Intro & question: how common...?

[ATL-gadget_grrl]

Hello, I'm a mom in Atlanta. I have thought for years that my daughter was somehow connected to my mom, who died of breast cancer 2.5 years before my daughter was born. She's now 9, and doesn't say connecting things too much anymore, but when she was little she said two things that made me sit up and take notice.

The first one, when she was only a couple of years old, she said to me out of the clear blue, "I used to rock you when you were a baby." At that point, I didn't think too much of it - maybe she was confused and got the I/you pronouns mixed up. But then...

Some time later, we were sitting in our dining room. I had a family gallery of perhaps 25 photos on the wall. One of them was a photo of my mom, my husband, my sister, and myself. My daughter, out of the clear blue again, looked up, pointed to THAT photo and said, "I remember when that picture was taken." I got the chills. The way the photos were arranged, that was the only one with her or my mom in it in that general vicinity on the wall.

Add to this, when she was born, she looked JUST LIKE my mom. I have photos of when my mom was a baby and when I put them side by side with my daughter's photos they are nearly identical. The night my daughter was born, my grandmother came to the hospital and commented on the similarity right off. My dad said a couple of years later that the first time he met my daughter he was sort of frightened - that she has the same eyes and same intensity that mom had.

So, I think that my daughter is somehow connected to my mom.

My questions, then - has anyone else run across a 2.5 year reincarnation cycle? How common is it that a young mom (age 49) comes back within the family? And, my daughter has a birthmark on her side, toward the bottom of her rib cage. Mom died of breast cancer. I am not seeing a direct connection there. Finally, if mom died of breast cancer, and my daughter is connected, does this mean my daughter shares the same fate?

Thanks,
I look forward to continuing to learn and read...

Laurie

 

[tanguerra]

Hi Laurie,


Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear about your mother.


No, it is not uncommon at all. In fact it seems to be the norm (or at least the majority) that people reincarnate back into the same family. The things your little daughter said are also reasonably common remarks for little kids to make in such circumstances.


It is not uncommon for people to have birthmarks in the same spot where they have experienced various wounds in previous lives. There is a whole thread or two on that topic. You can use the 'search' function to find them.


It does not necessarily follow that your daughter will get breast cancer, except of course that there is a genetic connection in the family. She would be wise, as is anyone, to keep an eye on it of course.


I hope you enjoy the forum and can read the stories of others who have had similar experiences and also enjoy the various more esoteric discussions.

 

[Karoliina]

Hello Laurie and welcome!


It sounds possible your mother has come back as your daughter. Have you read Carol Bowman's Return From Heaven? It's a great book about same family reincarnation, and I'm sure you'd enjoy reading it. :thumbsup:


While I don't believe, as Tanguerra, it's a norm or even a majority's choice to be re-born into the same family, it certainly happens and is pretty common.


It's also pretty common to be born again within a couple of years. Someone correct me, if I don't remember this right, but I think according to Dr. Stevenson's studies the medium time to be born again is around 18 months. My own experiences back this up, too, but the time can be also shorter or longer.


Birthmarks can be signs of past lives, but not necessarily, and not always from the most recent one.


The most important thing is that your daughter is not destined to get cancer or die young even if she is your Mom reincarnated!!! Like Tanguerra said, it can be genetic, so it's good to be wary, but reincarnation doesn't mean we die the same way or at the same age as our previous incarnation. Don't worry!


Karoliina

 

[ATL-gadget_grrl]

Thanks, Ladies, for your quick response. I have not yet read any of Carol Bowman's books as I have just begun my research into this interesting area.


Let me ask - does anyone have any insight on where one reincarnates back into? I mean, is it something that my Mom might have somehow "requested"? And, if you're reincarnated into one person, do you stay in that person for the rest of their lives, or is it like a window that you can view the world through at will? I ask because although my daughter made those statements and looks so much like my mom, my daughter's personality is definitely her own.


Just trying to make sense of it all -


Thanks,


Laurie

 

[vicky]

Hi Laurie,


My personal belief is that we are born into each lifetime as a different person to learn different lessons. We change genders, ethinicity, varying levels of health etc for this reason. So, even if your daughter is your mother, she will still become her own person and learn different life lessons from having been your daughter, from having been born into a different time etc.


Also, it is common for children to begin to forget their past life memories at around the age of 7.


Vicky

 

[Karoliina]

Vicky is right. I believe we all have multiple past lives, and those past incarnations affect us in some respects, but we are all still unique individuals.


There are different beliefs on whether we get to choose where we will be reincarnated, but I believe we can at least have some influence on it.


Karoliina

 

[tanguerra]

Hi again Laurie


These are good questions. There are several threads regarding them. I have picked out a couple for you. You may find it interesting to read the thoughts of others here:


Pre-planning - http://www.reincarnationforum.com/threads/questions-about-pre-planning.639/


Personality: http://www.reincarnationforum.com/threads/personality-of-souls-from-life-to-life.568/


Dr Michael Newton has written several very good books on this subject as well, based on his experiences working with past life regression patients. If you want to do some reading on reincarnation he is well worth a look.


As Karolina says, the personality does change somewhat from one life to the next. Each life is unique and separate. Your daughter is not your mother, although she may share her spirit and some memories. Your daughter is her own new and wonderful person. All that said, you will probably begin to notice a few quirky similarities as your daughter grows up (if your suspicion that she might be your mother reincarnated is correct).


As Vicky says, each life has its own challenges and lessons to learn. I remember quite a bit about my own most recent past life for instance and there were some elements of my personality then that are very familiar to me now and some that are quite foreign.


The soul is one thing. It is immortal and it is what carries over from one life to the next. The mind and the body are other things. These things change subtly (sometimes dramatically) from life to life and are not only predetermined to a certain extent, they are also affected by the circumstances of that life - education, social class, family influence, environment and so on. All these things together make up a person working together in subtle harmony.

And, if you're reincarnated into one person, do you stay in that person for the rest of their lives, or is it like a window that you can view the world through at will?

People do talk about chopping and changing bodies mid-life, sometimes in the aftermath of a major crisis - such as an extreme illness or serious accident. It is one of those controversial topics in this whole area, let's say the 'jury is out'. But it would seem to be by far the exception rather than the rule of how these things work. On the whole, once you are born, that is your body for the rest of that life.