Looking for Advice about my Son

[cmommy]

My son is now 7, and for years he has talked about things that happened before.

He has always been terrified of birthdays and especially birthday candles and the "Happy Birthday" song. If anyone sings that song, he will fall down on the floor in a fetal position, terrified. Ever since he was a baby, he has also been terrified of fire. This year was the first year we had candles on his cake--he asked for them and he was very proud that he was not afraid and that he blew them all out safely. It was a huge milestone for him.

From things he has said, it seems that he died in a fire on his 8th birthday, apparently caused by the candles on his cake. After that, he says, he "got lost in the sky" and that still really disturbs him. He says he was all alone and lost, floating in the sky.

Every night when he is going to bed he gets scared that he will get "lost in the sky" again and he asks us to reassure him. It seems to help him when we say that we won't let that happens, that he is safe, we will protect him.

He had a speech delay and was not really able to talk about this until fairly recently. It seems like a huge relief to him that now finally he can.

I am looking for anything else I can do to help him cope with this and heal from it. Thank you!

 

[Delonada]

Hi, and welcome to the forums.


Sounds like your son is carrying a traumatizing experience that is affecting him. If he starts talking about previous lives use open ended questions to see if he is willing to talk about what he remembers. If he voices concern like "being lost in the sky" try to assure him that he is no longer lost and that he is with you; that you are there and you aren't going away.


It seems you are doing fine already, just be there for him and lend him an open ear without judgment. It is probably the most valuable thing you can give when it comes to this.


If you've read Carol Bowman's book, Children's Past Lives, you will see accounts of how she used regression to give her children a much needed catharsis regarding their past lives. I do not know if that is viable in your area, but it might be interesting to look into that if the fear persists.


If you have any other memories of things regarding to potential past lives please mention them. We have a good bunch of people on this forum that might be able to give you a better answer with more information.

 

[Kristopher]

Hi Cmommy, welcome to the forum!


Time will help him cope with it. If he did die in a fire on his birthday during his past live then such a disturbing event would have a big impact on him spiritually that enables him to have strong memories when he goes into his next incarnation, strong enough for him to still recall these memories at the age of 7.


Eventually he will forget all about these memories, although the phobias have a strong chance of staying. Hypnosis has proved very effective when helping people over come phobias and fears. Many people recall these past lives and are cured once they know the cause. Maybe if you leave it until he is much older and if these problems still trouble him then I suggest hypnosis would be a good path to go down.


I dont think there is much you can do at the moment. Keep reassuring him would probably be the best idea. I am unsure what age exactly children commonly start to forget about past lives but im sure others here on the forum will be able to give you some advice on that.

 

[Blueheart]

It is wonderful that he was able to blow out the candles on his cake this year! That's a big step.


I suspect he may have some anxiety as his next birthday approaches, but once he gets through that milestone, he will probably forget about this particular life altogether.


Nice work, Mom. It seems to me you are already doing all the right things.

 

[Nightrain]

Hi Cmommy! Welcome to the forum!


As mentioned by Kris and Delonada, facing one's past life memory seems to provide the solution or catharsis one needs. This has been supported strongly on a clinical basis by Dr. Brian Weiss, as well as by stunning anecdotal evidence found in Carol Bowman's books, "Childrens Pastlives" and "Return from Heaven". But one well-documented story of a little boy with a horrific memory of burning and how his parents dealt with those memories can be found in their autobiographical book, "Soul Survivor", by the Leiningers.


According to experts, you may be comforted by the fact that all but very few of such children no longer have any such memories after the age of six or seven. However, there is every indication that some aspect of those past life memories may linger deep in one's subconscious in ways that may still affect their behavior.


So, please stay with us and consider your son's experience as the door that opened to a new reality.

 

[deborah]

Welcome Cmommy,


Are you keeping a journal? What kinds of trouble is he still experiencing that you feel needs work? If you feel your son needs further help I can help you contact Carol. Just let me know.