my son

[raven_22]

hello everyone.

this has to do with my son. he is 4 years old, and has a very vivid imagination. now the thing is, that he is always telling me that his son is grown up. this isn't a rare occurance, this happens atleast twice a day. i believe completely that children also can remember parts of lives they have onced lived, the only thing is that since he does have such a vivid imagination that i'm not sure if it's just that or a memory from a past life. something tells me it's the latter, but i'm not sure. i would appreciate any input on this.

love to all

raven

 

[Galadriel]

I'd bet that he's remembering, try asking him questions about his son when he tells you that he's grown up. You could start with what does he do? or where does he live now?

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Galadriel aka Megan.

 

[raven_22]

Well I do ask him about his son but he just keeps saying the same thing "My son is all grown up" That's why I'm not too sure..


Raven

 

[Galadriel]

Don't worry about it. My son did/does the same thing. He used to insist that he lived with his grandma, and every time he'd get into trouble, he'd want to go home to her house. In the 3 years he'd talk about it, we never managed to pry more than the fact that her house wasn't red (like the one we live in now), and that she lived on Washington st (the last bit of information he gave us before he stopped talking about it.) And we only found out one of those tidbits because after a long day we had a bit of a car ride home, and when we got there he got hysterical saying this wasn't his house, he wanted to go home. We tried explaining that this was where he lived and one of us said something about the street name he responded with I don't live on ________ I live on WASHINGTON st with my grandma!!! (We live in Canada, there aren't a whole lot of Washington streets around here. he was 31/2)

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Galadriel aka Megan.

There is no such thing as too many books. Too few bookcases can become a problem, however.

 

[journey33]

raven_22

Not sure if you have ever read Carol Bowmans book but in it it talks about how to tell the difference. Kids speaking from their imagination use wild emotional, words and actions to describe things... kids who speak of pastlives, do so in a matter of fact tone, kind of squinting their eyes thinking, trying to remember, or just tell you in amatter of fact tone, like we should already know that.

Hope that helps.
Jodie

 

[Elisabeth]

Hi, Raven,

I helped to raise a child who was extremely articulate from almost the time before she could walk. She had a very matter-of-fact, practical way of talking and it never seemed to occur to her to "embroider" a subject. If she had been on Dragnet, she would have been the detective who said, "Just the facts, ma'am." LOL
At any rate, when she was about 3, she started to talk about her "other mommy and daddy" and would discuss their house which was nothing like the one she really lived in. We just listened and asked a few questions and never made a big deal out of it and neither did she.
The strangest thing she ever said, though, was when she would lament the fact that she had "such ugly green eyes." She positively detested green eyes to the point where she wouldn't even take a doll with that color eyes. She informed us repeatedly that she had "green eyes just like (her) daddy." Now, I had better tell you that she had no trouble in discerning colors and could name them all correctly in two languages. It did us no good to tell her that she had definite blue eyes and got them from her father who also had blue eyes - the child would have none of that.
The whole phase passed within a year or a little more. She ceased to mention her "other" parents and home and though I never noticed, I am sure she came to accept the color green, LOL.
But there is one odd side note: over the next few years, gradually, her eyes took on the loveliest greenish tint so that by the age of ten, she had blue-green eyes that looked for all the world like colored contacts.
I think you are doing the right thing by talking to your son whenever he feels like bringing up this possible past life as if it were normal conversation. That way, he won't get self-conscious about it and he will retain anything that he feels is of value to him and forget what he chooses to forget.
Elisabeth