8 yr old son's past life causing problems now

[afrisbee]

My son who is almost 8 years old, has been getting more fearful by the day it seems.

He is afraid of the dark, he is afraid of being taken and his sister being taken, he is afraid of storms, fire/tornado drills, me dieing (bad one and in may different ways), he does not want to play sports anymore because he is afraid of being hurt. Pretty much you can find fear anywhere with him. He is afraid in Laser tag that the older kids have real guns...(but he still keeps playing)

Fortunately, he is still a happy kid, he goes to school, birthday parties ect with out problems. He does not like me leaving him during activities. He is doing well in school this year. Last year was tough for him academically. We thought it all surrounded him just being younger and not ready yet. Everything for him has been he can't ... he would get really frustrated doing any reading or math at home because he would say he is "stupid".......

I finally yesterday I took him to see a woman that I know well that does EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) thinking that may help him. She found something VERY interesting..... because of the extent of all his fears (I gave her a lot more detail) and that there really wasn't anything in his life so far that would cause him to be so fearful. She did past life regression with him........ here is what she found.

During the time when she getting info from him... she found that he was married with 2 kids (1 son 1 daughter). His name was the same. The names of the wife and kids were not ones in his everyday life. For a living he put stuff away on shelves in a store. He was happy doing that. Then she found out that his son was kidnapped and he could never find him. When he was dieing... he said it was because he smoked.... he was alone when he died. She asked where his wife was and he said outside because she was crying and sad. He told her he felt alone and sad. She asked him later if he ever remembered being in the war... he said no. He did cry a little when she was asking him questions. But she was very gentle and he was not afraid.

A lot of his behaviors now make sense to me. The woman he saw really thinks he came into this world feeling as a failure.

How can I help him now, I don't even know where to start?

Any help or suggestions would be VERY appreciated.

 

[ChrisR]

Hi afrisbee, welcome to the forum, you've come to the right place and I'm sure you will receive some very good suggestions here, as well as find some great advice that other parents have already been given in other discussions.


I'm sorry to hear that your son has been having a hard time with his life, and his past life. Does he ever talk to you about any of his anxieties? Or has he since mentioned the things he saw in his regression? The best thing I can think of would be for you to reassure him that all those things he remembered were in the past, in another lifetime, and that now he is safe, and among a family that love him very much.


I would also highly recommend Carol's book to you: Children's Past Lives: How Past Life Memories Affect Your Child, you can read the first chapter here. It is full of good advice for parents in your situation.


I hope this helps, and that you stick around and keep us updated with your son's progress. In the meantime, you may like to browse the children's section to see that you are not alone.


Chris

 

[soulfreindly]

hello Afrisbee


Since your son is talking that is a great starting point. Often with younger children that is all that is needed.They just need to know there is someone around a bit wise who is there for them and will support of them..


Give it some time.. being new to this , things will evolve in time .. Definitely read Carol's book.. IT is in our local library so check it out in your neighbourhood.


In her book you will get some idea as to how things progress and that you are indeed doing the right thing.. Good for you to be so open. I wish I had been so lucky.


Try and remain faithful that indeed you are safe.. That assurance will rub off on your son . Maybe find something else that he could get involved in. This may open his future up to new horizons . It could just be a time of change -- and some changes are more difficult than others..


best wishes Soulfreindly

 

[littlebug]

Hi afrisbee,


I am a big fan of EFT and TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique) for both current life and past life work. Both techniques are capable of addressing and eliminating disruptions in one's energy system regardless of whether they occurred in this life or a past life. They are a great adjunct to past-life meditation or regression work, both for clearing blocks to remembering and for clearing any negative memories that may be causing problems in this life. I wasn't sure from your post whether your EFT practitioner had tried this or not. You might want to talk to her about it... I also suggest reading up on EFT and TAT; there's lots you can learn on your own. I use it myself and on my kids often.


Best regards,


Beth

 

[Jody]

I think your son is a lucky little boy to have such an open-minded mother! :thumbsup: I think one of the best things you can do is just be there for him to talk to when these kinds of anxieties show up. Let him know he can talk to you about things that happened before he came to you. And definitely read Carol's book!