Hi my name is Dawn. I'm just hoping for a little insight. I have two beautiful daughters. Haileigh and Morgyn. My youngest daughter Morgyn who will be turning 4 very soon, has just this last year started talking about her other family. At first I just really thought nothing of it because my older daughter had never really said anything like that. Anyway, as time has gone on the story has gotten a little more detail. She talks about how her other family died in a fire, and then she came to live with us. She never mentions herself passing on only her other family. At first I thought I was crazy so I wanted to see if she would tell the story to others, maybe with more detail. Only some people she will tell the story to, my grandmother, my sister, and Haileigh. But sometimes she just won't speak of it at all. Sorry for the rambling, I guess my question is...is there anyway I can try to get her to remember more. Or is this even real? Also she has a fear of mirrors, not sure what that could be about? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!
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Ailish
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Hi Dawn,
Welcome to the forum
There are also ways of speaking to a child about their experiences that are important - it sounds like you're doing a great job just by validating her stories.
There are a few excellent threads I'd recommend reading that I think you'll find helpful:
How do I talk with my child about a past life?
How can you tell the difference between a child's fantasy and a true past life?
The Four Signs of Children's Past Life Memory
Good luck and keep us posted on Morgyn!
Aili
Welcome to the forum
I wouldn't push her to speak about it, but if she brings it up there are several things you can do. The best way to find out more, imo, is through art. Ask her to draw a picture for you of her other family - draw with her yourself so she is comfortable and thinks it's a regular game. When you're done, explain your picture to her and ask her to tell you about hers.
There are also ways of speaking to a child about their experiences that are important - it sounds like you're doing a great job just by validating her stories.There are a few excellent threads I'd recommend reading that I think you'll find helpful:
How do I talk with my child about a past life?
How can you tell the difference between a child's fantasy and a true past life?
The Four Signs of Children's Past Life Memory
Good luck and keep us posted on Morgyn!
Aili
Curtis
New Member
Have you considered, assuming we are dealing with recollection of a past life, that maybe she didn't die in a fire, but might have survived one, at least for a time? Surviving a fire, could give one a real reason to have traumatic memories leading to a phobia connected with mirrors.dthoman said:
alaskanlaughter
Senior Registered
Welcome Dawn! It's great to have you here. They've given you some great links and suggestions. Feel free to look around and ask questions. Keep us posted on how your daughter is doing. :thumbsup:
Sunniva - My guess is that a person would have been disfigured from a fire and avoid looking in mirrors.
Sunniva - My guess is that a person would have been disfigured from a fire and avoid looking in mirrors.
Hi Dawn,
I just wanted to add my welcome, and thanks for sharing Morgyn's story
The others have already given great advice, and some good threads to read from Aili. I would also recommend Carol's book, Children's Past Lives: How Past Life Memories Affect Your Child, you can read the first chapter here.
Like Aili said before me, I wouldn't try to force any information out of Morgyn, talking about her past life is something that she will only do when she's ready (usually in a very relaxed state of mind) But the best thing that you can do is just be there for her if she does talk, listen and respond to her as if you already know what she's talking about (this will make her feel comfortable and able to talk about her experience) Maybe you can ask a few simple questions like what is her name? is she a boy or a girl? does she have any brothers and sisters? what games does she like to play etc., anything that might get a conversation going and maybe give you a few clues as to what kind of life she led and in what time period. Most important of all, write down everything she says and keep it in a safe place, you might be very glad that you did one day.
Hope you enjoy your time here, and please come back and let us know if Morgyn says any more.
Chris
I just wanted to add my welcome, and thanks for sharing Morgyn's story
The others have already given great advice, and some good threads to read from Aili. I would also recommend Carol's book, Children's Past Lives: How Past Life Memories Affect Your Child, you can read the first chapter here.
Like Aili said before me, I wouldn't try to force any information out of Morgyn, talking about her past life is something that she will only do when she's ready (usually in a very relaxed state of mind) But the best thing that you can do is just be there for her if she does talk, listen and respond to her as if you already know what she's talking about (this will make her feel comfortable and able to talk about her experience) Maybe you can ask a few simple questions like what is her name? is she a boy or a girl? does she have any brothers and sisters? what games does she like to play etc., anything that might get a conversation going and maybe give you a few clues as to what kind of life she led and in what time period. Most important of all, write down everything she says and keep it in a safe place, you might be very glad that you did one day.
Hope you enjoy your time here, and please come back and let us know if Morgyn says any more.
Chris
Hello Dawn and welcome!
The first thing that I thought about when you mentioned the fear of mirrors was that perhaps she doesn't recognize herself. Maybe there is some confusion visually to her between then and now? Just a thought. Like the others have said, I believe Carol's book will be a big help to you.
Thank you for joining us.
Tinkerman
The first thing that I thought about when you mentioned the fear of mirrors was that perhaps she doesn't recognize herself. Maybe there is some confusion visually to her between then and now? Just a thought. Like the others have said, I believe Carol's book will be a big help to you.
Thank you for joining us.
Tinkerman
Thanks so much to all of you for your responses. I never actually thought about those connections to the mirror before. I was asking her yesterday a little more when we were outside, and she told me that her grandmothers name was Lorili. This kind of floored me, there is no one in our family with that name. So I know she never would have heard it before. She also stated that she didn't die in the fire her family did, she also says that she misses them. Which in a silly way made me sad. Does she not want to be here with us? I always tell her I'm glad she came. I asked her if she chose to come to our family, and she said no, she just did. Also yesterday she said something, I can't quite remember what exactly it was, but I remember being astounded at how well pronounced and grown up she sounded. This was after our conversation. I think I might try the drawing activity suggested. What should I do when she says she misses her other family. She says it quite often. I assume it would feel like losing someone in this life, so is she still grieving?
soulfreindly
Senior Registered
Hello Dawn,dthoman said:
This brings tears to my eyes . She is so lucky to have you as parents.. as you are giving her love and just the love she may be needing. She may be missing her last past life family , but you coming to her and being open about her loss can help her immeasurably.
I know that I too had this same thing happen-- ie I was not wanting to come to my present family in this life and have had a hard time processing these feelings. Through regression therapy I am just putting this frustration to rest.
It started with me from a life three times ago , where I was a young child of 3 and lost my family to murder. I was also murdered . But it was the loss of my family that left its lasting affect on me. I spent three lives after that looking for them and ended up " wasting" time as I could not settle down until I had settled this desire. I ended up suffering tremendously due to my lack of good judgement . I have been very lucky in finding some help along the way in this life by those souls around me , in spirit and living here on earth to find my roots again and settle down .
I think it is good for your daughter to be sharing her feelings. Yes she is still grieving. You could do some reading about grieving.. and processing feelings with deep losses. Do not worry that she will turn from you. I know I would not have ,had I had someone to tell how I was feeling. My parents this life and I did have difficult past lives but I do not think it was that so much as not having someone to share my anxieties about my past loss about my " other family" that lead me to feel at odds with them.
Your daughter is a lucky girl . Kudos to you for working on reaching out to her. Don't be afraid she will turn away from you by speaking of her love for her other family. We all can have several families and feel equally at home in all.
love soulfreindly
W.A. HEART
Senior Registered
Hi Dawn! Welcome to the Forum! You have already been given the best of suggestions I think - so I just want to wish you luck on this journey, and let you know that we'll be here!
Oh - and I totally agree with Soulfriendly - Kudos to you! What lucky little girls your daughters are!
Love and Light!
Welsh at Heart
Oh - and I totally agree with Soulfriendly - Kudos to you! What lucky little girls your daughters are!
Love and Light!
Welsh at Heart
Blueheart
Senior Member
Here is what I did when one of my daughters talked about missing her "cousit", which I assumed was a cousin and her "home".
First, I reminded myself that she was telling me about her sorrow because we are close, this is bothering her, and she trusts me with her feelings. In other words, without making a big deal about it, I was sensible of the honor.
Then, I told her I was sorry she missed her cousit, and that I would always be around to give her hugs when she is feeling sad. I let her know she could talk about it if she wanted to and I would listen. I told her that I missed people too, but while it may take a long time, someday we could see each other again. And then I told her that I was very happy she was my daughter now and that I loved her very much.
I didn't make a big production out of it. It was just the four sentences, really, with a lot of rocking in the rocking chair, and a lot of silences in between.
First, I reminded myself that she was telling me about her sorrow because we are close, this is bothering her, and she trusts me with her feelings. In other words, without making a big deal about it, I was sensible of the honor.
Then, I told her I was sorry she missed her cousit, and that I would always be around to give her hugs when she is feeling sad. I let her know she could talk about it if she wanted to and I would listen. I told her that I missed people too, but while it may take a long time, someday we could see each other again. And then I told her that I was very happy she was my daughter now and that I loved her very much.
I didn't make a big production out of it. It was just the four sentences, really, with a lot of rocking in the rocking chair, and a lot of silences in between.