My 4 year old daughter talks about death

[terry67]

My little girl, ever since she has been able to talk has talked about death. She claims that her Mommy died when she was a baby. She also claims to talk to a friend named "konna". the first two 1/2 years of her life she would have (night terrors) screaming in her sleep like someone was killing her. We would try everything to help her but nothing worked. we would ty to talk to her about her dreams but she wouldn't remember a thing.
She is 4 years old now, she don't have the screaming fits anymore, but she still talks about her mommy dying. Her "Real" mommy has eccepted this as part of our little girl being. It has taken along time for us to come to terms with this. But we love her and hold her, and we try to make her feel as secure as we possibly can. She asks if we are going to die and leave her too. I tell her we don't plan on going anytime soon, and not to worry. But I know deep inside she still feels the loss of this women from another life time, like it was yesterday. What amazes me the most is how much she understands something that has never been explained to her, she talks with knowledge beyond her years, almost to the point that she is teaching us.

[This message has been edited by terry67 (edited 07-14-2002).]

 

[nexus]

No time to talk now, but this is EXACTLY what happened when my son was that age...I'll have to find the post where I explained the outcome. He is now 19 years old and quite independent.
I'll get back to you.
Nexus

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"I am a part of all that I have met"
Alfred Lord Tennyson

 

[nexus]

Well, I found one place I described my experience. I hope it holds some insughts for you. Also, there are so many other such posts from many in this Childrens' Past Lives topic.You should find lots.

"Dear Jill,
maybe I can help with this. Your situation is identical to one I had with my son from about the age of 3.One of the offshoots of his fear was that he would never separate from us even to go to a friend's house before the age of about 10.The thought of separation would bring panic attacks that would take us to the hospital in emergency.
Because I had read about reincarnation I felt the gentlest way to soothe him was to assure him that we would ALWAYS be together..using the theories of reincarnation. Without going into detail this made some sense to him and some of the things he said that followed were really the catalyst for the acceptance of reincarnation that I have today.
I should tell you that my son is now 18 years old.As he matured he began doing things to challenge his own fear. For instance, he would watch silly horror movies that at one time would have made him have nightmares that someone was coming to take him away. I was worried about this but what actually happened was that he eventually desensitized himself to irrational fears..eventually going the opposite way. Since he has been around 14 it has been impossible to keep track opf him.He loves being with friends and often forgets to call about where he is. He is certainly confident that I am here for him..but he retains the concept of reincarnation as his reality although he rarely shares it with his friends.So, I guess I'm trying to say that if you are sensitive and persistent to the signals your daughter is giving...keeping in mind that some children really are more likely to remember fearful things from a past life, she will likely be able to deal with it eventually herself.
For the moment, I do agree about letting her sleep beside your bed if that is possible. That is something we allowed , not pushed...,he had his separate room...and eventually this too stopped by itself.
Just as a note: I know of a child who insisted that her parents were not her parents...with great detail that checked out! about another life. She kept running away to find her real mommy. You can imagine how much strife this caused.The parents did everything in their power to persuade her she was wrong and acting foolishly.Today she is a young woman with many problems and a terrible relationship with her parents.I feel it is much more sensible to believe your child and be sensitive to the clues she gives you..despite what the world may think.if you want to help her, and you get through this.
I hope this was of some help or reassurance , at least.You are lucky to have found this forum with so many who will support you."
Nexus



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"I am a part of all that I have met"
Alfred Lord Tennyson

 

[LarryZ]

Hi and welcome to the forum

Our daughter had night terrors until five years old. She was afraid that we would sell her away. She kept screaming "Don´t sell me".
Also her plays circulated much around some kind of vagabond life, packing everything on carriage for the road and hiding a knife in her cloths "to be sure". But now she is a happy 24 years old medical student, who wants to help the poor and sick in Africa as soon as she has finished the studies. So, don´t loose your hope, just listen to your child, who speaks the truth.

Love and light

Larry

 

[terry67]

Nexus & LarryZ.

Thank you for your thoughts and insights on this subject. It is very nice to know there are other people out their that can relate to us in this matter. Children hold a special innocence at such a young age, I believe they are tuned with the spirit world in away that we as adults have a hard time understanding. Let me know your thoughts on this matter!! Thanks again for your thoughts!

Terry

 

[ksiren]

konna=criminal

I found this old thread..

I thought maybe this might help: "Konna" is a Finnish synonyme for criminal.