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I think I just met my PL husband!!!

Lynnette

Lynnette

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About three weeks ago, I managed to find myself set up on a blind-date with someone I did not know and had never met before. It was also the first time I have ever been on a 'date', as I am not exactly the most confident or talkative of people.

I had seen a couple of photographs of the guy, and something about him just made me think, I really know you, although I've never met you. It was strange too, that the photos, though the same guy, could almost have been of two different people. (They were all most definitely him).

So, I was sat in the café, absently contemplating the wall-hangings, when he walks up from behind, practically bursts out my name and sweeps me off my feet in a bear-hug!! This from a guy who has never met me before, and never even seen a picture of me! No introductory 'hello, are you ...?'

Now in general circumstances I am most definitely not a tactile person - I will just about tolerate shaking hands. I certainly will not tolerate being hugged and swept off my feet by a total stranger... but it just seemed so natural... It was like I had always known him.

Then when he finally put me down and sat in front of me and I managed to actually look at him, the first thought that came to my head was 'he's my Augustus Springberg!' The man whose life I dreamt about and who was my husband in some PL dreams. But, I never ever refer to him as Augustus. Always by his first name or surname. Though, I know from having seen an old family letter relating to a visit to the family, that he was sometimes known as Gust. OMG (His name is not Augustus Springberg currently)

Another thought that crossed my mind as I listened to him - he was very talkative, was that for the last few weeks I had been almost continuously singing an old Norwegian folk tune that had lodged itself in my head. (No, I don't speak Norwegian, but for some reason learned this song). Gust might very well have known it too. Indeed I remember smiling to myself has he chatted, thinking, he's my Water Spirit from that song! (Apparently he's a Scorpio) and it was as if my singing that song had called him up lol

I have to say, since then I have heard absolutely nothing from him. Just total silence?! (Strangely, since meeting him the need to sing the song has gone too, and even when I do, it doesn't sound the same??). But the thought that has been left in my mind is, why of all people would I meet this guy who to all appearances I have known forever; why would the first thought in my head be that he was my Augustus Springberg; and then why disappear again??

Could he really have been my PL husband, who for some reason the fates decided to let us see we're still around before leaving us to carry on our separate ways again?? Has anyone else had a similar experience?
 
When I read the first part of your story, I was really excited for you. Even after reading that he hasn't called - I still am! I think you are really "tuned in", just from reading your posts. I think he is your Gust Strindberg. The meeting could have been a "date to keep a date" in your next lives - a reminder that you are both still "there", but not meant to be together right now. Sometimes men get really frightened when they sense the presence of a soul mate. My husband said it felt like drowning - he was going down for the third time, and no longer cared. When Gust overcomes his terror, he may be back. Thank you for sharing your story!
 
:D Thanks Briar Rose. Our meeting was certainly not what I was expecting. Even when the thought that he was Springberg popped into my head, it was not as much of a surprise as I had anticipated. It was more a sense of 'Finally! There you are!'.


Ever since I was very small, I have carried around an annoying 'waiting sensation' in me, that I could never understand. I thought it was waiting to be united with my friends - I have very few friends, and I consider myself privileged to see them or speak to them once every few years, but I always find them when I least expect it, and they are people I know even despite our rare encounters, will always be there, and always be my friends. Anyone else I just consider as acquaintances or colleagues.


Since meeting Gust though, it has become more of an excited yet disappointed waiting feeling. As if I have just found the best friend of all my best friends, only to have him disappear again immediately and leave me to continue my wait. If this guy truly is Gust, I guess it would make sense, having seen how they met and knowing they were married for going on to 50 years. From the few letters I have come across too, I believe they had a very happy, very lively household.


Maybe as you feel, I am 'tuned in'. But sometimes I think it would be nice if I could also 'tune out' a little too.
 
Lynette,


Thanks for sharing your story. I echo BriarRose's sentiments, and think there is a strong possibility he was indeed your "Gust".


Speaking as someone who's been on many a blind date, I can honestly say I've never felt that sense of being reunited with a soul mate that you describe. I envy you, even though the reunion appears to have been a fleeting one. Many years ago, though, I was out with work colleagues and their friends one night when I met a woman with whom I had an instant rapport. We were in a crowded bar surrounded by people, many of them my colleagues, but pretty soon we were in a world of our own, oblivious to those around us, and of the passing of the hours. People started to drift off and go home as closing time approached, but we were oblivious to that too. Eventually, we were about the only people left in the pub. I offered to walk her home, but for reasons I cannot now recall, she declined. It wasn't a rejection - there was some practical reason. Anyway, she walked out the door and I've never seen her since. But I've never forgotten her, and I feel strongly that we were together in a PL.
 
Thank you, Arrant :cool:


Do you think people like the lady you met, or this guy; or the friends/people we meet who we share an instant connection with and stay close to even through time and distance; or those who make lasting impressions on us, though we may never meet them again, may in fact be multiple 'soul mates/friends' if that is the right word here, or people we have known over and over through successive incarnations? Or are we just all 'melded from the same thread'?!
 
I think we have multiple soul mates, from contact in previous lives. Whether soul mates come from the same "thread" is an interesting question. It goes back to the question of how souls are created. Are they continually created, or was it all at once? I like to think of G*d as an artist. Did he have a "Blue Period", like Picasso? ;) Does he do American Primitives? I have met a few. Oh, dear, Lynette, you have sent me into a fit of whimsy, with a real question. I must be from the Divine Surrealist phase. cover face All of these relationship issues are harder for those of us who are introverted, don't make friends lightly, and cherish the ones we have.
 
I've done a lot of traveling in my professional life, and here and there I've run into total strangers who shared some kind of instant intimacy with me for just a short time -- like a knife-grinder on a bridge in Italy who needed to connect with so badly that I took out my pocket knife and asked him to put a new edge on it for me, just to be able to interact with him. He smiled, did the job, and wouldn't charge me; and we went our ways, and I never saw him again, which was fine with me (and, I assume, with him) because that's all it needed to be -- a symbolic warm handshake between (very!) old friends, or whatever we were.


This kind of thing has happened often enough to make me an unusually confident traveler, I think, because I've developed this sense that wherever I go, there are old friends glad to greet me, however briefly. I think this happens a lot more than most of us tend to realize. It's not the same as having your path converge with that of someone who's signed on to do some substantial task(s), but in some ways it feel *more* important than that: a kind of confirmation that most of us have been around lots of times, and made lots of friends. That's how it seems to me.
 
Ah, they are such interesting experiences aren't they?


As for whether you'll see him again, it's hard to say. Might have been just passing through with a wave to an old friend.


Briar Rose - I love the image you've just spun for us there. It made me laugh. :D
 
Lynette what a great unique situation


what you are experiencing .


Is something I have been dealing since


april of last year it scares me very much.


I feel like I am drowning as well


Rose. I could not put into words all


feelings that were coming out.


I still get very emotional about it.


There a couple days a week I have a


emotional breakdown. Still.
 
Hi, yes Lynette I've had this alot.


I haven't always been as well tuned in about it though and have often put it down to instant attraction. When I look back I think it's more likely pl connection.


It's funny we have possibly shared lives with people who we may just have passing moments with in others.


I know I have other soul mates I've dreamt of having strong connections with but I don't know them this life.


It's maybe good to know what we don't have this time we may decide to choose in later lives.


;)
 
What an awesome tale, Lynette. There could be many reasons he has not contacted you ... do you have a way of figuring ou where he might be at a certain time so you could "bump" into him??


Thanks for the heartwarming smile :)
 
Hey Mama,


I am so glad I made you smile wellllllcome


Unfortunately, I don't know where he lives, or his movements, to 'bump into him'. It's a different part of the city from me. I figure, if something's meant to be, then it'll happen!
 
BriarRose said:
I think we have multiple soul mates, from contact in previous lives. Whether soul mates come from the same "thread" is an interesting question. It goes back to the question of how souls are created. Are they continually created, or was it all at once? I like to think of G*d as an artist. Did he have a "Blue Period", like Picasso? ;) Does he do American Primitives? I have met a few. Oh, dear, Lynette, you have sent me into a fit of whimsy, with a real question. I must be from the Divine Surrealist phase. cover face All of these relationship issues are harder for those of us who are introverted, don't make friends lightly, and cherish the ones we have.
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Briar Rose, that is so funny. It made me giggle!!! Looking at the folks around me, it almost could be true!
 
I'm glad, Lynette. I have to admit, I amuse myself, even when it doesn't work for anyone else. :D It really is a blessing to enjoy your own company!
 
Well, I managed to run into this guy again today. It was very strange. He completely blanked me out and ignored me. In fact, he literally turned his back on me and feigned not to have heard me!


I guess whatever reason he had for wanting to meet me, if he was Gust, or even as himself, are finalised and over.


Its a shame really, I quite liked the guy, and being finikity over who I make friends with, would have really liked to have had him as a friend... :confused: Oh well!
 
Ouch. I'm sorry to hear that. Really must sting, especially when you'd really felt that you'd had a bond (and a past).


At the risk of sounding too optimistic, fluffy, or patronizing (and I don't intend to, I promise) perhaps it was for the best. Not to say that you are destined to meet again with better circumstances to follow, but maybe it just wasn't the time.


Who knows what has been going on in his head all this time after meeting you? Perhaps it just isn't the moment. Maybe he has some other situations he's dealing with. In any case, how do you feel about it, in terms of the future? Are you satisfied with just laying it to rest or are you thinking with trying to keep in contact somehow?
 
I'm so sorry, Lynette. Perhaps his own behavior has embarrassed him, and he can't deal with it. I think it should! It costs very little to be civil. The universe may be throwing you together to "test" him, for reasons unclear to everyone else.
 
Oh Lynette, I hate it when people do that. saywhat


Agree Briar, a simple "hello" costs nothing.


It's funny though when people are like that I tend to think it's there issues. I wonder if he know's there some connection but doesn't understand it where as you are more tuned in.
 
Maybe??


I generally consider myself quite a good instinctive judge of character, and he did seem a genuinely nice guy. But after his performance this time, I was left thinking, what a rude so-and-so. Maybe there was something else going on, but as you say, it costs nothing to be civil... I think that's what shocked me so, the fact that his behaviour turned almost Jekyll and Hyde. It made me doubt my initial assessment that he was such a nice guy.


Perhaps if he is as changeable as that though, it would be to my benefit to keep a distance from him!
 
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