Old Habits Die Hard

[aqualeo]

I notice that when I talk about past life stuff on here or on the discord server, I keep having to stop myself from saying "we" where every "I" should be. ugh, come ooon, I told y'all I'm trying to become An Individual in this life, instead of just being The Marcus Brothers (why must that sound so Mario-esque) as a unit, and yet I cannot stop saying "we" haha...back in the heyday we were the epitome of the We Irritating meme. no, for real, people at school were very frequently irritated with us (I guess we were rude or something. gemini squared, what can I say), to the point that it may have been part of why they decided to send one of us across the country for medical residency. the We Irritating-ness sure continues, since I can scarcely speak in the singular when discussing the past :"-) sometimes it makes more sense to use the plural, but I think using the singular more is surely a healthy practice lol. not that I don't in my day-to-day speech

do you think you have any habits that remind you of your past life behavior?

 

[cloud potato]

not sure about bad habits from a past life, but i see in this life i have addictive personality behavior. it also seems to run in the family which has given me pause for reflection. do we choose the families we're born into, or is there something spiritual to it? i mean, these bodies contain a wealth of knowledge- living libraries, not only can we share near identical physical features, we can also share psychological behaviors. i am learning a lot about that energy, and how to redirect it or assist in its change.

it seems you're doing the same in this life? recognizing behaviors or patterns in your self that you'd like to change?

my mother would do the we thing and it makes me smile lol. she'd say things to me growing up like, "did we take out the trash?"

i'd say, "i took out the trash." sometimes jokingly saying, "i can't speak for you but i know i did so and so"
hah.

mom and my boss do it, and i find myself doing it sometimes when i am training new employees. must be a part of the "team-oriented" mind. expectations and communicating in a way to indicate shared responsibilities.

used to bother the heck out of me. now that i'm older i seem to mind less. it isn't so much about forcing others to adopt to the way i view the world, i would never admit i was doing that as a youth(even if unintentional) i see i tried strong arming my mom into speaking to me, "the correct way."

poor momma. god bless her soul. i see kids do this with their parents and with each other. some carry it into their adult years and it becomes pretty obnoxious.

i have learned to curb a lot of my appetites for the better. whether my perception has changed, or the action. a rearranging of, "mental furniture."

i once read you can't kill a bad habit but you can replace it for a healthier one. this seems to help me in my journey. like saying you are an alcoholic but realizing that novelty seeking behavior exist even after you've quit alcohol.

i can't preach it because i don't practice it everyday, but meditation has really helped me even when i find my childish mind in complete rebellion towards the thought.

best of luck
we got this!
i mean,

you got this

oh and of course, a hearty welcome to the forums!
~CP

 

[fireflydancing]

In this life i have addictive personality behavior. it also seems to run in the family

Are you familiar with AD(H)D? Addictive personality behavior is part of the package and it's highly hereditary (ADHD).

 

[cloud potato]

Yup. Mom thinks Dad has ADD and my Sister and I were both diagnosed ADHD- I was fortunate not to go the route of medicine(IMO).

 

[aqualeo]

not sure about bad habits from a past life, but i see in this life i have addictive personality behavior. it also seems to run in the family which has given me pause for reflection. do we choose the families we're born into, or is there something spiritual to it? i mean, these bodies contain a wealth of knowledge- living libraries, not only can we share near identical physical features, we can also share psychological behaviors. i am learning a lot about that energy, and how to redirect it or assist in its change.

it seems you're doing the same in this life? recognizing behaviors or patterns in your self that you'd like to change?

my mother would do the we thing and it makes me smile lol. she'd say things to me growing up like, "did we take out the trash?"

i'd say, "i took out the trash." sometimes jokingly saying, "i can't speak for you but i know i did so and so"
hah.

mom and my boss do it, and i find myself doing it sometimes when i am training new employees. must be a part of the "team-oriented" mind. expectations and communicating in a way to indicate shared responsibilities.

used to bother the heck out of me. now that i'm older i seem to mind less. it isn't so much about forcing others to adopt to the way i view the world, i would never admit i was doing that as a youth(even if unintentional) i see i tried strong arming my mom into speaking to me, "the correct way."

poor momma. god bless her soul. i see kids do this with their parents and with each other. some carry it into their adult years and it becomes pretty obnoxious.

i have learned to curb a lot of my appetites for the better. whether my perception has changed, or the action. a rearranging of, "mental furniture."

i once read you can't kill a bad habit but you can replace it for a healthier one. this seems to help me in my journey. like saying you are an alcoholic but realizing that novelty seeking behavior exist even after you've quit alcohol.

i can't preach it because i don't practice it everyday, but meditation has really helped me even when i find my childish mind in complete rebellion towards the thought.

best of luck
we got this!
i mean,

you got this

oh and of course, a hearty welcome to the forums!
~CP

Haha yeah we got this :-} thanks for the welcome, too!

and yes im always connecting new dots between now and before, and trying to avoid the same pitfalls. like, for example, i'm really messy by nature. i look classy on the outside, but honestly i don't care at all about clutter. outside of intellectual pursuits, i have no intrinsic motivation to Get It Together, and rely on the expectations of others to push me. when i lived alone at 18, my apartment was....wretched. i think a good way to describe my behavior is that enneagram thing of instinctual variants: im totally sx dominant, and pretty "sp-blind."

as it turns out, in my PL, my brother and i were majorly neglecting our physical space at the end of our lives. when we had to be apart more for work reasons, our respective apartments fell into identical chaos...apparently i've been doing the thing that aggravates my mom so much for a long time: just blindly stepping over piles of clothes for months without moving them, etc. after finding out about my past life, though, i've started cleaning whenever i remember the state of my brother's apartment, where we died. it was bad enough that we got mocked in the papers for being so secretly trashy despite being all about designer clothing when we would exit home.

so it's definitely motivating for self improvement! i relate a ton to what you're saying about the addictive personality. our whole personalities back then were a bundle of addiction, the hospital wanted us to go to rehab but we were too ashamed, i guess. stigma was stronger back then. nowadays, i channel my sort of one track mind purely into things like research, so i agree that substitution is one way to go about things!