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My 5 year old: "When we are babies again..."

KimD

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My five year old son (my youngest) has never said anything about a previous life, but he does seem to take the idea of reincarnation for granted. While I have always been open to my children's comments on past lives (one of my daughters once said she had another mother who had "yellow hair like Ms. Laura" and my older son has made several comments about falling off a boat and drowning), we never talk about it as a something that definitely happens. By contrast, we are Roman Catholic (who quietly believe in reincarnation as a strong possibility).

Yet despite the Catholic background, my youngest son routinely speaks of God as a "she" and will say things like, "When you die, she makes you a baby again."

Most recently, I was reading or something and he came over and sat in my lap. Then he said, out of the blue, "When you get to be really, really old and die. And I get to be really old and die, and we get to be little babies again, I want to be in your family again." I was so touched. I told him I wanted to be in his family too, that I loved him.

I am fascinated at how he just seems to take it for granted that this is what happens when we die. I wonder how he "knows" this?

Kim
 
Hi Kim,

Thank you for sharing about your son!

...my youngest son routinely speaks of God as a "she" and will say things like, "When you die, she makes you a baby again."

That gave me the biggest grin. :laugh:

Your son sounds like a special little boy. He's lucky that you're aware and listening to what he says...and it's great that you've had those experiences with your other kids, too!

I want to be in your family again.

That's so sweet! :) Obviously you're a great mom, and your son recognizes and appreciates that! :thumbsup:


Please keep us posted!

Ailish :D
 
At the time, I wasn't sure how to ask him...

I didn't think fast enough when he said this and I didn't want to say the wrong thing--so I didn't ask him any questions. What questions should I ask? Maybe if there is a next time, I can be better prepared.

Kim
 
Hi Kim,
When I can't think of what to say (which is pretty much every time my son starts talking about this), I always resort to a few basic questions.
"Then what happened?'
'How did you feel about that?'
Usually I just listen but I use my 'mommy eye' to determine if there is more that he needs to say. If I think there is, I might say something like. 'This is really interesting, I'd sure like to hear more.'
My son is really resistant to any direct questions and I don't have a huge desire to know all of the intricate details of his memories unless it seems necessary for his emotional health to either get them out to deal with them or to just be heard by someone.
Vicky
 
Hi Kim,

Vicky gave you some great suggestions.

I just wanted to share this link with you in case you haven't read it: [thread=3119]How do I talk with my child when she talks about her Past Life?[/thread]


Ailish
 
Thanks to you both...

He rarely speaks of this, but I will try to ask him an open-ended question when (if) he decides to talk of it again. He is a talkative little boy and amid all of his blow-by-blow discussions of super heroes, he will just make a statement about God and death/reincarnation and take me completely off guard. Then he runs off. :-)

My husband really gets a kick out of hearing him refer to God in the feminine. Every so often, he will ask him an open-ended question just to hear him. Just the other day, my husband asked him, "So, tell me about God," and my son said, "I don't have anything to say about Her." :-) My husband winked at me, but otherwise, we don't say anything to distort or ruin this unique view of God.

Thanks for your kind responses.

Kim
 
he will just make a statement about God and death/reincarnation and take me completely off guard. Then he runs off. :-)

Kids seem to have a way of doing that. ;) Funny, endearing little creatures!

I thought it was really cute how your son refers to God as female, too :D

Please let us know how it goes with the open-ended questions!

Ailish
 
I've always been very curious about this subject but now even more so since my daughter was born.

First of all, when she was just a few months old, I laid her down on our couch and tried to make her smile. She did smile but she wasn't looking at me. She kept staring at a fake tree that was behind me and to my left. I thought since she was just an infant maybe her eyesight wasn't all that great. I tried to get her to look at me by making noises and snapping my fingers and clapping my hands. She turned her head and looked right at me, really focused her eyes on me. But apparently, I wasn't as fun as her friend in the tree and she looked back at it. I dismissed it, but always kept in the back of my mind.

Then, when she was about 4 years, she started asking me if she was an old lady before she was born. Or this, "When I get really old and die, will I become a baby again?" She became a little obsessed about death and dying. But not anything gruesome. She liked talking about gravestones and graveyards. She wanted to know what her stone would look like one day. I always thought she was a very funny and imaginative little girl. I wish I had listened to her stories more closely now.

She is 8 years now and rarely talks about being an old lady before she was born.

So what do you think? Do you think I am the one with the overactive imagination? Or was she really trying to remember something?

Anything anyone has to say about this will be welcomed!
 
Hi MoCaLattena,

Welcome to the forum. :)

she started asking me if she was an old lady before she was born

It sounds like your daughter was possibly having glimpses of her previous life -- and considering her fascination with death and graveyards at the time, perhaps she remembered her own death as "an old lady", and was looking to understand how she went from being an old lady to being a little girl.

It doesn't seem as if she was looking to resolve anything -- it sounds like she was more curious about it that anything. :)

It's great that she can be open with you about it now, even if she doesn't speak about being the old woman any longer.


Ailish
 
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