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ajb211

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I have two children. A 5yr old son and a 3 yr old daughter. Since my daughter started talking she has talked about her "friends" and her "other mommy". She says she misses them and looks so sad. She draws sad stick figures and says it is her mommy that misses her. At first I thought this was her way of telling me she missed me. But her stories are more often now and more detailed. She wakes at night crying saying she misses her friends. And she will seclude herself and begin crying about her missed friends. She also says she had a baby brother. She claims they lived in a black house. Her sorrow is so real.
Tonight she drew a picture of three stick figures all holding hands. When I asked her who it was, she said it is her "other mommy", her baby brother, and her. When I asked her what happened to them, she them drew circles repeatedly over them and said "the black swirly came and they fell in".
I am feeling a little freaked out, a whole lot skeptical, and so sad for her. At the same time, her innocence and sincerity is stirring questions in my heart and giving me reason to believe.
How can I help her?
 
I think she is definitely talking about a past life memory. The "black swirly" thing is probably a tornado. Have you read any books on reincarnation? You need to read Carol Bowman's books "Children's Past Lives" and "Return from Heaven". Also read "Soul Survivor" by Andrea and Bruce Leninger. Their son James remembered being a WWII pilot who was shot down in 1945. He had nightmares about it. You can reassure your daughter that it happened before she was born and she is safe now. Start keeping a journal and write everything down. You can ask her open ended questions. And welcome to the forum.
 
My first thought was that the "black swirly" was a tornado. Do you live in an area that is prone to tornadoes ? If not, tell her that "black swirlies" can't hurt her where she lives now. I wouldn't lie to her if you live in Tornado Alley!
 
Hi Ajb211,


Carol Bowman's input on the sign's of a child's true past life memory are on her webpage - her link here ------


THE FOUR SIGNS of CHILDREN’S PAST LIFE MEMORY


I would encourage you to keep a journal, you'll be glad you did in the future. Validation come in strange ways sometimes; having written what she says and draws in a safe place for future reference might help you.


Please let me know if you need assistance with anything.
 
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So my daughter still talks of her black house, her other famliy, and her other mom. When recalling a story about her mommy, I will say, "Oh, at your black house?" And she will occasionally correct me and say very matter-of-factly "No, not the black house, the white house."


Tonight she told me that the white house is hers. The black house is where her mommy lives. She also said out of blue today that her mommy lives in California.


Then this evening when I began reading a new book about a baby kangaroo, didn't even make it past the second page and she suddenly starts talking about how there is a baby in her belly. She said her mommy cut open her belly and put a baby in there and now she has a baby. When I asked her is this at your black house? She said No, at my house, the white house is mine.


When she gets into these explanations, she is serious and almost cold. When I say, "But I am your mommy. You mean me right?" She says very simply, "No, my mommy."


I try not to take it personally. But it kinda makes me sad. She loves this other mommy dearly and misses her so much. She will sometimes wake up at night crying about how she misses her mommy and misses her friends.


I just feel at such a loss to say or do the right thing. What can I do?


I don't even know what to think anymore.
 
This is not unusual behavior when they are remembering the past. Sounds like she was an adult but died at an early age. Probably within the last 100 years. Does she remember her mommy's name? Did she (your daughter) have a baby? Baby's name?
 
It sounds to me that in her last life, she lost her mother, brother, and friends in a tornado. Perhaps, she had a hard time moving on to the white house, having a baby, etc. without her mother.

ajb211 said:
I try not to take it personally.
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Please, do not. She is missing someone. Same as you can not pick one child over the other.

But it kinda makes me sad. She loves this other mommy dearly and misses her so much. She will sometimes wake up at night crying about how she misses her mommy and misses her friends.
I just feel at such a loss to say or do the right thing. What can I do?


I don't even know what to think anymore.
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You are already doing the most important thing you can for her.


Listening.


I am far from an expert, but I can tell you what I would do. I would say that I was really sorry for her loss of her mother, little brother, and friends. I would say that I believe that one day she will see each one of them again. And then I would say that I was very glad that you, my daughter, found me this time around, so we can be together right here and now, because I love you very much.
 
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