posted! Thank you again