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I am very similar to Ailish all the lives I have remembered have been female. I could never stand the thought of having short hair and will only wear skirts and dresses unless I am riding and then I have to wear jeans or slacks but I get changed into a skirt the second I get home. It has been this way my whole life.

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Kay
 
I mostly remember being female, although I do remember a few lives where I was male. However, I never remember being a man, just a little boy; in those lives I feel that I probably never made it to adulthood. I was never a tomboy growing up, always finding frilly dresses to be more comfortable than jeans. :tongue:​

Needless to say, I am quite feminine, yet surprisingly I have a somewhat masculine approach to life. I'm quite assertive in many situations, and I often get along better with men than women. Honestly, I think sometimes I forget that I'm a girl, if that makes any sense. It's not strange to remember being a boy. It was still me, just a different body. Although we may lean towards one gender or the other, we are all human beings before we are anything else.​
 
Amy said:
Do you feel that in the course of your PL's and your present life that you have had a propensity toward the masculine or the feminine? Or...do you feel that it is neither?

The reason why I ask is that there are things that I do & like that really seem unusual (to me). For example, I adore comic books. How many 37 yr old married women with two kids do you know who like comic books? See what I mean? It is almost like a rollover of a PL as a young/teenage boy. Maybe I am making more of it than I should but it would make sense to me if that were the case. Any ideas?:confused:
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Very interesting question!

I'd say personally I remember more female lifetimes than male ones, but I can only recall about 10 or 12, so I don't really know.
I think why I lean more towards the feminine side of things is not so much that I've led more lives as a female, but rather, more recent lives as a female. Of what I have discovered, the last four (including htis one) have been female. The one before that was male, but the life before that was female. Or at least that's the conclusion I've came to.

But this is an interesting subject, especially for anyone who says that they are somewhere in the middle. I wonder if that's what we're striving for ultimately, since I have a feeling that I'll have to spend my next life as a male to equal out my femininity. :(

it would be interesting to hear other people's thoughts!

~Elese
 
Interesting thread! Well i would say would probably fit more on the feminine side, on some things, then masculine on others.

When i was 2-3, i would wear towels, or pillowcases on my head, to pretend i had long hair. This to me is a defining event that can only be explained by reincarnation. I liked girly toys, but also liked my hot wheels. I would play “pregnant" a lot when i was little too, never really played with baby dolls, mostly the game ended when the baby was born. hm?

But now i would say i am still somewhat feminine, but just in a different way. Not in how i act, or anything like that, more on an emotional level. The way i think, my beliefs, and morals, i think are more feminine than masculine. I still don’t care much for sports, unless the Steelers are playing, couldn’t tell you a thing about cars, or how to fix one, i am not always trying to fight and show how macho i am. But again those are male stereotypes for our society. Like some of you have said, what defines gender? But. if we are using past lives as an explanation for our current gender roles, then we would still be going by stereotypes, perhaps even more so. Considering most of our past lives were pre feminism, and when gender roles were not only expected but enforced. Now most modern parents don’t enforce the gender expectations as much as our parents, or grandparents.

Probably the most feminine thing about me is how i never initiate a relationship. I wait for a girl to get the ball rolling. Which is probably to blame for my utter lack of any real relationships, or at least anything i would count. I feel like i should be approached, not the other way around. But I am a male this time, so it’s not going to be the same. But i'd also like to mention i have always been attracted to strong girls, not physically strong, not masculine girls, but emotionally strong girls. Like one who can take charge. I don’t know its hard to explain.

But also, kind of off topic, but not really, so much of our personality must come from our past lives, because just look at brothers and sisters. I have 3 brothers; we were all raised under the same roof, by the same parents, yet we are all vastly different. How can that be? Without using past lives as an explanation?
 
All of mine, as far as I know, have been male: Roman soldier, samurai in Japan, soldier in the crusades (15th century), Prince Charles Stuart (18th century), young pauper in the streets of London (19th century), pilot in German Luftwaffa in WWII by the name Karl Heiss and current incarnation...

I believe we all certainly incarnate as male and female, but maintain a predominance towards one of the two sexes which also manifests in spiritual form. In other words, spiritual entities also maintain predominantly male or female traits and characteristics.
 
Male/Female Concepts??

Something that Quintessence mentioned in another post started me thinking:

perhaps changing a gender was a way of me connecting to my spirituality in a different way. If I was more feminine I would use my more gentle energy and so on.
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Do you think that in each incarnation there are certain concepts that can only be learned as a male/female?
 
Amy,

I certainly think so. One of greatest distinctions is our gender and the social and physical roles that accompany them. Each has such powerful beauty in their own way. Each brings with it differing expectations, capabilities etc... As much as we in contemporary society try to homogenize it all, the distinctions are for a purpose. And I do believe a principal purpose is in our spiritual journey...reincarnation and karma. Great lessons are learned from both genders. And perhaps a common ground between the two is a destination?!

I do not recall any female past lives. I believe there were some due to ethereal traits. But certainly the interaction between the genders has been a major factor for me in my journey.

Good question Amy,
Tinkerman
 
I would say that I am about 50/50. I am female in this life but I am a very agressive person who goes after what I want. I am willing to work hard for it and refuse to let anyone tell me that I can't do anything. Tell me I can't and I will SHOW you I can. Before I hit my teen years I enjoyed playing football with my male cousins and I played guitar from the time I was 14 yrs old. I was really into the heavy music up until I was in my late twenties. I still like it but am mellowing out a bit now. I've always loved wearing makeup, jewelry, and prefer my hair long. I'm a bit of a clothes & shoes nut. I love handbags, perfume, scented soaps, etc..that kind of thing. So in some respects I'm definitely female. Especially when it comes to my sexual preferences but in many other ways I'm very male oriented. My husband says that I act like I am the "man" of the house. What I say usually goes. I make the decisions ultimately but I do defer to my husband at times so that he has a say in the running of our household too.

I will say that while living with my parents I was constantly trying to forge a good relationship with my Dad (many of you know that story). I went out of my way to try to impress him and make him love me. So I can't say for sure that my learning to play guitar (he is a musician) and playing football wasn't an attempt to gain his attention instead of something PL related. Many of you already know that I've lived many lives with my Dad. Most of them very violent relationships.

After I left home and started my own family I fell into the wife role very comfortably with my husband and am extremely happy being a mother. Being a mom is most rewarding. ;)
 
Good question Amy, definitely feminine for me. Reynardine, I know exactly how you feel. I can remember a few female lives, but I believe i'm in my first male incarnation this time around. I know that not everybody agrees, but I believe the soul has a gender, or at least a preference towards one sex or the other, I believe i'm a female (preferring) soul in a male body.

It's funny though, in this life, on the outside I have all the characteristics of a normal male, I like doing "man" stuff, even though the line between masculine and feminine seems to be getting shorter all the time. My sexual preference is towards the female, physically i'm just a normal male. But somewhere deep inside, there's a female aching to get out.

I believe all this is because I have unfinished business from my most previous life as a young girl who's life was tragically cut short. I only confirmed her existence fairly recently through a regression, but knowing about her, and what happened to her, answers many questions that have been eating away at me all my life.

It's just one of those things I have to live with, and if we get to choose who we come back as, which I very much hope we do... then maybe i'll get it right next time....:rolleyes:

Chris..;)
 
I've been male in all the past lives I can remember. And I'm also a man now. The games I played while being little or growing up.
The problem is that now that am an adult I remain immature.
I guess that my female reincarnation/s will perhapst show up later, perhapst when the time is right. it could also never happen. Only time will tell. But somehow I'm really not keen on finding out about possible female lives. Probably because I feel very comfortable in a male one!Heh!

When we were little I was supposed to play "family" with a male and a female friend. She became "the child" , the boy was the "father" and I was asked to play the role of the"mother". For awhile I played along. But it was such a boring game. Nonwithstanding that I really felt insulted to play a girl's role because the actual girl rather prefered the role of a child. My view was pretty stereotypical.

My urge was to battle, to fight, to be on the run, to guard and protect, to analyse a situation from dawn till dusk, outside , in the fields and the forest and the stream. And whoever dared to object got to know my bad temper. I refused to be a puppet, I just wanted to do things my way. My parents could leave me playing for hours: I was happy and they got some peace from the "demon child".

But one statement of my dad shook me deeply , it was to be able to control oneself, to remain calm, never to let emotions get the better of you.
My questions was:" How can i become a man quickly?". His answer was: " Cry if you need to or show other emotions, just don't let them rule you or you will go down a path of destruction. To be able to rule over them is the way to know your own strength and the way to grow up. But it'll come with time".
The funny thing is: my dad never said those words. But I told him that I clearly heard him gave me this answer to my question. According to him he said: "Take your time and grow into a fine young man. Don't rush things. "
That I never heard. The answer to this puzzle I got a few days later. WHile I slept I dreamt the scene over again and I distinctly heard my dad gave me the first answer about self control. Just that while saying those words he looked different: smaller, darker eyes, longer hair, another voice, and I won't speak about the clothing. Details have been forgotten long ago. I thought then that my dad really answered to take my time. But that someone else gave me another answer, an answer to which my heart resonnated to.
So from then on I started to keep my emotions in check, not to hit someone because I felt insulted, trying to be nice and impartial when asked an opinion. It worked but my anger was release on my punching ball!!Haha!
Dunno I guess in spite of everything there is a lot of agression within me, something I shouldn't let loose. But perhapst the fact of taking up kenjutsu might help me out there, helping me to focus my attention, channelling my anger. I tried, as recommanded, meditation. But it only works for a while I'm far too impatient for it to last. I mean I need something that makes me feel at ease to start with. Focusing on the wooden sword at hand is soothing and patience, attention is very easy. Wonder why?! I recently saw a group of performers making a private "show" . Afterwards we could touch and hold such a bamboo sword and were given a simple order to focus. i tried it out for a while. i was blown away by the strong feeling coming up. Focus was no problem at all. I think I'll try to find some place where they offer to teach it for beginners.At least try it out for real and longer period.
 
Hi Amy,

"Do you think that in each incarnation there are certain concepts that can only be learned as a male/female?"

I would say: most definitely... And that it is for this reason that we usually alternate male/female incarnations. :thumbsup:
 
I think i have been a female in some of my lifes,or even a young girl..but i believe i could be a man aswell,so im not so sure honestly...it has to be,sexe changes in lifes and somtimes i can think like a man hehe,but i dont know because im a girl,never been a man in this life and besides im very feminine.
 
There are some stereotypes about males and females that I wanted to address. Generally, men are thought to be more aggressive, rational, intellectual, and some say even less intuitive.
Women on the other hand are often perceived as emotional, creative, gentle, nurturing, and more intuitive than males.
I think a lot of this is cultural and has been for quite some time now. Men have been encouraged in the past to be "tough". This applies to those that have had to protect their villages and even men that have to fight in wars. And being tough is equated to emotional detachment.
Maybe this is the reason why there is the idea of "women's intuition". I believe that one way of becoming more intuitive is by connecting with your inner self. This is not to say that men are incapable of being intuitive at all. In fact, the most intuitive person I've had the pleasure of meeting was male. I just think he was more in touch with who he was. He took an inner journey so to speak.
I don't think there is a set rule to what type of energy a soul wants to use when they incarnate in a male or female body. We have to take into consideration that their past life experiences make up who they are.
 
I believe that what we learn from male and female incarnations is an effort to provide a balance of spiritual concepts that together form a whole to promote a higher level of spiritual awareness and thus progressing us forward ever closer to nirvana/heaven/paradise/etc.

Yes I think that there are certain concepts that we learn only as male or female entities.
 
I think we can learn important lessons from the awareness of occupying bodies of different sexes.

It would be hoped that if enough people had that awareness, they'd stop dividing the world into twain and pointing fingers at the other sex as being the bad one, and the inferior one.

Just as there are mysogynists, there is the opposite polarity as well, male-bashers. I can't stand either group.

Much of our views of the differences between the sexes are cultural in nature, and not based on anything but stereotypes. Isn't it time we looked at people based on who they really are, not whether or not they've got indoor or outdoor plumbing?

Phoenix
 
Quite so Phoenix. I think in various different lives I have had various experiences as either gender that I would not have had otherwise, more due to the social expectations of how men and women should behave than anything different about the 'innate me'.

There were also all sorts of practical reasons why men and women were given different social roles, of course back in the olden days. Women doing the child rearing without any mod cons and men having greater physical strength was a very important distinction in the days when almost all labour was manual and life was rough and tough and much more difficult for most people.

We are fortunate nowadays that we can be a bit more flexible. It is high time we adjusted our attitudes to match our physical circumstances.
 
the line is steadily blurring

I think the society I currently live in is starting to become more and more neutral toward gender roles. I see that as being beneficial for those that reincarnate here as different genders. They have the opportunity to disregard potentially restricting roles and focus on who they really are.
 
trans sexual issues

I have heard of some transsexualism or the feeling that you have been born in the wrong gender of body being attributed to past lives. Say you had been a female in the past few incarnations and then are born male gendered. This causes an individual to feel out of place in their current assignment.

I don't know. I mean, I think that if we are reincarnated over and over then we must choose who we are born to and "as". What does everyone think of this?
 
Hello Festival fan,

I believe there might be some relevance to that claim - that if we have been for example girls/women for many times, being born into male body might feel awkward and have some effects. But then again, like you said, I think the circumstances for each life are pretty much foreseen and don't come as a suprise. It might be just a part of the learning process. :)

Karoliina
 
I have heard of that theory too, but if that was all there was to it there would be a whole lot more transexuals because people swap back and forth all the time. That feeling of being in the wrong body is relatively rare - at least in its extreme versions where people feel they need surgery (as far as I know). Being attracted to a greater or lesser degree to the same sex is less rare - at least about 10% of the population (which also occurs in other animals) but I don't know if that is just a natural variation or would have anything to do with reincarnation or otherwise (or both).

People have a notion that everything works 'perfectly' in the spirit world, but I believe that is erroneous. I don't know if such perfection exists anywhere really! There always seems to be an element of crazy chance and mishap in everything no matter how carefully people think things are planned and worked out.

Another variation on the theory is that there has been some kind of 'mix up' and someone has got the wrong body by mistake. Trouble is, you can't complain to the manufacturer or get your money back. :)
 
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if we have been for example girls/women for many times, being born into male body might feel awkward and have some effects
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I agree. We're usually comfortable with what we are familiar with.
There is thought to be a male/female ratio of the soul. I have a theory that a person's twin soul has a complementary ratio.
The general rule is that male energy moves outward, while its polar opposite moves inward. When the twin souls are both incarnate and reunite, they may find that they feel "complete". It doesn't have to do with gender per se. Just the energy ratio. There is a balance.
 
I think the society I currently live in is starting to become more and more neutral toward gender roles. I see that as being beneficial for those that reincarnate here as different genders. They have the opportunity to disregard potentially restricting roles and focus on who they really are.
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I agree

There is thought to be a male/female ratio of the soul. I have a theory that a person's twin soul has a complementary ratio.
The general rule is that male energy moves outward, while its polar opposite moves inward. When the twin souls are both incarnate and reunite, they may find that they feel "complete". It doesn't have to do with gender per se. Just the energy ratio. There is a balance.
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This makes sense
 
Quintessence, Interesting post on the twin souls. I find it fits beautifully in what I've discovered. Do you have a particular source for those ideas? My journey, in this life, has an insatiable desire to learn more about this twin soul.

I can see how the male-female "circle," sometimes itself a symbol of reincarnation, is consistent with the balance and energy found in all creation. It makes sense that this same spiraling ratio, as you called it, plays a part in our soulful evolution. What greater theater is there than the one of personal interaction with another. I have seen it here on the forum over the years, with those who either believe or disbelieve in the concept. A very polar issue. But one that reflects, I think, the very nature of a deep and powerful twin soul relationship. Those on the outside rim of the spiraling vortex are distant and solitary, almost disdainful of the idea of "codependency" on another. But as time and lives progress and the concentric nature of the soul spirals inward in its cosmic dance, those connections begin to fire and the depth, girth and nature of meaning begins to blossom. And man, what a thing it is...beyond my descriptive powers. There is so much more to this that we can't see...but I really believe this idea sits right on the edge of our understanding.

Sorry to have gone-on....: angel

The Tinkerman
 
Tinkerman you are eloquent. I love reading your posts. You really have a way with words. When I read your post it is as if I can see the ebb and flow of your ideas in my head. It is really amazing. ;)
 
Thanks Amy!:) :) This, to me, is a very powerful topic. But it's one that is hard to really find a lot of relevant information on. Seems this knowledge is something you have to experience, as Quintessence has said.

Tinkerman
 
Amy said:
Do you feel that in the course of your PL's and your present life that you have had a propensity toward the masculine or the feminmine? Or...do you feel that it is neither?

The reason why I ask is that there are things that I do & like that really seem unusual (to me). For example, I adore comic books. How many 37 yr old married women with two kids do you know who like comic books? See what I mean? It is almost like a rollover of a PL as a young/teenage boy. Maybe I am making more of it than I should but it would make sense to me if that were the case. Any ideas?:confused:
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Personally, I do not find anything unusual about a 37 year old woman enjoying comics and i myself do not believe comic books are exclusively masculine. edited out I would like to here more cases of things you do or like that you believe is unusual.
 
I know what you mean about the information, Tinkerman.
I believed in twin souls and soulmates since I was eleven years old. But I didn't know that there was a difference then.
If I read a site on twin souls it would feel like a pointless endeavor.
I think some of the writers of these sites are confusing the twin soul with a soulmate. They use the terms interchangeably. Also, they don't make very clear distinctions between the two.
I have a lot of theories. Again, based on my experiences. The twin is very different compared to the other soulmates. Strangely, I think the whole female/male thing ties into it.

We can read as much as we want and learn nothing (all the sites in the world will not touch being by your actual twin essence incarnate).
For this reason, reincarnation is imperative. As spirits we can still learn...sure. However, experience is the greatest teacher. We are here to have this human experience and it's amazing how much more we are capable of learning.
 
I believe I was male in my last incarnation, but I don't recall my PLs well enough to know if that was a trend.

It is difficult to explain since I'm definitely a woman - physically and mentally - in this life, but it's just a feeling in my body of being male, like having a male mentality toward myself (like being very relaxed with how my body looks ;) ).

It is very difficult to exactly pinpoint what it is, but generally I think that sometimes I have more of a male-attitude toward certain things.
 
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