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Aloha from Hawaii! 10 year old son and past life

Noelani

Noelani

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Aloha from Hawaii,

I am so glad I found this site! Past lives and reincarnation has most recently been heavy on my mind, especially, for the last 2 years. Please allow me to share...

I have a beautiful 10 year old son, whom I love dearly. He came into this world a very sensitive baby. He was extremely sensitive to sound, cried constantly, and always wanted to be held. I thought it was colic, than gas, etc. But as each year passed, his sensitivities became even more extreme.

*I remember him as a 3 year old always wanting to watch movies in different languages, either French or Spanish.

* He was terrified of loud noises, especially fireworks. We spent his first 7 seven years of life, locked up in a bedroom on New years eve and 4th of July; door closed, air con, and TV blasted, just so he could avoid any BOOMing firework sounds. He finally worked it out on his own on his 8th year. He is now not afraid of fireworks, but fascinated by it.

*To this day, he despises doctors, especially dentist. Anything which involves him opening his mouth and prying, he becomes traumatized and almost stops breathing, and starts choking and gaging. He needs to go under(anesthesia), just for common dental work.

Fast forward to today....

*He continues to fear dentist. Throws tantrums just thinking about them in his mouth.

*He is obsessed about death, not in a weird way, but more in a deeply spiritual way. He questions everyones death on the island. Who? What? When? Where? Why? and says things about them going to heaven, etc. He had this fascination since he was 5.

*He is obsessed about me, dying. He will not absolutely NOT leave my side...well, besides school. He is calmed knowing I will be home after work waiting for him. If I have to travel for work. He becomes terribly depressed. If I am away over night, he throws a tantrum, and goes into a worried depressed frenzy, and will call me constantly to make sure I was okay. He does not want to sleep at anyones home, not even his grandmother or cousins, or friends. He just wants to constantly be with me. When asked why, he responds with, "I sometimes think, you may die or something bad may happen to you, mom." If I go to the doctors, he is very stressed about my appointment and needs to be reassured about my health.

*He is very prayerful, and we don't go to church at all. He wants to pray every morning upon our drive to school. He uses markers on the island to decide when prayer should be in the morning. It is always when we are passing his great grandmother's home, whom he has never met. Each morning, when we drive pass, he'll say, "mom, let's pray". His evening prayers are always before bed. The routine has to be the same. The structure of the prayer needs to be the same as well. The most interesting thing about his prayers is that, if you are the one saying the prayer, you must always ask for forgiveness AND you must always bless the people who have most recently passed on and are heading to heaven. If you forget those two request...the prayer is not complete, and he becomes upset and will toss and turn, until it is said, and prayer is closed.

*He is obsessed with tradegy and natural disasters, especially Tsunamis and Earthquakes and becomes very sad and worried about the people involved. He prays for them. Then he thinks a Tsunami will hit us soon.


There is so much more, but these are the ones which have been with him since he was a little guy, and now he is 10. Some of his phobias and fears deter him from really enjoying his youth.

It seems, and this is just my observation, especially after reading Dr. Wise books and Carol Bowman's book, that many of his traits are a carry over from a previous life. His spirit is very unsettled here in this earthly realm. Not sure if he exited out of his previous life traumatically, and if he lost his mother?

He is the most kind, sensitive and loving boy. LOVES people and is very social, but always always worried about death and life.

Just looking for some encouragement, hope and direction. We love him so, and want him to find heaven on Earth with us.

I look forward to hearing any response.

Thank you,
Noe
 
Welcome to the group. I would say ALL of these things are from one or more past lives. Has he ever said anything that could be past life related? You need to keep a journal and write all of this down. You may want to think about finding a therapist who is open to past lives. Carol even knows therapists all over the world. You can contact Carol directly from this forum and ask what she suggests. Your son needs help.
 
Hi Noelani, welcome to the forum, and thanks for sharing a bit about your son. I've read your post several times and I wanted to reply, even though I don't have much to offer in the form of advice.


I think your son is very special, and a sensitive soul, and I don't think you have too much to worry about with him to be honest. I think the way he clings to you and worries that you are going to die or leave him could well be related to a past life you've shared together. Perhaps he lost you as a parent, or maybe he was your parent in a past life, and his fear of natural disaster could have a connection to that?


Do you ever talk to him about past lives? There's no need to ask him a hundred questions, but perhaps wait until he's relaxed in bed or on a long car journey is another good one, then try and get a conversation going and ask him if he remembers a time before he was here, with you, and why he worries about you dying, did you die before?


You're already doing the most important thing by loving him, and you can always reassure him that he's safe, and loved, and that you're not going anywhere, and I think he'll grow out of his fears and grow up to be a fine young man! :)
 
It seems that your son has an extreme case of separation anxiety, possibly due to past life events. He might benefit from regression, to get behind these fears. In the meantime, you have some good advice to follow.
 
Hi and welcome!


Have you considered a possibility your child is actually being gifted rather than having pl connections? Dr Dabrowsky takes about 5 Overexcitabilities of gifted children (and adults) - PsychoMotor, Sensual, Imaginational, Intellectual and Emotional). One of the signs of Sensual Overexcitability is the fear of loud noises. Kids who have this would often cover their ears when watching tv on high volume, when they are in cinema or when they hear loud noises in general; they would also scream and/or cry. Sensual over excitability means heightened senses - they feel both pain and pleasure more acutely than others.


I don't know if it can also be related to pls, but in any case it's also good to consider giftedness.
 
Giftedness, and memory of PLs do seem to go hand in hand. I don't think I've ever heard of a child having PL memories who wasn't exceptionally bright.
 
BriarRose said:
Giftedness, and memory of PLs do seem to go hand in hand. I don't think I've ever heard of a child having PL memories who wasn't exceptionally bright.
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I don't know, I didn't get that impression. After all, I read here on several occasions that the parents didn't consider their children to be gifted, just normal, ordinary kids.
 
It's great you have three gifted kids yourself :) Take good care go them, as giftedness means so much more than just being "bright", but you already know that :)


I don't think that every kid that remembers pl is gifted, though. Maybe majority, I don't know, but every kid... no. Nor does every gifted kid remembers pl :)
 
Thank you


Thank you for all your thoughts and insight on my son's present life experiences. I value and appreciate your time and efforts in responding to my post. Unfortunately, there are no in-state PL therapist who work with children. The closest would be in CA.


My son is aware of "past lives", but I'm not sure to what extent. We talk about it openly in our home and it is a common form of discussion. He has not mentioned anything about PL thoughts or experiences, but his actions, anxieties and obsessions speak differently.


My son's heightened senses has caused educators to question his ability to learn "properly" in a classroom setting. He is so distracted by his extremely heightened senses that he some times will phases out or they say, he "day dreams". He hears things we don't hear. He feels things internally, he is extremely detailed oriented with people, nature and spirit. I believe all children are gifted. I believe each one of them contributes to our self learning as adults. i believe my son's gift is closely aligned with "spirit" and it confuses him sometimes as a 10 year old in this complicated world. I hope to hear and read more thoughts.


Much Mahalo,


N
 
Children who have the sensitivities that your son does always seem to have difficult starts in this world. Some grow into their gifts, and find peace with who they are. My own son had some of the issues that yours does. He couldn't bear loud noise, darkness, new clothes, the dentist, etc. School was a problem, even though he was intelligent. When he was ten, he insisted on sleeping on the floor next to his bed. My word of comfort for you, is that now he is happily married, has many friends, and is finishing up a degree in film production. It didn't occur to me at the time that his issues were past life related, but they may be the case with both your son and mine. I'm going to mention a book that you may already be familiar with, "Lightworker" by Sahvanna Arienta. I wish that I had read the book when Jordan was young. She has a brief excerpt relating to children like ours, and some advice on helping young "Lightworkers" to cope. I applaud your love for your son, and your appreciation of his gifts. Please let us know if we can help. This is a safe place to talk about it - you are among friends.
 
Windows seem to be a very common mental-escape route for anyone with sensitivities. I used them all the time as a child, and got severely disciplined for it, also. The discipline only taught me to think I was a bad person for not being able to stop daydreaming. Heh.


Things I have done that have helped me learn in uncomfortable environments.


Doodling/Notes


There is something about clear lines on paper that keeps me focused and blocks out some of the extra noise and distractions. I don't need it if I'm alone, but always in a crowded space, if I want to listen to someone who is presenting information without personal interaction.


It is only in the past ten years that I realized I could have two pages, one for specific points I want to record, and another page for the lines and shapes and random thoughts. Since then, I've been able to listen to lectures and such without frustration.


I think people who take tons of notes are using a form of this, where as long as the pen is moving, they can focus on the words they hear. If he has to stay on topic, he might try illustrating his teacher's words or adding his own insight on the subject.


Permission to Take a Break


I recommend giving him permission to escape "out the window" briefly for a mental break, so long as he manages to learn what is being taught. Talk his teachers into accepting it, if possible. (I've always learned very well when I'm interested in a topic, even if I was doing something the teacher considered distracting.)


If he fails to learn because of daydreaming, then possibly give him permission to go to the drinking fountain or bathroom once during a class, then returning to focus again.


I read a lot of blogs written by people who have been diagnosed with various "disorders" which are basically strengths that come with social problems in tow. Many of them say that just standing up and stretching for a moment is enough of a break to get back in and focus.


It's easier to "act differently" as an adult, but again, letting the teacher know that this is a therapeutic break will hopefully allow them to overlook it. Especially if his attention improves as a result!


If I remember anything else that has worked for me, I'll post it here ... but I'm sure others here have some techniques they've used to help get through the overload of information when they really do want to maintain focus in a class or presentation.
 
My problem with my son, was that I didn't realize that he had my characteristics - just doubled! I regret not being more sensitive to what he needed. One thing I noticed about him, was that Benadryl Elixir made him "hyper", when it puts most kids to sleep. He really disliked daylight, and would try to spend the day in a dark room. He wore the same clothes every day - I had to buy duplicates of the things he wore all through high school, just for cleanliness' sake. It was a challenge to be his parent, but he is a unique, and loveable person, just as Noe described her son to be. The only past life clue he ever gave was talking about Guadalcanal when he was 18 months old. That might explain why he insisted on sleeping with a hunting knife under his bed when he was a teenager. Perhaps, he was surprised in a bunker, and killed while sleeping.


Noe, does your son present you with any PL clues? The fear of loud noises seems indicative.
 
Noelani,


Do you feel your child would do better in a cyberschool situation or do you think it would make the issues worse?


My guess is he is dealing with both past life issues and other metaphysical abilities. I feel they go hand in hand, at lest that has been my personal experience with various children in my family, including mine and those of my siblings.


Check out the book that has been suggested, it may help you. I am sure God knew what he was doing when he placed this special child in your arms. Keep posting, the are many here who will help you as much as we can and of course Carol Bowman is on the site as well.


((Hugs)) to you.
 
My first thought when reading what you wrote about your son is that he sounds like my daughter and son....who, incidentally, have been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome and a few other disorders.


So, regardless of the root cause, if his sensitivities are interfering with his enjoyment of life, he may benefit from some assessment, occupatuional therapy, craniosacral therapy, or anything else recommended for kids with sensory processing issues.
 
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