One of my identical twins talks of past life

[Rabbit]

I have identical twin boys. One of them at age 4 (he is now 5) told me that "when I was a girl I had long curly hair". My sons developed language late because they used a "twin-talk" language. They started speech therapy at 3 1/2. The son that remembers a past life had mostly talked in the twin talk. He still has an accent but I can't pinpoint what it is. He was and is very sensitive to sound (children crying & loud school bells). Once at preschool a child was crying and having a fit and the teacher told me that he attempted to climb the bookshelf to get away from the sound. The teacher took him out of the class and held him until he calmed down. My other children do not claim to have any past life remembrances. His identical twin brother watches over him. When the twins were born my husband and I had the feeling that he felt that he was not wanted since he was the second one born. (My husband doesn't have any special spiritual sense and is very skeptical yet he (my husband) did feel that
my son felt he wasn't wanted. We had to do a lot of extra cuddling with him and prayed to ease his concerns. I just bought "Children's Past Lives" today. I am near the end of my masters in Counseling and I'm thinking that past life regression is something I may want to study. I am new at this and wondering what to do with my son. This is all new.

 

[KimD]

As a mother of identical twins myself, I wanted to respond to your post, even though I'm not sure I'll be of any help. I have identical twin girls who are 18 months old. I completely understand how you feel about the second born feeling "not wanted." I was lucky enough to discover I was having twins when they were only 7 weeks in utero and while my initial reaction was, "Oh Sh*&T!" we had plenty of time to adjust. I felt bad about my initial reaction and spent most of my pregnancy talking to them and telling them that I loved them both, etc. I've spent some time talking with other mothers of twins and discovered that many second-born twins are fussier, etc. than the first born. One reason for that might be that their births are often more difficult, etc. I would try not to worry too much about it. Your son knows he's loved.

I haven't had any obvious past-life experiences with any of my kids yet (other than my newborn son seeming to recognize my mother-in-law, but event that isn't cut and dry), but I think if it does happen, I will listen and talk to them about it in a way that shows I am interested, I care, and I want them to feel they can communicate it with me the way they communicate anything. But I won't over-dwell on it unless it's something very disturbing. I think it can be scary for a kid to delve into such memories too often, or be pressed into it. That's just my feelings, though.

Sometimes I do feel things about my kids. For example, my firstborn twin was smaller than her sister at birth and arrived very bruised, etc., on her head from her placement in the womb. She has always seemed more "delicate" of the two, even though she's actually the more bossy one. Even though they are identical twins (we had a DNA test to find out), her face is very delicate looking with huge eyes. She always seems deep in thought. And, strange enough, she seems to have some affinity for Barbie dolls. I know, that doesn't sound like a big deal, but our kids have TONS of toys and none of them interest her more than Barbies. We practically own Toys 'R Us (my oldest child is five, then a 3 year old, then the twins, then a newborn, so we have a lot of small children's toys). But when my 5-yo received a Barbie for her birthday, my then 13-month old Caroline went NUTS. She toddled over to it and carried the box around for half a day, methodically trying to convince someone to open it for her. Then, a few weeks later, I took the crew to Toys 'R Us to buy a gift for a friend, when we went down the Barbie aisle, Caroline practically flew out of the shopping cart, screeching for a Barbie. It was like she recognized the pink boxes, even though she'd never had an experience with Barbie before her older sister's birthday. Maybe she just liked the package, but then, why didn't her sister go nuts as well? It was like she knew what it was and wanted it.

I will post more in a second.

She is also extremely loving and

 

[KimD]

Okay, I'm back (AOL logs me off if I type too long)

Anyway, it's unusual for Caroline to demand things like that (or at least it was then), but she flipped out over the Barbie aisle, of all things (and none of my other kids could care less, for the most part).

Anyway, as I said earlier, if my kids ever say something about a past life, I will listen and talk to them about it, but I don't want to scare them or confuse them in this life.

Kim

 

[Rabbit]

Well, thanks for your post. My son hasn't talked much more about a past life. But he does like to wear my daughters clothes and wear my shoes with heels! I didn't find out until I was 5 1/2 months pregnant! He was the second child born and was born breech (yes, natural child birth!) The first twin is the boss and can have a temper. So, for right now I'm just leaving things be. I did show him the book and told him that a lot of kids remember a past life. He also seems like and wishes that he was the only child. We talk about this a lot. Well, I got to go now and make dinner. Thanks for posting.