Never put to rest

[RestlessSoul]

So I already know I have plenty of healing to go through with my many past lives. In every one the love of my life was killed or I died in a horrific manner. Sheesh, couldn't I just have died peacefully? Anyhow, one in particular is bugging me right now. I've known about it over a year but for some reason it's popped up again.

In that life I died as my car spun out of control on an icy road across a dock, and into a lake or bay of some sort. I was killed instantly as the car hit the water (it was the 70's and my station wagon had no airbags of course). My 3 yo son however drowned in the back seat because I obviously wasn't alive to save him. It was late at night and no one saw the car hit the water. My wife died alone of an illness while I was out driving so there was no one to report me missing. I and my son were never found.

I searched online for at while trying to find similar reported deaths till I eventually realized I wouldn't find anything since to t he world I was considered nothing more than a missing person. It bothers me that I was never mourned and that neither I nor my son were buried. I of course have a crazy unrealistic fear of being trapped in a sinking car under water and especially of not being able to get my children out safe. I'm not even the same gender as that life. I'm lucky to have found my wife from that life, she's not that same gender either, our roles are reversed. I'm just trying to figure out how to cope with that death especially knowing I was never found. Doesn't every person who has died want to be found and be properly laid to rest?

I'd go to a past life regression therapist but there's no way I can afford such a thing. I guess I'm just asking how to move on from this?

 

[Mere Dreamer]

You could try symbolically burying your past self. Gather things that remind you of your past self or the way you died (maybe a toy car of similar design? a photo of a child that reminds you of your son? a note with the lesson you learned from that life?). Put them in a box and either burn them or bury them with a meditation thanking that part of you for existing.


That might give your subconscious the closure it needs to move on.

 

[ChrisR]

Welcome to the forum


I had similar feelings about one of my past lives where I was swept away and buried under ash in a volcanic eruption. There were only two of us, me and my father, we got separated and nobody would have known we were there or where to find us. It bothered me in my present life that she still lays there, buried where she stood, her 'grave' unmarked, never to be found. So in this life, with my memories of her, and the information I gathered while I researched her life, I decided to make a website as a tribute to her. I found it very therapeutic, sometimes it felt like her words were flowing out of me and she/I was very happy with the end result. To me, that website is now her headstone; people can visit, stay for a while, leave comments, and hopefully walk away with a picture in their minds of the tragic young girl and her father lost without a trace, it's a settling thought and perhaps something similar could work for you?